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I see it to, but you know, so many of the dudes on here think I live in a fantasy land when I say there are non married professional single childless women all over the place. They think I'm lying. I have no idea where these people are living, but I'm glad I'm not there.
What I don't do is shake my head because there is nothing wrong with it, and plenty of them don't want to get married and never wanted to have children either. It's perfectly fine.
Being a fairly well educated (masters) professional guy in my 40s its a great place to date.
I'm not there yet. I hope not to be 40 and single and enjoying the single life and trying to be like Derek Jeter or George Clooney.
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So true. I think a lot of those guys are in the mid-west and the South. It's like a different country.
If I was a woman, I would possibly move to the Midwest for a husband. Denver had the most eligible men to marry and not San Francisco or NYC.
I had a time where a lot of women I tried to approach were already taken or married. It frustrated me to the point where I thought every woman was taken because I couldn't find one who was single. So I quit asking and approaching because I knew what the answer was when I talked to a woman. That lasted about 6-7 months. It was a struggle.
Exactly why I just have focused on online dating in the last few years, you can at least filter the single and childless. It's just so hard to encounter single women in normal socializing (work, friends, hobbies, etc.), and singles Meetups are full of weirdos and women way past first marriage territory.
Unfortunately, I'm way too ugly / not good enough / whatever for online dating either. I guess I'm just doing nothing at the moment like you're talking about. They say you meet people when you're not looking. We'll see how that works out... LOL!
Exactly why I just have focused on online dating in the last few years, you can at least filter the single and childless. It's just so hard to encounter single women in normal socializing (work, friends, hobbies, etc.), and singles Meetups are full of weirdos and women way past first marriage territory.
Unfortunately, I'm way too ugly / not good enough / whatever for online dating either. I guess I'm just doing nothing at the moment like you're talking about. They say you meet people when you're not looking. We'll see how that works out... LOL!
meeting people when you arent looking MAY work for a lot of women...but that doesnt work for most guys.
if you wait around as a guy...then you will more than likely will be single forever
meeting people when you arent looking MAY work for a lot of women...but that doesnt work for most guys.
if you wait around as a guy...then you will more than likely will be single forever
I would say it may work for some women, but not a lot. Things don't just fall into ones lap in life whether that thing is a good job, friends, or a lover. I think this is true for most people. You have to put effort into things.
I never found anyone when I wasn't actively looking. Although for reasons only known to lawmakers like "Murphy" and his lot, I always seem to have guys interested in me when I'm not looking because I'm in a relationship, lol. It's like when people are single, they have a weird funk that scares everyone away.
They say you meet people when you're not looking. We'll see how that works out... LOL!
Granted, there's only a small handful of them, but that's how I met everyone I've ever dated - when I wasn't looking. LH and I were both actively preparing to move back to our respective home states when we met. Conversely, when I do look (OLD, speed dating, etc), I might as well be invisible as nothing ever comes of it. My 5+ years of being on and off OLD sites resulted in a total of two dates. Yep, two.
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Although for reasons only known to lawmakers like "Murphy" and his lot, I always seem to have guys interested in me when I'm not looking because I'm in a relationship, lol. It's like when people are single, they have a weird funk that scares everyone away.
I find that similar to the theory it's easier to find a job when you already have one. The glow/happiness from the relationship is much more attractive than the wariness vibe of being single.
meeting people when you arent looking MAY work for a lot of women...but that doesnt work for most guys.
if you wait around as a guy...then you will more than likely will be single forever
That's why I don't get why a lot of women say wait and she'll come. Wrong! If you wait nothing will happen. Women aren't going to come up to you. So you have to do it yourself.
That doesn't make sense though since the Northeast has like the highest median age of first marriage.
But of course the ones that did marry young tend to get divorced in their 30s, it happens when people marry as children before they're both developed mentally and emotionally.
You are not the norm. The average age in the US for new moms is 25.2.
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I guess I'm just doing nothing at the moment like you're talking about. They say you meet people when you're not looking. We'll see how that works out... LOL!
