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It's funny because when someone here mentioned it, I googled it to see if maybe there is something more I need to ask my husband about.
I actually found that aside from a Planned Parenthood-style clinic abortion, the procedure at a hospital here in Montana (if performed after 10 weeks) costs around $1000. I would speculate that she did not go to her hometown clinic to have it done and probably added in travel costs.
Jenni, no advice here. Just a *HUGE HUG* you sound like you are handling this maturely. Are you a christian or involved in church? If so, pray and ask God what to do.
If not, then just wait and when the time is right you will know.
I'm not really religious, though I do believe in G-d. I have faith that somehow I will figure out what is best for me and my family.
Thanks for all the thoughts and well wishes everyone. Even though this is a public board and we don't know each other from Adam, it does help a lot to be able to get it out.
So, I guess what I wanted to know from those of you out there that are happily married (as I thought I was)... was I completely wrong about my husband all these years, or should I forgive this because it was a stupid, stupid mistake that won't happen again? If you were in my shoes, would you try to repair this or just move on?
He's a pretty good liar if you really didn't notice anything amiss. Pretty good at masking his feelings, too.
How old are your kids?
How long have you been married?
Do you have a job?
How can you ever, ever trust him again?
I could never stay with a husband who cheated.
Sorry for your blind-sided, round house punch. What a terrible predicament for you.
Btw, do you have access to his email account, what he has been doing on the computer? I'd start sniffing around.
He's a pretty good liar if you really didn't notice anything amiss. Pretty good at masking his feelings, too.
How old are your kids? 9, 3 1/2, and 2.
How long have you been married? Almost ten years.
Do you have a job? No, I am a SAHM. I do have a teaching degree, though I would have to move to another town to get a job. I was considering substitute teaching this year just to get out of the house.
How can you ever, ever trust him again? That is the million dollar question. I am going to wait until my head is clear and my hormones settled after these twins are born before I answer that.
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Originally Posted by sanrene
I could never stay with a husband who cheated.
Sorry for your blind-sided, round house punch. What a terrible predicament for you.
Btw, do you have access to his email account, what he has been doing on the computer? I start sniffing around.
I do have access to his email and Facebook. I haven't peeked into them because, frankly, I want to keep what sanity I have left for the next few weeks. If he really does want to make things right and I feel I need to read them, I will tell him so. Just not right now.
You might find other things he's not telling you. I hope you don't, but if he found it this easy to cheat on you and give no indication that anything was wrong (like feeling guilty) with a wife and three young children as sacrifices to his betrayal......
The biggest thing here is communication, and I see it not happening anywhere.
First step is to demand that you talk to the woman and give your two cents, you being pregnant or not pregnant.
Second step is to talk to your husband and figure out why he cheated on you. He sounds like a lying SOB, I agree that there is a pattern here. Ask him what drove him to cheat on you AND his family. Such a person is not a man in my book, he's scum. Ask him if he'd be happy by himself without the kids. Give him some hard love and tell him that you love him but you won't hesitate to do what you think is right for yourself.
Or he could be a nice guy who made a mistake. He is your husband, and only you know him as such.
At any rate, my sympathy to you.
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Keep your chin up Jenni!
