Creepy? (dating, Christian, girls, love)

[tvdxer]

Most girls today seem to concern themselves over "creepers" and "creepy" (but otherwise seemingly innocuous) behavior, e.g. searching a crush's name on Google or saying certain things "too early". What would you think if a guy, who up to now you had been friends with, but who seemed attracted to you, said the following:

"You know, I could spend the rest of my life talking to you you're so fun to talk with...and you're so beautiful I could spend the rest of my life looking at you."

[AllAboutEve]

I think the thing about "creepy" is that it does not seem authentic, so it comes across as more of an infatuation/obsession than a sincere feeling of love/admiration.

For example, let's say you take these words: "You are the most amazing, beautiful person I have ever met. I want to spend the rest of my life with you. No one has ever mattered to me like you have." Now apply them to two different situations.

The first: The couple has been together for 2 years. They have grown together, and been through a lot of ups and downs. If one partner says this to the other, it is not creepy. It is romantic. There is a sincere bond there and the words only express what is already there.

The second: The couple has only been dating for a month. They don't know each other very well. They haven't really experienced a lot as a couple. Maybe one partner is not even that interested in the other. Now if one says the same exact words above - there is a very strong chance that it would be considered creepy!! That is because one display is a sign of genuine love and affection, and the other may be construed as more of an infatuation.

Context is everything.

[artsyguy]

I wouldn't like it. It would be slightly offensive. But not really creepy.

[nitokenshi]

I would think you have a shrine and you've been collecting her hair to attach to your love doll.

[rubber_factory]

Originally Posted by tvdxer

Most girls today seem to concern themselves over "creepers" and "creepy" (but otherwise seemingly innocuous) behavior, e.g. searching a crush's name on Google or saying certain things "too early". What would you think if a guy, who up to now you had been friends with, but who seemed attracted to you, said the following:

"You know, I could spend the rest of my life talking to you you're so fun to talk with...and you're so beautiful I could spend the rest of my life looking at you."

Saying that to someone you've already established as a friend?

I don't know. That'd be weird. There needs to be some semblance of order to things; if you meet someone and you like them, you should ask them out. It doesn't make any sense to become friends with them first, and then just drop a bomb on them like that. She's liable to think your elevator doesn't go to the top floor, and rightly so. But yeah, like Liz said, it's all about context.

[JeepGirl118]

I do not find it creepy. Would not fall in *love*. . but it has tingle factor. It's cute in a boyish way. I REALLLLyyyYYyyyYYY LIKE THAT IN MAN!

[allforcats]

The poll choices are a bit limited.
I'd enjoy the statement, which is lovely, I'd smile, and I'd expect to see over time if the statement had longevity.

[orangeapple]

Cute, but pretty cheesy. I'd take it as his way of letting me know he wants to be more than friends.

[tvdxer]

Interesting range of responses.

For those who would call it "obsession" or "infatuation": how are you supposed to begin a relationship, or bring it to the next level? Don't most romantic relationships begin with a combination of physical attraction and emotional infatuation, since, after all, you can't or are at least unlikely to truly "love" a person (in a romantic, not Christian or "caritas" sense) if you don't know them that well?

[tvdxer]

Originally Posted by rubber_factory

Saying that to someone you've already established as a friend?

I don't know. That'd be weird. There needs to be some semblance of order to things; if you meet someone and you like them, you should ask them out. It doesn't make any sense to become friends with them first, and then just drop a bomb on them like that. She's liable to think your elevator doesn't go to the top floor, and rightly so. But yeah, like Liz said, it's all about context.

Well, I'm thinking somebody you've established a light friendly relationship with, e.g. you had class together and have talked quite a bit together, you talk to each other on Facebook, etc., but you can interpret it however you want.