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Feels like in the past month I've seen no less than a dozen "caught him looking at porn" posts...
The wife/GF says it's either a choice, lack a discipline or an addiction that needs to be broken...But if someone is overweight, doesn't it fall under one of these categories? Just wanted to stir the drama-pot; looking forward to your insights.
No I don't think so. I think that as long as they aren't cheating, they shouldn't be complaining. If they really wanted to deal with it, they should just go to the gym and lose the weight. If you aren't making any effort, why should they expect their husbands?
Nah, guys like porn because they like looking at naked chicks. They like looking as sex acts, and they like variety when they masturbate. Think of the top five women you think of as being a perfect ten... I guarantee you their husbands/boyfriends watch porn too. Skinny woman, fat woman, it doesn't matter, men like porn.
Pretty much, I think you've got it.
OP & others--
So you think only 'skinny' and 'fit' women please their men and fat women are some how 'damaged' and deserve to have the man 'find his kicks' other places?
**Let's make sure we get in the digs against fat women again. Talk about originality..
PS I have a husband and don't care what he looks at online. I also expect him to extend this courtesy to me.
YES, she has the right to be mad at their man, because he's not man enough to be honest with her and say:
"Honey, I think you and I need to start taking steps to get healthier. This is important to me, and I hope it's important to you. Let's come up with some ways we can exercise together and eat healthier meals. Let's see if we can drop one or two jean sizes in a month. We'll work on this together."
You know what shivers my timbers about my man being able to say that to me? He is being positive and proactive about a problem in their relationship. He is not afraid to confront me about an area in my life that needs some work. That is leadership. That's what makes a man, in my book. Yet, he's not on some kind of ego trip as if this problem is far removed from him. He realizes everyone can stand to make better food choices and be more active so we can get our weight under control. He's humble enough to realize, he probably could use a little work, too.
Let's face it. His woman is probably painfully aware she is overweight. But when approached like that, she is not diminished as a person. When porn enters the picture, the woman is going to feel disrespected and rejected and then you can forget about ANY kind of sex life, because you have hurt her.It's as if he also remembers all the wonderful things she is, too. A man in a relationship of any duration did not just fall in love with a woman's body alone.
The porn is just a method to run away and hide from the problem, and no wise man sets out intentionally to make his woman feel like she doesn't measure up. it would be like her taking up with toys and losing interest in having intimacy with him. At that point the shoe is on the other foot. How does it fit?
It doesn't matter what size a man g/f or wife might be...he still loves porn. If the wife or g/f thinks it's her weight she have a issue with herself. She's not secure with her weight not him. She uses that he looks at porn a reason for her unhappiness. He was looking at porn before he met her I'm quite sure. And what If he likes porn that is all big women, what she will think then!!!
My own marriage crumbled for many reasons, some of them were just plain ol' stupidity on my part; however, let me say this. My STBX had very little self-respect, and she really let her weight get out of control.
Now, before someone labels me as "insensitive" it needs to be mentioned that my STBX admitted that because of issues with relationships growing up it was easier to just push people away by letting her weight get out control. I fell in love with her because of who she was on the inside (I'm not a shallow person), but I always held out hope that maybe by she would want to care more about how she looked around me.
So, yeah, she got mad when I looked at porn, but she she never really did anything to make herself look attractive. I never asked her to change the way her face looks, or to grow taller, or to even wear slutty clothes. I just asked that she watch her weight, and eventually I realized it wasn't going to happen.
Haha! The funny thing is sometimes when I check out porn it is for checking out "over weight" women. At least some people would define as "over weight" anyway.
But I guess if a guy had a plumper girlfriend she still might get peeved if he was checking out other plumpers.....maybe, or maybe not.
Feels like in the past month I've seen no less than a dozen "caught him looking at porn" posts...
The wife/GF says it's either a choice, lack a discipline or an addiction that needs to be broken...But if someone is overweight, doesn't it fall under one of these categories? Just wanted to stir the drama-pot; looking forward to your insights.
I have no intention of reading this whole thread - I'll simply answer the original question:
Does an underweight man have a right to be mad at his s/o for looking at real men or porn?
Do underweight women have a right to be mad, etc etc
See, dood, you are looking at it from your own bias - it has nothing to do with a person's weight; it has to do with the agreement between them. Obviously, you like twiggy and kate moss look-alikes; so to you, "overweight" is a turn off - but remember this - to a whole bunch of men, bonz is for dogs. What is a turn-off for you, might be the very turn-on for another.
Besides all that, if you care about the person, looks won't be everything.
Like NY Annie, I have no intent to read this whole thread. I don't need my wifes permission to do a bloomin thing. I am 11 years her elder and I know more about things in a hands on way than she does.
She knows things I don't. We each do for the other things which fall under which ever catagory it does.
We are both thin. The odd thing is my wife points out other women, usually in a short skirt getting something at a reach so tha'r's 'parts showin', or of in the boating world a little vixen lifts her top I get to see, since my wife points it out to me
My wife checks out guys when we go to town and i could care a less. I don't look at guys unless I feel a threat, so I never really know which ones to point out to her, or I would.
Guys are guys except for the sissy guys that have been raised as of late, who are still guys but kinda delicate... Guys like to look at the female form, and some guy will like what any size of a women there is.
If my wife said i wasn't allowed to look, the next thing she would know is the door just got slammed shut and she was outside.
You women who will disagree just are used to delicate men who need your permissions, like mom used to do... That just isn't my way, and never was since my mother was a drunk. I left her when I was 14 and never looked back.
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But.....
At least some people would define as "over weight" anyway.
