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Why do you feel the need to burn your bridges? Maybe someday you will need a job where she works, or need a ride home from the middle of nowhere when your car breaks down. Just continue to not respond, or respond but be busy.
You don't say why you feel the way you do, but unless you found out she's a child molestor or shoplifter, or something really unsavory, why not keep her on the back burner?
I'm 60, and in all these years, I have certainly been lukewarm about a few people, but I've never needed to tell them straight out to stay away from me. Why be hurtful?
I'm in the process of doing the fade out on a 'friend' for the second time. The only reason why i started talking to her again is b/c we were friends for a long time and good friends. But what i loved about her b/c extreme, her being very blunt. Being blunt became being mean over the years. And as each year passed she became meaner and meaner to people. Eventually i would get the mean comments and condescinding attitude. She would talk to me in ways that even strangers wouldn't...and this is a friend?
Not anymore. I wanted to tell her why i don't want to be her friend anymore, but it's hard to tell someone you just don't like them anymore. Besides, she's the type that would somehow turn her meaness into it being my problem.
I don't play the "fade-ignore" game. I like to be upfront and not leave people feeling dangled or ignored. Think of a time when someone left you dangling with no closure - did it feel good? Hopefully not. Give someone else the same courtesy that you would wish to have done to you. Step up to plate and tell the person, "It's been nice, but I do not feel that we are compatible in friendship." Takes much less time, you have been honest and you can look at yourself in the morning knowing that you were true to yourself and to another. Protect your character and dignity.
I don't play the "fade-ignore" game. I like to be upfront and not leave people feeling dangled or ignored. Think of a time when someone left you dangling with no closure - did it feel good? Hopefully not. Give someone else the same courtesy that you would wish to have done to you. Step up to plate and tell the person, "It's been nice, but I do not feel that we are compatible in friendship." Takes much less time, you have been honest and you can look at yourself in the morning knowing that you were true to yourself and to another. Protect your character and dignity.
I could take a hint. I mean, if someone did not return my calls, etc. I would say,'Fine. I`m not calling her anymore."
Although honesty is probably the best bet.
I don't play the "fade-ignore" game. I like to be upfront and not leave people feeling dangled or ignored. Think of a time when someone left you dangling with no closure - did it feel good? Hopefully not. Give someone else the same courtesy that you would wish to have done to you. Step up to plate and tell the person, "It's been nice, but I do not feel that we are compatible in friendship." Takes much less time, you have been honest and you can look at yourself in the morning knowing that you were true to yourself and to another. Protect your character and dignity.
It's not a game. To me, it's better to fade out, instead of having a blow-up, that can turn physical. Maybe you still like to fight and argue, i don't. & i can honestly say this confrontation has a 95% chance of turning physical would turn physical.
It's not a game. To me, it's better to fade out, instead of having a blow-up, that can turn physical. Maybe you still like to fight and argue, i don't. & i can honestly say this confrontation has a 95% chance of turning physical would turn physical.
Is that so. . .I have yet to have one altercation by being honest. Excuse me, do you know how and why altercations manifest? DIShonesty and avoidance.
It takes a mighty big head to actually think that one would throw themselves at your feet to either plead or beg for your continued friendship. No one is that much of a legend in other peoples minds. Fact.
So many people bury their heads in the sand like an Ostrich by choice. Cowardice. Which is an extreme pity - it's better to stand for something than nothing at all. If you stand for nothing, it's as good as being the walking dead.
Although, I do believe in honesty, I also have feelings. I would worry about hurting her feelings if I just blurted out.."Sorry, but we don`t have anything in common, so....you need to GET!"
I would tell her I have issues to figure out or personal problems......they could take long ....meanwhile she will move on.
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