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Old 07-23-2009, 03:31 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh's 'EAST SIDE'
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They key is to either ignore them (which is the better thing to do) or fight crazy WITH crazy, which means get right back at them exactly how they're getting at you. Most people can dish it, but can't take it when their verbal assaults are given right back and eventually tend to shut up.
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Old 07-23-2009, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Alaska
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Most people like to win.
True, but there really aren't any winners or losers here. Also, when two are debating, the last to post is not necessarily the winner, even though they think they are.
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Old 07-23-2009, 04:59 PM
 
Location: Florida
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yeah i noticed when someone was giving me a hard time that when i confront them, or say something smug back (i try not to do this though), the person is offended that i had the nerve to react to what they said or did.
Really??? Who??? Here? Want me and Yankee to go beat them up and send Twinkle to pop a cap in their @ss?


j/k
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Old 07-23-2009, 05:10 PM
 
Location: lala land
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They key is to either ignore them (which is the better thing to do) or fight crazy WITH crazy ...
I prefer to fight CRAZY with crazy personally .

Much more entertaining .
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Old 07-23-2009, 05:12 PM
 
Location: SoCal - Sherman Oaks & Woodland Hills
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They key is to either ignore them (which is the better thing to do) or fight crazy WITH crazy, which means get right back at them exactly how they're getting at you. Most people can dish it, but can't take it when their verbal assaults are given right back and eventually tend to shut up.
I have a totally different viewpoint on this. This is a PUBLIC Forum. Hence, there will be people here with different backgrounds and different views than I have and there may be times where disagreements may happen. But I think its ridiculous to come to a public discussion forum and choose to ignore people who may have views different than mine.

I operate from the viewpoint that even though we are different, there is something that can be learned from any and everyone. THAT my friend, is how people learn and grow. Not by ignoring others, but by engaging them on their views and beliefs and a civil and adult manner. If you want to ignore someone, then maybe a public discussion forum is not for you.
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Old 07-23-2009, 05:32 PM
 
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Blaming the victim is innate it seems to immature people. Think of junior high when hecklers gang up on the overweight pimply kid. If one person does it then others will do it so that they have affiliation with the group. Immaturity and insecurity is at the root. Adults sometimes stay at junior high level mentality.

in addition to immature people doing this, and insecure people doing this, i would add to the list that bullys do this, and others who abuse through attack, insult, and intimidation
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Old 07-23-2009, 05:53 PM
 
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Please have pity and mercy.......j/k

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Really??? Who??? Here? Want me and Yankee to go beat them up and send Twinkle to pop a cap in their @ss?


j/k
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Old 07-23-2009, 05:54 PM
 
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It's a given that they are bullies. But when other people join in it is because of immaturity and insecurity (weakness).

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in addition to immature people doing this, and insecure people doing this, i would add to the list that bullys do this, and others who abuse through attack, insult, and intimidation
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Old 07-23-2009, 06:58 PM
 
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Oh, and there are those who are incredibly shrill when their preening self-righteousness and incredibly rarefied sensibilities are offended, not to mention their weird obsessiveness that practically borders on OCD. In short, they can dish it out, but they sure as shooting can't take it.
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Old 07-23-2009, 07:01 PM
 
Location: Reno
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Really??? Who??? Here? Want me and Yankee to go beat them up and send Twinkle to pop a cap in their @ss?


j/k
lol. in general- online and offline. whenever i have confronted someone offline though, they usually turn red and look speechless.
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