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Old 07-21-2009, 12:57 AM
 
Location: The Mango Tree
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Ya know, I hate to admit this but when I read your post, I laughed. Trust me, I wasn't laughing at you, but man, when I was 18 I was in the exact same situation. I'd been on dates and all that, but nothing like you would ever call a "relationship". I can remember all the hell I went through during those times..

Anyway, back to the point. I'm 5'6, fat, bald, and ugly.. Ok, maybe not all that, but I am 5'6, just an average looking guy, nothing special. Still, I have no problem with meeting women. I'll tell ya what I learned, and hopefully it'll help ya out a bit.

First things first, I know you said you're a little shy - nothing wrong with that, when I was 18 I was the same - but for me that was the first place I started. You have to build up your confidence. I think that confidence matters more than anything else. I had a good buddy of mine that was ugly - and when I say ugly I mean it, he was the type that would wiggle his one green tooth just to irritate people. Still, he was a heck of a guy. Something I couldn't figure out was how he always had a different chick with him every time I saw him. I finally figured it out, he had more confidence than anyone I've ever met. Anyway, that's something you have to build within yourself. The easiest way I found to build confidence is just to talk to people. Every time you go to a store and there's a girl at the counter, flirt with her a little. Tease her some like you would your buddies.. Notice: I didn't say harass, I said tease, in a playful way. At first, it's hard to do simply because you're nervous and don't know what to say. As time goes on, you'll become more and more confident, and you'll find yourself talking to everyone. For me, I had to force myself to do it, but when I realized it wasn't so bad, well, it was just me being me without all the intimidation.

Learn how to make women laugh. I don't mean by telling them a corny knock knock joke or something like that, I mean don't be afraid to be yourself and make jokes. When people see that kind of confidence, and find themselves smiling every time your around, height doesn't matter anymore.

Second biggest thing is this: Make a change in yourself. You'll be surprised how new clothes and a different haircut can make someone feel. Forget about height and start focusing on yourself. You are who you are, and nobody can change that. The only thing that I see with you is that you know who you are, but you're not confident enough to be that person. We can offer advice all day, but until you decide to make a change in yourself, none of the advice will help any at all.

It took me close to three years to get over being shy. You'll be fine, just don't get discouraged and above all else, man, just be yourself.

I wish ya the best bro..
Funny and informative!!
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Old 07-21-2009, 06:26 AM
 
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You'll be fine!!!! Just keep at it!!! Any girl worth dating won't care about your height (or perhaps lack there of). I'm 5'4" and my boyfriend is exactly the same height as me (although I'm sure he would say he is an inch or two taller than me, I totally disagree lol). Not all girls are as shallow as the ones you asked out. Don't worry so much about it! You're 18!! Just get back out there and ask again!!
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Old 07-21-2009, 09:48 AM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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You're kidding, right?
No I'm not. Do "you" have an issue with height? If I had had an issue with height...I wouldn't be married to the lovely Mrs Rance (who happens to be 4" taller than me) right now.
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Old 07-21-2009, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Long Island
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Basically, I'm really fed up with being short. I'm 18, around 5 foot 6 or 5 foot 7, and I have never been in a relationship before. These last 3 years, I finally gained the courage to actually ask out a girl (this is a huge step for me because I'm a little shy), but the two girls I asked out said that I was too short for them. The most annoying part, they weren't even tall! They were 5 foot 4 and 5 foot 1! I really don't get what I'm supposed to do. I can understand girls taller than me not wanting to go out, but I can't even date short girls now? UGH! I hate being Indian sometimes!
These people only care about appearances. You shouldn't get discouraged. You will find the person when the time is right. My bf is only like 5'8. I could really care less. I don't date people because of their height I look at what is on the inside and you will find her soon enough.
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Old 07-21-2009, 10:29 AM
 
Location: Omaha
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I am 6'1 and i feel short*


*my dad is 6'6, my brother is 6'5, all my male cousins on dads side are over 6'5 and chicks are all 5'8+

my mom is 5'4 and all my cousins on that side are short

i guess i got stuck in between
I know what you mean. I'm 6'0" and I'm the shortest out of just about all of my friends.

Not that I care, but it deos make you feel shorter...
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Old 07-21-2009, 10:38 AM
 
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Yep - it's the confidence women see and react to - didn't I just say that?? Hope he hears what you and I have both told him
Yeah.. I guess ya did. Excellent advice you gave there, so good I think I just had to copy it. LOL I didn't read all of the replies before I posted, usually do, but well... either way, excellent advice.. You know what they say about great minds and all that.
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Old 07-21-2009, 11:10 AM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I saw this segment on NatGeo Taboo about people in Japan who go in for an operation where they have their legs broken and then have something inserted between the bones to lengthen the legs, thus making themselves taller. That's always an option. Gross - but an option, nonetheless.
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Old 07-21-2009, 12:13 PM
 
Location: Some place very cold
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Basically, I'm really fed up with being short. I'm 18, around 5 foot 6 or 5 foot 7, and I have never been in a relationship before. These last 3 years, I finally gained the courage to actually ask out a girl (this is a huge step for me because I'm a little shy), but the two girls I asked out said that I was too short for them. The most annoying part, they weren't even tall! They were 5 foot 4 and 5 foot 1! I really don't get what I'm supposed to do. I can understand girls taller than me not wanting to go out, but I can't even date short girls now? UGH! I hate being Indian sometimes!
My last boyfriend was 5 foot, 7 inches and about 145 pounds, a very small man. I had no problems with it. He was in great shape.

Nothing you can do about your height, so forget about it!
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Old 07-21-2009, 12:19 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Studies show the taller you are, the shorter you live. All kinds of medical conditions arise after 6'3. I'll find the link, it has been months. So, it seems the holy grail is between 5'10 - 6'1 or so, which puts the majority of people right into a good height bracket. Ever seen old tall people? No!

Jumpman, you're in good company.

Another study:

"Many studies have found a positive correlation between cancer, rapidgrowth, and height.2For example, Albanes reported that rapid growth during adolescence is tied toincreased cancer risk in adulthood, with a 3- to 4-mm increment in leg lengthabove average resulting in an 80% higher risk in nonsmoking-related cancer,based on a 50-yearfollow-up.15 Hebertet al also found that taller US physicians (183 cm [6 ft] or more) had ahigher cancer rate than shorter ones (170 cm [5 ft 7 in] ormore).""
http://www.pubmedcentral.nih.gov/art...?artid=1071721
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Old 07-21-2009, 12:43 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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5'7" is barely shorter than average for men. I'm just over 5'8", and it's never bothered me until recently when I've needed more height for my weight.

A diet would make perfect sense;
I surely would be smaller.
But, checking out the height-weight charts,
I'd just as soon be taller.
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