U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 1.5 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Jump to a detailed profile or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Business Search - 14 Million verified businesses
Search for:  near: 
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 08-22-2009, 04:04 AM
 
Location: far away in Europe
109 posts, read 188,408 times
Reputation: 79

Advertisements

... but myself
I went on a date once with this guy who told me how he built his career from scratch and that he's come a long way from the boy he used to be etc etc.
That was good, I thought to myself. Then he went on to say how, because he is a self made man, he does not have to respect anyone but himself, because he neither owes anything to anyone nor does he want to give anything to anyone. And that life is just great when you do your own thing and you don't have to care for anyone.
He was in his 40s and going on this date with me, apparently looking to fill SOME gap in his life, although his speech was along the lines of "I have everything, I don't need anything else or anyone".

I never went on a 2nd date, although he kept insisting for a long wile. I still think about his speech though every now and then and shrug my shoulders - how would you people interpret the "I don't have to respect anyone else" theory ?

Last edited by crossing over; 08-22-2009 at 04:28 AM..
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 08-22-2009, 04:20 AM
 
Location: Flo-Rida
1,997 posts, read 1,885,526 times
Reputation: 1525
It was probably for the best that you decided to move along. It sounds as if he wouldn't respect you either.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-22-2009, 05:26 AM
 
Location: So Cal
25,203 posts, read 19,048,230 times
Reputation: 23686
I'm a little surpirsed that a man at his age would think that way. The older I get the more I realize that I'm not alone, we need others, and yes we need to respect others.

Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-22-2009, 05:53 AM
 
Location: Ostend,Belgium....
8,145 posts, read 3,964,304 times
Reputation: 4399
He was probably saying that because he'd been hurt in the past and had built this wall and in telling you he was OK without anyone else, he was just distancing himself and trying to convince himself too probably...but "no man or woman is an island". Still, it's not your job to fix him. You probably would have had a huge problem on your hands listening to all his talks, unless you wanted to be his shrink and sort it out...
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-22-2009, 06:24 AM
 
943 posts, read 1,417,074 times
Reputation: 502
Quote:
Originally Posted by crossing over View Post
... but myself
I went on a date once with this guy who told me how he built his career from scratch and that he's come a long way from the boy he used to be etc etc.
That was good, I thought to myself. Then he went on to say how, because he is a self made man, he does not have to respect anyone but himself, because he neither owes anything to anyone nor does he want to give anything to anyone. And that life is just great when you do your own thing and you don't have to care for anyone.
He was in his 40s and going on this date with me, apparently looking to fill SOME gap in his life, although his speech was along the lines of "I have everything, I don't need anything else or anyone".

I never went on a 2nd date, although he kept insisting for a long wile. I still think about his speech though every now and then and shrug my shoulders - how would you people interpret the "I don't have to respect anyone else" theory ?
Committed life long bachelor....that is what he basically was telling you.

Don't know how his money and career will hug him at night though.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-22-2009, 06:26 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
10,593 posts, read 22,670,508 times
Reputation: 6090
Quote:
Originally Posted by crossing over View Post
... but myself
I went on a date once with this guy who told me how he built his career from scratch and that he's come a long way from the boy he used to be etc etc.
That was good, I thought to myself. Then he went on to say how, because he is a self made man, he does not have to respect anyone but himself, because he neither owes anything to anyone nor does he want to give anything to anyone. And that life is just great when you do your own thing and you don't have to care for anyone.
He was in his 40s and going on this date with me, apparently looking to fill SOME gap in his life, although his speech was along the lines of "I have everything, I don't need anything else or anyone".

I never went on a 2nd date, although he kept insisting for a long wile. I still think about his speech though every now and then and shrug my shoulders - how would you people interpret the "I don't have to respect anyone else" theory ?
I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut, I would have had to say something to him about what an azz he sounded like and certainly never go out on a date with him. He comes across as rude and arrogant, two things I don't need in a man I am dating.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-22-2009, 07:15 AM
 
4,384 posts, read 2,035,100 times
Reputation: 1612
Quote:
Originally Posted by crossing over View Post
... but myself
I went on a date once with this guy who told me how he built his career from scratch and that he's come a long way from the boy he used to be etc etc.
That was good, I thought to myself. Then he went on to say how, because he is a self made man, he does not have to respect anyone but himself, because he neither owes anything to anyone nor does he want to give anything to anyone. And that life is just great when you do your own thing and you don't have to care for anyone.
He was in his 40s and going on this date with me, apparently looking to fill SOME gap in his life, although his speech was along the lines of "I have everything, I don't need anything else or anyone".

I never went on a 2nd date, although he kept insisting for a long wile. I still think about his speech though every now and then and shrug my shoulders - how would you people interpret the "I don't have to respect anyone else" theory ?
Sounds like he is independent. what is wrong in that?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-22-2009, 07:41 AM
 
Location: Tampa baby!!
3,258 posts, read 5,808,147 times
Reputation: 1719
Quote:
Originally Posted by samston View Post
Sounds like he is independent. what is wrong in that?
When someone has to go around TELLING everyone how independent they are and how they don't need anyone else, he is arrogant not independent. Either that, or he is just so pathetic he is trying to convince HIMSELF.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-22-2009, 08:02 AM
 
3,628 posts, read 6,758,426 times
Reputation: 1948
Quote:
Originally Posted by floridadreamer View Post
When someone has to go around TELLING everyone how independent they are and how they don't need anyone else, he is arrogant not independent. Either that, or he is just so pathetic he is trying to convince HIMSELF.
I routinely say I don't need anyone else (because I don't) but I don't say it out in public with a big long rant.

Also, I do respect others besides myself, but I don't necessarily need them in my life unless they can help me out someway.

yes, this attitude is directly related from spending years and years of giving without getting anything back but heartbreak.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-22-2009, 08:06 AM
 
Location: Land of 10000 Lakes +
5,555 posts, read 4,197,698 times
Reputation: 8521
Bad news. Immature mentality. No good for anyone. I don't believe he respects himself for the very fact that he goes on and on about it. In fact, I think he has a huge problem with himself and passes it along to others. Life is never great when you don't care for anyone but yourself.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $84,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
Similar Threads

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2014, Advameg, Inc.

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25 - Top