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Old 12-15-2009, 07:02 AM
 
Location: Saudi Arabia
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hey dude im an indian 27 yrs old 5'8inches tall.. my case is quite similar to yours ..i got engaged to a girl an inch shorter than me .. and i once told her i'd like to date taller girls..she found it ridiculous..now we've parted ..thats another story .. well what im trying to say is that she was the 1st i thought to be the only one ..apart from the height theres a lot other thngs that mattered to both of us .. however our sexual life was quite awesome .. all u need is confidence to carry yourself despite that short stature .. sometimes i wore flat shoes yet i walked tall with a correct posture .. and yes i do weight lifting .. dude if u gotta date a girl ..more than thinking about your height its better u learn the techniques of expressions .. use all your organs to your advantage lol ..believe me it works ! ..sounds funny but it works for me .. pamper yourself best suits your style .. walk like a soldier ..act clumsy .. and when u see the girl smile ..walk upto her like a gentleman and simply smile back with a twinkle in your eye .. introduce yourself and then work the chemistry by telling her what u feel about her ..compliment her about anything u see appealing be honest ..and make sure to choose the right words.. do some R&D about what girls like to hear the most .. before hand .. get in the act dude .. most importantly dont ACT smart ! .. be cool ..relaxed and confident ! ..if she aint interested or in a bad mood ..dont push it ..just make her feel comfortable by your presence .. make her feel she wants u .. and u can do that by simply being yourself .. oh boy ! am i trying to Hitch u hehe ..man i cant guarantee ..but just have a good sense of humour ..girls like witty guys who know where they come from ..so respect her views and opinions .. dont nod your head even if shes wrong ..explain things to her politely .. eye to eye .. make sure u dont look down .. take a shot behind her and smile even if theres nobody around .. see what she does .. man i can go on and on .. just handle the situation with care and use your instincts .. wish u good luck ! hehe
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Old 12-15-2009, 07:06 AM
 
Location: Corydon, IN
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Bite your tongue! You should be PROUD of your heritage and who you are - the more you mature the more you'll realize that.

Being shorter in height will only be a problem for you if YOU make it a problem. Perhaps you don't know that Tom Cruise is himself on 5'7"? Does HE look like he's had any trouble attracting women?

Here's a secret you would do well to learn - confident men are very sexy to women. In fact, women are drawn more to a man's confidence (don't confuse that with cockiness and get all macho though) than to just about any other physical attribute. You start being happy in your own skin and work on the things you can change or improve and you'll do just fine. Don't let those girls who were rude enough to even mention your height get under your skin - what do little girls know about anything anyway??

Since when is "short" a part of one's heritage?
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Old 12-15-2009, 07:17 AM
 
Location: Saudi Arabia
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one more thing buddy ..if anybody calls u a shortie ..pose them a question ..Ever heard of NanoTechnology ?.. for people who think size does matter !... well here u are with a scientific breakthrough voila ! .. u're the future buddy .. so am i .. woot woot
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Old 12-15-2009, 07:37 AM
 
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Basically, I'm really fed up with being short. I'm 18, around 5 foot 6 or 5 foot 7, and I have never been in a relationship before. These last 3 years, I finally gained the courage to actually ask out a girl (this is a huge step for me because I'm a little shy), but the two girls I asked out said that I was too short for them. The most annoying part, they weren't even tall! They were 5 foot 4 and 5 foot 1! I really don't get what I'm supposed to do. I can understand girls taller than me not wanting to go out, but I can't even date short girls now? UGH! I hate being Indian sometimes!
I'm 5'3 and yes I did find someone who doesn't mind my height because she sees how well I treat her and take care of her.

Honestly, don't let it bother you. Someone will always not like you for whatever reason. It could be height, it could be that you wore a green shirt with brown pants, or whatever it is. You know what? If they don't want to be with you, then to heck with them. That is their problem, not yours. If you're a good person, be happy with who you are.

As for all those girls that passed me up because I was short, well they lost out on having a loving attentive husband who cooks, cleans, vacuums, washes and folds laundry.
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Old 12-15-2009, 07:57 AM
 
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Is this seriously a problem for men? I know my husband mentions sometimes he wishes he was a bit taller (I think he is 5 feet 8).

Solution...start dating and marrying shorter women! Quit fixating on tall women and find someone shorter.

I'm 5 feet 2 and yeah, pretty much any guy can feel tall next to me.
Most of my 'gal friends' are/were 5 feet 5 and under...we're out there...(the single ones, that is).
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Old 12-15-2009, 08:04 AM
 
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Is this seriously a problem for men? I know my husband mentions sometimes he wishes he was a bit taller (I think he is 5 feet 8).

Solution...start dating and marrying shorter women! Quit fixating on tall women and find someone shorter.

I'm 5 feet 2 and yeah, pretty much any guy can feel tall next to me.
Most of my 'gal friends' are/were 5 feet 5 and under...we're out there...(the single ones, that is).
Where I'm from, yes, women LOVE tall guys.
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Old 12-15-2009, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Corydon, IN
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Basically, I'm really fed up with being short. I'm 18, around 5 foot 6 or 5 foot 7, and I have never been in a relationship before. These last 3 years, I finally gained the courage to actually ask out a girl (this is a huge step for me because I'm a little shy), but the two girls I asked out said that I was too short for them. The most annoying part, they weren't even tall! They were 5 foot 4 and 5 foot 1! I really don't get what I'm supposed to do. I can understand girls taller than me not wanting to go out, but I can't even date short girls now? UGH! I hate being Indian sometimes!


Jumpman023,

Do NOT be frustrated by this whole dating thing and your height. I've no doubt whatsoever you're being turned down repeatedly, and by women who missed "midget" by half an inch or so. It can be maddening.

Still, bear in mind (for all that it's easy to talk when it's not you, because sex is like air, unimportant until you're not getting any) that every woman who turns you down is helping you with your job.

Your job in the dating arena is to screen through potentials until you find someone who suits you and whom you suit. Each of these things is a two-way interview, only women tend to fail to realize they're interviewing as well as the men.

The ones who turn you down for something as pathetic as height (you may not be towering but your legs are long enough to reach the floor and you can go on all the rides at the park) are helping you with this. They are demonstrating their shallowness, saving you from having to date and discover this factor. You get rid of it -- POOF -- that quickly!

Move on to the next one and never look back, and DO NOT limit yourself to women shorter than you. Be confident in your own body. Remember, it is NOT the man in the fight, it's the fight in the man!

The next one who says you're not tall enough for her, SMILE confidently back at her and say "You know what? Thanks for being honest! You've saved me some time. Have a nice evening!"

MEAN it. She'll be taken aback by your smile, thrown completely by your confidence, especially if she's shorter than you, and when you walk away seeming happy, she WILL wonder what the heck. DON'T be rude, DON'T make quips about the illogic of her choice, don't make some crack about her own height -- just be extremely polite in a jovial manner, thank her for her honesty, SMILE (very important) and walk on, visibly having a good time with your evening.

You've heard the phrase "Living well is the best revenge"...? It may be one of the best things you'll ever learn, and being HAPPY with yourself is the best way to Live Well. Women will see your happiness and they will ENVY it.

Remember: They need us as badly as we need them. Those who say otherwise are living in a dream world which bears no fruit.
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Old 12-15-2009, 08:34 AM
 
Location: Kuwait City, Kuwait.
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I'm 6'4 and never had a problem attracting girls at all. My old man is 6'6 so I obviously got it from him.

All I can say is, you're only 18/19 and at that age girls are usually immature little silly girls, and not worth your time. By the time you enter your mid-twenties and you meet grown up women then you'll realise that not every woman is shallow and rejects a guy purely for something as trivial as height.
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Old 12-15-2009, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Columbia Maryland
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Basically, I'm really fed up with being short. I'm 18, around 5 foot 6 or 5 foot 7, and I have never been in a relationship before. These last 3 years, I finally gained the courage to actually ask out a girl (this is a huge step for me because I'm a little shy), but the two girls I asked out said that I was too short for them. The most annoying part, they weren't even tall! They were 5 foot 4 and 5 foot 1! I really don't get what I'm supposed to do. I can understand girls taller than me not wanting to go out, but I can't even date short girls now? UGH! I hate being Indian sometimes!
Dude.. you don't have to do anything. Just move on to the next person until you find some who accepts you for you.
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Old 12-15-2009, 03:59 PM
 
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hey dude im an indian 27 yrs old 5'8inches tall.. my case is quite similar to yours ..i got engaged to a girl an inch shorter than me .. and i once told her i'd like to date taller girls..she found it ridiculous..now we've parted ..thats another story .. well what im trying to say is that she was the 1st i thought to be the only one ..apart from the height theres a lot other thngs that mattered to both of us .. however our sexual life was quite awesome .. all u need is confidence to carry yourself despite that short stature .. sometimes i wore flat shoes yet i walked tall with a correct posture .. and yes i do weight lifting .. dude if u gotta date a girl ..more than thinking about your height its better u learn the techniques of expressions .. use all your organs to your advantage lol ..believe me it works ! ..sounds funny but it works for me .. pamper yourself best suits your style .. walk like a soldier ..act clumsy .. and when u see the girl smile ..walk upto her like a gentleman and simply smile back with a twinkle in your eye .. introduce yourself and then work the chemistry by telling her what u feel about her ..compliment her about anything u see appealing be honest ..and make sure to choose the right words.. do some R&D about what girls like to hear the most .. before hand .. get in the act dude .. most importantly dont ACT smart ! .. be cool ..relaxed and confident ! ..if she aint interested or in a bad mood ..dont push it ..just make her feel comfortable by your presence .. make her feel she wants u .. and u can do that by simply being yourself .. oh boy ! am i trying to Hitch u hehe ..man i cant guarantee ..but just have a good sense of humour ..girls like witty guys who know where they come from ..so respect her views and opinions .. dont nod your head even if shes wrong ..explain things to her politely .. eye to eye .. make sure u dont look down .. take a shot behind her and smile even if theres nobody around .. see what she does .. man i can go on and on .. just handle the situation with care and use your instincts .. wish u good luck ! hehe
Great post

5'9 is average height so 5'8 realy isnt all that short to where most of the dating pool will reject you on height alone
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