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Its sad alright. If people actually met/socialized and dated in the real world, they would have got the full body shot and this wouldnt be an issue.
True. But at least in the real world you would actually get to know someone for more than two seconds before writing them off. Online, I am more likely to judge someone by their looks/body. But in the real world, I don't think I'd be nearly so harsh. I know from experience that personality plays a much bigger role. So why not get to know someone before you judge them based on looks? Even if its online. Makes sense to me.
Is this what dating has come to? How sad. Personally, I agree with the OP, I think its rude. At least get to know me first before you ask to size me up by my body! Gah ... some people .
Say what? In "traditional" dating, you don't spend the first several dates with a blindfold on. No, you actually SEE what the person looks like! So why is it different to want to SEE what they look like online before meeting them? If they aren't attractive to you, or vice versa, it's a waste of their time and yours.
Say what? In "traditional" dating, you don't spend the first several dates with a blindfold on. No, you actually SEE what the person looks like! So why is it different to want to SEE what they look like online before meeting them? If they aren't attractive to you, or vice versa, it's a waste of their time and yours.
I totally agree. Sad thing is, most of the women who resort to online dating have bodies that they would rather men NOT see.
Is this what dating has come to? How sad. Personally, I agree with the OP, I think its rude. At least get to know me first before you ask to size me up by my body! Gah ... some people .
What's sad is how sensitive people are online. If I met someone at a bar, she'd see all of me. But if I'm online, why should I hide stuff that they'd see if we met in person?
Say what? In "traditional" dating, you don't spend the first several dates with a blindfold on. No, you actually SEE what the person looks like! So why is it different to want to SEE what they look like online before meeting them? If they aren't attractive to you, or vice versa, it's a waste of their time and yours.
Most guys that I've really fallen for started out as friends. I knew them for months, sometimes years, before I started dating them. I have to get to know someone first. That's just me. Now of course I know its unrealistic to allow that kind of time for online dating, but I still think personality is the most important thing. Unless you just want a booty call with no substance!
Not saying I'm not superficial! If anything I have realized lately that I'm more superficial than I would like to admit.
[quote]True. But at least in the real world you would actually get to know someone for more than two seconds before writing them off. Online, I am more likely to judge someone by their looks/body. But in the real world, I don't think I'd be nearly so harsh. I know from experience that personality plays a much bigger role. So why not get to know someone before you judge them based on looks? Even if its online. Makes sense to me.[/QUOTE]
Often in the real world people harshly judge others based on looks. If they dont like your look they would not approach your or engage in conversation to begin with.
Yes that does make sense, but I would think rarely happens.
What's sad is how sensitive people are online. If I met someone at a bar, she'd see all of me. But if I'm online, why should I hide stuff that they'd see if we met in person?
I'm not saying you should hide anything. But wouldn't you want someone to like you for you, and not your body? Am I alone in this? I don't have anything to hide in terms of my body, but I don't want to be judged by that. And I don't want to do the same thing to someone else either.
True. But at least in the real world you would actually get to know someone for more than two seconds before writing them off. Online, I am more likely to judge someone by their looks/body. But in the real world, I don't think I'd be nearly so harsh. I know from experience that personality plays a much bigger role. So why not get to know someone before you judge them based on looks? Even if its online. Makes sense to me.[/QUOTE]
Often in the real world people harshly judge others based on looks. If they dont like your look they would not approach your or engage in conversation to begin with.
Yes that does make sense, but I would think rarely happens.
I would rather have someone who matches me as far as personality and may not be conventionally good looking, than someone who is good looking and who bores me. And I'm not just saying that.
Can I be superficial? Of course, I'm human. But I'm looking for a guy that I can be happy with, not someone just to stare at.
Listen, I met a guy on match.com that only sent me a head and shoulder shot where he looked normal and then when I met him in person he had an abnormally obese hips and rear-end! I could not believe it, I have never seen anything like it. Ever since then I ask for a full body pic. I've had other men hide the fact that they are wheelchair bound. Furthermore, men constantly ask me for full-length photos. So get over yourself please!
I totally agree. Sad thing is, most of the women who resort to online dating have bodies that they would rather men NOT see.
That's right! Cause we're all nasty trolls. I snagged my man before anybody else could. Poor guy never saw it coming.
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I snagged my man before anybody else could. Poor guy never saw it coming. 
