What do you think of extremely outspoken and honest people as friends or lovers? (man, friend)

[Weekend Traveler]

One thing that always got me in trouble with people is I always just went ahead and said what I think. I never felt that beating around the bush was a good idea, just speak up and tell them what I think.

In today's society, we act very cruel to each other but much of it is done through avoidance, lack of eye contact or other non verbal cues. People are always told to watch what they say (verbally) but there seems to be few rules in relation to non verbal communication.

I like honest frank outspoken people who tell you what they think and you know where they stand and what they believe. What do you think of people who are honest and outspoken as potential friends or lovers?

[Maitas]

How frank is frank? In some cultures being blunt is the thing to do. They believe that if you aren't then you are not being honest or are somehow fake Of course, everyone else just thinks they are being rude.

I usually mean what I say and don't like to lie but it doesn't get me very far with the men

[Cherie Tebo]

I don't mind someone who's outspoken honest.My parents were outspoken and honest and I was raised to be that very same way.

I wouldn't want to be involved with a man who wasn't that same way too.I'll put up with just about anything else but being lied to.I would also rather have the man in my life to be straightforward and upfront with me.

[artsyguy]

Outspokenness and honesty is very good if it has intent to inform, educate, or help you. Outspokenness needs to be tactful and sensitive. You can't go up to your friend or subordinate and say "Wow. Your breath has really smelled terrible for the last two weeks. Everyone has been complaining to me. They feel uncomfortable with the way you smell. You need to do something about it right now." and then expect people to like and respect you.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Weekend Traveler

One thing that always got me in trouble with people is I always just went ahead and said what I think. I never felt that beating around the bush was a good idea, just speak up and tell them what I think.

In today's society, we act very cruel to each other but much of it is done through avoidance, lack of eye contact or other non verbal cues. People are always told to watch what they say (verbally) but there seems to be few rules in relation to non verbal communication.

I like honest frank outspoken people who tell you what they think and you know where they stand and what they believe. What do you think of people who are honest and outspoken as potential friends or lovers?

I like people who are honest. However, I do not like people who pride themselves on being frank. It is naive to presume that they're one and the same. Because one is a virtue, while the other is giving oneself the license to say whatever, whenever.

In other words, what you're saying is that there's no intervening gear between your brain and mouth. What forms up in your cranium comes spilling out, unedited, the consequences be damned.

Well, I offer that there's a vast world of difference between being honest and just blurting out whatever comes to your mind. For one involves a little diplomacy and awareness of the situation. It also involves consideration for the other person's feelings.

[artsyguy]

In my book if you aren't straight forward or upfront you are either very confused yourself or you're lying your butt off/trying to trick me in some way that doesn't benefit me.

Originally Posted by Cherie Tebo

I don't mind someone who's outspoken honest.My parents were outspoken and honest and I was raised to be that very same way.

I wouldn't want to be involved with a man who wasn't that same way too.I'll put up with just about anything else but being lied to.I would also rather have the man in my life to be straightforward and upfront with me.

[artsyguy]

Being frank is subjective though.

Originally Posted by cpg35223

I like people who are honest. However, I do not like people who pride themselves on being frank. It is naive to presume that they're one and the same. Because one is a virtue, while the other is giving oneself the license to say whatever, whenever.

In other words, what you're saying is that there's no intervening gear between your brain and mouth. What forms up in your cranium comes spilling out, unedited, the consequences be damned.

Well, I offer that there's a vast world of difference between being honest and just blurting out whatever comes to your mind. For one involves a little diplomacy and awareness of the situation. It also involves consideration for the other person's feelings.

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

I like people who are honest. However, I do not like people who pride themselves on being frank. It is naive to presume that they're one and the same. Because one is a virtue, while the other is giving oneself the license to say whatever, whenever.

In other words, what you're saying is that there's no intervening gear between your brain and mouth. What forms up in your cranium comes spilling out, unedited, the consequences be damned.

Well, I offer that there's a vast world of difference between being honest and just blurting out whatever comes to your mind. For one involves a little diplomacy and awareness of the situation. It also involves consideration for the other person's feelings.

You said it better than I was going to.

There are people who seek to offend or simply don't care if they do and boast that they are just being honest or not sugarcoating. I don't care much for that kind of thing.

[artsyguy]

Excellent points. I also agree.

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

You said it better than I was going to.

There are people who seek to offend or simply don't care if they do and boast that they are just being honest or not sugarcoating. I don't care much for that kind of thing.

[Cecilia_Rose]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

I like people who are honest. However, I do not like people who pride themselves on being frank. It is naive to presume that they're one and the same. Because one is a virtue, while the other is giving oneself the license to say whatever, whenever.

In other words, what you're saying is that there's no intervening gear between your brain and mouth. What forms up in your cranium comes spilling out, unedited, the consequences be damned.

Well, I offer that there's a vast world of difference between being honest and just blurting out whatever comes to your mind. For one involves a little diplomacy and awareness of the situation. It also involves consideration for the other person's feelings.

I agree.

And Id like say to this to some of you Franks. Ever consider that maybe everybody doesnt want to know what you think is wrong with them. Its been my experience that sometimes all this "honesty" is just an excuse for verbal abuse...... Im only telling you this for your own good. I dont know why youre being so sensitive.