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Men will always look, women will always get mad because he did. Generally speaking, that is. Just because a guy looks at another women does not automatically imply that his love for you is any less, or that he would even entertain the idea of cheating on you. He just likes to look.
I fully agree with your post, I know you say "generally" and "not automatically". However I recently had discussions with some friends...We determined that if a guy spend at least five seconds looking a girl, in a fantasy world of consequence free and free love, it means we would sleep with her...Consequences, effort and even the fear of rejection keeps us out of fantasy world...
I don't see what the big deal is? What effect does it have on the woman if the guy looks at porn? So what. Most do and if it doesn't effect you or how he sees you then why would you care?
Situation One:
Guy looks at porn, when your not around but is not secret about it.
Situation Two:
You never suspect your guy looks at porn (I think something like 90% of men online do) he does you never find out.
You are in exactly the same position in both situations.
Men...big babies. We were watching porn one night. Hubby said he wanted a three way with another women there for his birthday.
Later that week we were in a store and he said this tall gal was good looking, so I went over to asked her....if she was interested...he ran out the door to the car.:
Men...big babies. We were watching porn one night. Hubby said he wanted a three way with another women there for his birthday.
Later that week we were in a store and he said this tall gal was good looking, so I went over to asked her....if she was interested...he ran out the door to the car.:
I never did tell him I knew her sister.
Aahahahahaha.....that's great. Look on the man's face when you say yes to a three-way------Priceless.
Look on his face when you initiate ......Precious.
YES, she has the right to be mad at their man, because he's not man enough to be honest with her and say:
"Honey, I think you and I need to start taking steps to get healthier. This is important to me, and I hope it's important to you. Let's come up with some ways we can exercise together and eat healthier meals. Let's see if we can drop one or two jean sizes in a month. We'll work on this together."
You know what shivers my timbers about my man being able to say that to me? He is being positive and proactive about a problem in their relationship. He is not afraid to confront me about an area in my life that needs some work. That is leadership. That's what makes a man, in my book. Yet, he's not on some kind of ego trip as if this problem is far removed from him. He realizes everyone can stand to make better food choices and be more active so we can get our weight under control. He's humble enough to realize, he probably could use a little work, too.
Let's face it. His woman is probably painfully aware she is overweight. But when approached like that, she is not diminished as a person. When porn enters the picture, the woman is going to feel disrespected and rejected and then you can forget about ANY kind of sex life, because you have hurt her.It's as if he also remembers all the wonderful things she is, too. A man in a relationship of any duration did not just fall in love with a woman's body alone.
The porn is just a method to run away and hide from the problem, and no wise man sets out intentionally to make his woman feel like she doesn't measure up. it would be like her taking up with toys and losing interest in having intimacy with him. At that point the shoe is on the other foot. How does it fit?
Hmmm................maybe I was a man in another life....but I heard some men need it to start their motors. Visual stimulation can be a very powerful thing.
Isn't there a cut off point with both sexes that a certain weight is the tipping point? I don't think for better or worse means a half ton of lard? I would hope people would be glad the other hasn't left them if they are obese, sex being side bar at that point.
Isn't there a cut off point with both sexes that a certain weight is the tipping point? I don't think for better or worse means a half ton of lard? I would hope people would be glad the other hasn't left them if they are obese, sex being side bar at that point.
Good question!!! I am 5' 10" and 145 lbs.
I lose 10/15 pounds in the summer.
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