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Old 08-16-2009, 12:18 PM
 
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Just curious , not gold diggers, just how many of you ladies think it is important he do maybe 75% of paying for stuff?
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Old 08-16-2009, 12:48 PM
 
Location: The Mango Tree
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This is going to be fun.
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Old 08-16-2009, 12:55 PM
 
Location: US Empire, Pac NW
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In before the "oh it doesn't matter" argument from women ...

It has been scientifically proven that money matters - to a degree. An average looking man who may be overweight but who makes well into six figures is more attractive than the same man who makes $35k a year as a clerk.

This has been shown time and again in public, random surveys.
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Old 08-16-2009, 01:05 PM
 
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I do tend to be attracted to men with money, but that doesn't mean I spend it for him. I'm quite the opposite. I like to pay for things when we go out and I like to take care of him, too.
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Old 08-16-2009, 01:18 PM
 
Location: Whoville....
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Just curious , not gold diggers, just how many of you ladies think it is important he do maybe 75% of paying for stuff?
Given that when guys pay they think they're owed something, I'll pay my own way, thank you. It's not worth it to let him pay ... unless you're planning on hopping in the sack with him anyhow then you might as well go for the free meal.
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Old 08-16-2009, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Houston
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Yes, it matters. I will not agree to a date if I cannot pay my half, but I think it is kind when a man pays for me. I also try and pay for him at times. I wouldn't pin it at 75% of the time, but I will admit that I enjoy it when a man pays for me. Makes me feel taken care of.

But, I don't expect it, nor do I demand a man has a lot of money. Yes, I am impressed when a man can pay for me a majority of the time, but it is the way he does it. I do not expect fancy dinners and the lot. I don't want someone going broke just to buy stuff! If he can only afford fish tacos, fish tacos it will be I will be more impressed by a lot of cheaper dates that he pays for then one or two really expensive dates. In the end, though, I am more concerned by the generosity of someone's nature than the actual cash that flows out of their bank account for me.
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Old 08-16-2009, 02:54 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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Just curious , not gold diggers, just how many of you ladies think it is important he do maybe 75% of paying for stuff?
If it's his stuff he needs to be paying 100% of it. I have no problem with men not having money; I have a problem with men expecting to have things with other people's money.
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Old 08-16-2009, 03:10 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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I think most women (no matter how independent) want to feel that at the end of the day, they can be taken care of by a man. (like Dr. Phil says, a soft place to fall).

Now don't rake me over the coals ladies....I am no stepford wife and hold my own in the relationship, but when I was dating I would sometimes grow tired of ME always having to look out for ME.

It's nice to know that I COULD be taken care of! No one wants to date a scrub but they don't have to be a Rockafeller either!
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Old 08-16-2009, 03:13 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Success is an element of attraction for me. A successful man represents assertiveness, ambition, security and responsibility (and vice versa). Beyond the initial couple of dates, if we decide to continue seeing each other, I will offer to pay but the men I date are usually not comfortable with that. I'll offer to cook dinner or buy him something special out of gratitude - it's not a form of reimbursement. We don't keep a balance sheet. I wouldn't ever say he should pay 75% of the time.

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Given that when guys pay they think they're owed something, I'll pay my own way, thank you. It's not worth it to let him pay ... unless you're planning on hopping in the sack with him anyhow then you might as well go for the free meal.
I respect wanting to and being able to pay your own way. But, doesn't this line of thinking re-enforce the notion that we do owe them, when we don't?

I feel no obligation to do anything I'm not ready or willing to do. I don't care how much he spends on a date.
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Old 08-16-2009, 03:17 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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I respect wanting to and being able to pay your own way. But, doesn't this line of thinking re-enforce the notion that we do owe them, when we don't?

I feel no obligation to do anything I'm not ready or willing to do. I don't care how much he spends on a date.
I work the opposite end of the spectrum; the more I dislike you - the more of your money I'll spend and then I have someone else pick me up...just kidding (well not really; I'll catch a cab if no one picks up their phone)
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