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My ex (and this is why we broke up) felt there was nothing wrong with him crusing craigslist's "casual connections" or hitting sites like "Get It On", signing up, and getting "matched". He even went so far as to email the ads to introduce himself, and say he was "a nice guy, disease free". He felt that as long as "nothing physical happened" it wasn't cheating.
Me? I have a problem with it. It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
Yes, there were a few emails I found (on MY laptop) and some photos. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
How do you all feel about this? Was what he did really OK, or normal? Did I overreact? Did I give up someone I love till my dying day because I'm a prude?
I'd say the intent was to trade you in as soon as he found a better model. He'd already moved on, emotionally. Physically couldn't be far behind. You're better off without him.
I've had a girl string me along and drop me once someone "better" came along. It sucks and it's good you got out of it. There's no reason for him to waste your time, but since he doesn't seem to care you are definitely better off dropping him.
My ex (and this is why we broke up) felt there was nothing wrong with him crusing craigslist's "casual connections" or hitting sites like "Get It On", signing up, and getting "matched". He even went so far as to email the ads to introduce himself, and say he was "a nice guy, disease free". He felt that as long as "nothing physical happened" it wasn't cheating.
Me? I have a problem with it. It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
Yes, there were a few emails I found (on MY laptop) and some photos. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
How do you all feel about this? Was what he did really OK, or normal? Did I overreact? Did I give up someone I love till my dying day because I'm a prude?
I would say it would depend on how serious the relationship was. If you two agreed to be in a committed, exclusive relationship, I would consider it cheating. The fact that he was not only browsing, but actively contacting people, makes me think that he was actually looking to hook up with someone.
However, I'm currently in a similar situation where I'm the one doing the browsing. I do feel bad about it because I wouldn't like it if my boyfriend was browsing dating sites (heck, maybe he is, I don't really know). I'm only doing it because we're not in a serious relationship and I don't see the two of us being together in the future. He's the one that doesn't want to be serious with me, so I don't really think he'd even care that I browse dating sites. But I don't have plans to cheat on him. If I were to meet someone who I thought was a better match, I'd end things with my current boyfriend. I'm sure he's keeping his options open also.
My ex (and this is why we broke up) felt there was nothing wrong with him crusing craigslist's "casual connections" or hitting sites like "Get It On", signing up, and getting "matched". He even went so far as to email the ads to introduce himself, and say he was "a nice guy, disease free". He felt that as long as "nothing physical happened" it wasn't cheating.
Me? I have a problem with it. It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
Yes, there were a few emails I found (on MY laptop) and some photos. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
How do you all feel about this? Was what he did really OK, or normal? Did I overreact? Did I give up someone I love till my dying day because I'm a prude?
If you were married there would be a problem, if not then no. Your ex just wasn't into you. And you weren't meant to be with them either.
My ex (and this is why we broke up) felt there was nothing wrong with him crusing craigslist's "casual connections" or hitting sites like "Get It On", signing up, and getting "matched". He even went so far as to email the ads to introduce himself, and say he was "a nice guy, disease free". He felt that as long as "nothing physical happened" it wasn't cheating.
Me? I have a problem with it. It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
Yes, there were a few emails I found (on MY laptop) and some photos. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
How do you all feel about this? Was what he did really OK, or normal? Did I overreact? Did I give up someone I love till my dying day because I'm a prude?
Cheating isn't just a physical act. If your partner is even contemplating it, that's enough reason to get rid of him.
My ex (and this is why we broke up) felt there was nothing wrong with him crusing craigslist's "casual connections" or hitting sites like "Get It On", signing up, and getting "matched". He even went so far as to email the ads to introduce himself, and say he was "a nice guy, disease free". He felt that as long as "nothing physical happened" it wasn't cheating.
Me? I have a problem with it. It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
Yes, there were a few emails I found (on MY laptop) and some photos. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
How do you all feel about this? Was what he did really OK, or normal? Did I overreact? Did I give up someone I love till my dying day because I'm a prude?
1) He wasn't "just browsing", he was actively recruiting sex partners. He was certainly was cheating on you given the opportunity.
2) No you didn't overreact.
3) Your *love* with this guy is misplaced. Given a bit of time and distance and a decent new guy in your life and you will look back and say (probably with a little anger) what a dumbass you were to ever had feelings for this guy.
4) Prude? Not hardly. Sounds like the guy is quite the manipulator and cheater...twisting his bad actions into YOUR fault and problem. What a complete tool. I'm guessing this guy screws over pretty much everyone in his life including friends, family etc. but described problems with them to you as being due to the other people?
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It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
I do feel bad about it because I wouldn't like it if my boyfriend was browsing dating sites (heck, maybe he is, I don't really know). I'm only doing it because we're not in a serious relationship and I don't see the two of us being together in the future. He's the one that doesn't want to be serious with me, so I don't really think he'd even care that I browse dating sites. But I don't have plans to cheat on him. If I were to meet someone who I thought was a better match, I'd end things with my current boyfriend. I'm sure he's keeping his options open also.
