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So I met that short haired girl I met at starbucks on Wednesday night at this pretty cool jazz club (she had a sort of artsy, beatnik quality to her, so I thought it was a good idea. Wrong.)
As soon as we walked in, she was immediately approached by tonnes of guys asking how she was, that they hadn't seen her in forever, where she's been (she was studying abroad) how it was, what they've been up to, etc, etc.
They really were male friends of her. She was happy to see them too, but at the same time, I couldn't tell if they really were just trying to catch up with an old friend or trying to pick her up.
Just not to be rude, I introduced myself to every guy that came and talked to her and acted interested and chimed in on whatever they had to say. I was trying to redirect their attention away from her and towards me, but every time I occupied 1 guy, another would come and start chatting her up.
She was just a little social butterfly that night, which is cool, but at the same time, I was hoping we could share the evening and get to know each other personally. I think only half the time she was talking, it was to me, and not some of her other guy friends.
I tried not to appear I was bothered, and decided to strike back by being social too and chat up other people there, including a few girls. I got 1 other girl's number, which was cool, but at the same time, I didn't really get a chance to really get to know my date, reveal myself to her on any deep level and bond with her.
I still got her number. Are such girls worth the time and effort to break away from their cadres of interested male friends?
If she was that into you, she would of told the guys pals that she was having a date with you and get back with them later. Yep, you got a girl and you still can't make yourself interesting.
If she was that into you, she would of told the guys pals that she was having a date with you and get back with them later. Yep, you got a girl and you still can't make yourself interesting.
You hit the nail on the head.
People's actions are more important than what they say and in this case it's clear she was mostly interested in her friends. If she was really hot for csychosphere she would have blown them off.
People's actions are more important than what they say and in this case it's clear she was mostly interested in her friends. If she was really hot for csychosphere she would have blown them off.
Hey, that's what I would do. I would be like, "okay, nice seeing you guys! I'll talk to you later but now, I'm busy with my date." Know what I mean?
Then, he went off from her and got another chick's phone number. That wasn't a date at all, nor it was for the short hair girl to begin with.
Hey, that's what I would do. I would be like, "okay, nice seeing you guys! I'll talk to you later but now, I'm busy with my date." Know what I mean?
Then, he went off from her and got another chick's phone number. That wasn't a date at all, nor it was for the short hair girl to begin with.
Doesn't sound like much of a date. And I guess I missed if he actually took her home?
I've been on dates with women where both have happened. I do recall one time going on a "date" but she was so busy with other people, it wasn't much of a date. It was so bad IRC I left her there.
On the other hand there have been several situations I can recall where she made it clear she was with me on a one on one, and well nice to see you, but get lost.
Your right, it wasnt even a date. They met up at a club, and yeah he went a got another girls phone #!
What about that implys an exclusive date. Now Im older than dirt and have been out of the loop for some time, but if I were her I would see meeting up at a club as lets hang out, then when hes started collecting phone numbers, I would immediately think he wasnt interested in anything but friendship.
On the other hand there have been several situations I can recall where she made it clear she was with me on a one on one, and well nice to see you, but get lost.
I guess thats where the buying her a drink and asking her to dance might have come in handy for Cyan. Then maybe going for a bite to eat. She may have then realized she was suspose to be on a date.
So I met that short haired girl I met at starbucks on Wednesday night at this pretty cool jazz club (she had a sort of artsy, beatnik quality to her, so I thought it was a good idea. Wrong.)
As soon as we walked in, she was immediately approached by tonnes of guys asking how she was, that they hadn't seen her in forever, where she's been (she was studying abroad) how it was, what they've been up to, etc, etc.
They really were male friends of her. She was happy to see them too, but at the same time, I couldn't tell if they really were just trying to catch up with an old friend or trying to pick her up.
Just not to be rude, I introduced myself to every guy that came and talked to her and acted interested and chimed in on whatever they had to say. I was trying to redirect their attention away from her and towards me, but every time I occupied 1 guy, another would come and start chatting her up.
She was just a little social butterfly that night, which is cool, but at the same time, I was hoping we could share the evening and get to know each other personally. I think only half the time she was talking, it was to me, and not some of her other guy friends.
I tried not to appear I was bothered, and decided to strike back by being social too and chat up other people there, including a few girls. I got 1 other girl's number, which was cool, but at the same time, I didn't really get a chance to really get to know my date, reveal myself to her on any deep level and bond with her.
I still got her number. Are such girls worth the time and effort to break away from their cadres of interested male friends?
Obviously its a spot that she's a regular in, and you should be pumped to have gotten her number anyway. I don't see competition in that at all, and you should let her talk to whoever the heck she wants, as you did. Sounds like you might be a bit jealous. Stop looking into it and take it as dudes catching up with her. Maybe you should start meeting chicks that work at Dunkin Donuts.
Obviously its a spot that she's a regular in, and you should be pumped to have gotten her number anyway. I don't see competition in that at all, and you should let her talk to whoever the heck she wants, as you did. Sounds like you might be a bit jealous. Stop looking into it and take it as dudes catching up with her. Maybe you should start meeting chicks that work at Dunkin Donuts.
I guess you could take that approach if you were casually going out to a club. Can't see the problem there.
However if it had been set up as a one on one date and then they focused on everyone else in the room, I'd assume they were not interested and no, there would not be a second date.
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