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I'm going to be blunt here. Having a nice body can make up for a lack of height. I'm somewhere between 5'7" and 5'8" and I've seen a few guys who are my height or an inch shorter that I wouldn't mind going on a date with... of course, one of them looked like James McAvoy (who btw is 5'7") so that certainly upped his appeal lol.
Don't sweat it. Keep yourself in shape and groomed and never forget that personality can make up for a multitude of appearance related things.
And I almost forgot! Having great style wouldn't hurt you either lol!
I work out quite a bit, I'm fairly athletic, I make sure that I eat properly, and while I'm not jacked, I'm not a short and fat or short, walking stick either. On top of that, I take care of my skin/body, am very ambitious, able to hold an intelligent conversation with people, and am respectful to those around me, which makes it all the more frustrating that girls go out with some tall frat boy who is extremely boisterous and disrespectful (that's what ended up happening after I asked one of them out).
Maybe it's my style that's a problem? I mean, I don't exactly rock an Armani, Gucci or whatever you call it suit because my family and I aren't wealthy, but I try to wear what I consider decent stuff like Polo Ralph Lauren, Brooks Brothers and J. Crew, which aren't THAT cheap either imo.
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Originally Posted by Rance
Quit asking the short ladies out for dates. Stick with the taller than you types. Hear me now...believe me later...
I work out quite a bit, I'm fairly athletic, I make sure that I eat properly, and while I'm not jacked, I'm not a short and fat or short, walking stick either. On top of that, I take care of my skin/body, am very ambitious, able to hold an intelligent conversation with people, and am respectful to those around me, which makes it all the more frustrating that girls go out with some tall frat boy who is extremely boisterous and disrespectful (that's what ended up happening after I asked one of them out).
Maybe it's my style that's a problem? I mean, I don't exactly rock an Armani, Gucci or whatever you call it suit because my family and I aren't wealthy, but I try to wear what I consider decent stuff like Polo Ralph Lauren, Brooks Brothers and J. Crew, which aren't THAT cheap either imo.
When I say style, I don't necessarily mean wearing expensive stuff because we all know that money doesn't always equal stylish but simply just wearing clothes that fit you well and look good on you!
The traits you mentioned are positive ones and are very attractive... you may just need a little flair or edge to you to up the ante. It doesn't hurt to be very charming and flirtatious lol.
The reason girls usually shy away from shorter/skinnier guys is because NO girl likes feeling big compared to the guy she's with.
Ya know, I hate to admit this but when I read your post, I laughed. Trust me, I wasn't laughing at you, but man, when I was 18 I was in the exact same situation. I'd been on dates and all that, but nothing like you would ever call a "relationship". I can remember all the hell I went through during those times..
Anyway, back to the point. I'm 5'6, fat, bald, and ugly.. Ok, maybe not all that, but I am 5'6, just an average looking guy, nothing special. Still, I have no problem with meeting women. I'll tell ya what I learned, and hopefully it'll help ya out a bit.
First things first, I know you said you're a little shy - nothing wrong with that, when I was 18 I was the same - but for me that was the first place I started. You have to build up your confidence. I think that confidence matters more than anything else. I had a good buddy of mine that was ugly - and when I say ugly I mean it, he was the type that would wiggle his one green tooth just to irritate people. Still, he was a heck of a guy. Something I couldn't figure out was how he always had a different chick with him every time I saw him. I finally figured it out, he had more confidence than anyone I've ever met. Anyway, that's something you have to build within yourself. The easiest way I found to build confidence is just to talk to people. Every time you go to a store and there's a girl at the counter, flirt with her a little. Tease her some like you would your buddies.. Notice: I didn't say harass, I said tease, in a playful way. At first, it's hard to do simply because you're nervous and don't know what to say. As time goes on, you'll become more and more confident, and you'll find yourself talking to everyone. For me, I had to force myself to do it, but when I realized it wasn't so bad, well, it was just me being me without all the intimidation.
Learn how to make women laugh. I don't mean by telling them a corny knock knock joke or something like that, I mean don't be afraid to be yourself and make jokes. When people see that kind of confidence, and find themselves smiling every time your around, height doesn't matter anymore.
Second biggest thing is this: Make a change in yourself. You'll be surprised how new clothes and a different haircut can make someone feel. Forget about height and start focusing on yourself. You are who you are, and nobody can change that. The only thing that I see with you is that you know who you are, but you're not confident enough to be that person. We can offer advice all day, but until you decide to make a change in yourself, none of the advice will help any at all.
It took me close to three years to get over being shy. You'll be fine, just don't get discouraged and above all else, man, just be yourself.
I'm not a huge fan of him the last few years myself - but that is beside the point - the man is shorter but that hasn't held him back from having some gorgeous women in his life. Being under 6 feet tall is not the end of the world or your dating life.
Ya know, I hate to admit this but when I read your post, I laughed. Trust me, I wasn't laughing at you, but man, when I was 18 I was in the exact same situation. I'd been on dates and all that, but nothing like you would ever call a "relationship". I can remember all the hell I went through during those times..
Anyway, back to the point. I'm 5'6, fat, bald, and ugly.. Ok, maybe not all that, but I am 5'6, just an average looking guy, nothing special. Still, I have no problem with meeting women. I'll tell ya what I learned, and hopefully it'll help ya out a bit.
First things first, I know you said you're a little shy - nothing wrong with that, when I was 18 I was the same - but for me that was the first place I started. You have to build up your confidence. I think that confidence matters more than anything else. I had a good buddy of mine that was ugly - and when I say ugly I mean it, he was the type that would wiggle his one green tooth just to irritate people. Still, he was a heck of a guy. Something I couldn't figure out was how he always had a different chick with him every time I saw him. I finally figured it out, he had more confidence than anyone I've ever met. Anyway, that's something you have to build within yourself. The easiest way I found to build confidence is just to talk to people. Every time you go to a store and there's a girl at the counter, flirt with her a little. Tease her some like you would your buddies.. Notice: I didn't say harass, I said tease, in a playful way. At first, it's hard to do simply because you're nervous and don't know what to say. As time goes on, you'll become more and more confident, and you'll find yourself talking to everyone. For me, I had to force myself to do it, but when I realized it wasn't so bad, well, it was just me being me without all the intimidation.
Learn how to make women laugh. I don't mean by telling them a corny knock knock joke or something like that, I mean don't be afraid to be yourself and make jokes. When people see that kind of confidence, and find themselves smiling every time your around, height doesn't matter anymore.
Second biggest thing is this: Make a change in yourself. You'll be surprised how new clothes and a different haircut can make someone feel. Forget about height and start focusing on yourself. You are who you are, and nobody can change that. The only thing that I see with you is that you know who you are, but you're not confident enough to be that person. We can offer advice all day, but until you decide to make a change in yourself, none of the advice will help any at all.
It took me close to three years to get over being shy. You'll be fine, just don't get discouraged and above all else, man, just be yourself.
I wish ya the best bro..
Yep - it's the confidence women see and react to - didn't I just say that?? Hope he hears what you and I have both told him
*my dad is 6'6, my brother is 6'5, all my male cousins on dads side are over 6'5 and chicks are all 5'8+
my mom is 5'4 and all my cousins on that side are short
i guess i got stuck in between
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