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Old 07-20-2009, 12:33 PM
 
Location: lala land
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I thought of this thread after reading another on here. I've dated guys without ambition before, and being that I am the opposite, I never could understand why someone would not want to try harder in their life. After going through some very frustrating dating situations with guys like this, I could never go through it again.

So the question is, have you ever dated someone like this? How did you deal with it, and what did you learn from it?
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:37 PM
 
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Default one might describe me

as not ambitious. in fact see the prior post i just posted something similar
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:42 PM
 
Location: lala land
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as not ambitious. in fact see the prior post i just posted something similar
If you know you are like that, than why don't you try to change? Doesn't it bother you that you are not really striving for anything?
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:44 PM
 
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No. Whenever I've met guys that lacked ambition, whatever attraction there may have been disappeared--Pronto!
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:46 PM
 
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The guy had good "game"...That is all...
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:48 PM
 
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Default Have You Ever Dated Someone With No Ambition?

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So the question is, have you ever dated someone like this?
There is no such person. If nothing else, some men have the ambition to marry 5 times and divorce 4 times. They want variety and financial "support".
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:48 PM
 
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Default don't get me wrong

i have a full time job, am independent and have been for 18 years, but i don't want to be doing this job/career indefinitely, i am not thrilled with my job/career but i feel stuck and yet there's no dream i have really.

maybe i'm just being too self critical here
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:49 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh's 'EAST SIDE'
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So the question is, have you ever dated someone like this?

Yes and on top of that, he was a weed head, so that made him even more lazy.

How did you deal with it, and what did you learn from it?

I liked him so I just dealt with it. Despite his lack of ambition, we had great chemistry and a lot in common. It was a 3 year off and on again relationship, but I eventually got tired once I saw how content he was in his current living arrangement and job. He just didn't seem like he wanted to better himself. He was content. Plus he didn't really act like he wanted to take our relationship to a higher level, so I had to finally give him the deuces... We're still cool with one another, til' this day, though, and what I've learned from the experience is that you shouldn't feel like you have to 'settle' just because you're afraid of being alone.
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Orlando
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Before my hubby I did date someone like this. He worked enough to pay his rent and buy his pot.

I knew I wouldn't be happy with that kind of life so I said goodbye to him as a future husband and said hello to him as a friend.

It ended up being the best decision for the both of us.
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:54 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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YES. I dated a guy for a while whose main ambition in life was to be the biggest and best weed dealer there was. He was cute, sweet and it was my fault for falling for it.

When I found out he had a full ride scholarship to a nearby university, but dropped out to sell weed, it was over. My current boyfriend may not have the best job, or a college degree (yet), but he has a ridiculous amount of ambition to get it all done
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