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Old 08-25-2009, 03:35 PM
 
Location: miami, fla. enjoying the relative cool, for now ;)
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not a complaint. I know life throws curves and this one is a no biggie but our middle daughter and her husband have moved back in with us for good it seems. she's pregnant and due in about two weeks with their first baby and our fourth grandbaby. our youngest was on his way out and we were planning on home being just us two.

I know the economy is tough right now and we do have the room to spare even with our son remaining, it's not that we aren't happy to be able to help out but...... just saying!

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Old 08-25-2009, 03:37 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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not a complaint. I know life throws curves and this one is a no biggie but our middle daughter and her husband have moved back in with us for good it seems. she's pregnant and due in about two weeks with their first baby and our fourth grandbaby. our youngest was on his way out and we were planning on home being just us two.

I know the economy is tough right now and we do have the room to spare even with our son remaining, it's not that we aren't happy to be able to help out but...... just saying!

Why are they moving in "for good"???

I can see a year at most, but FOR GOOD??
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Old 08-25-2009, 03:40 PM
 
Location: South Bay Native
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Enabling? Are they at least providing for themselves? Are you not the least bit worried about their expectations towards you as built-in babysitters? Ground rules had better be written up pronto!
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Old 08-25-2009, 03:45 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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You have my sympathies. I have my son living with me. Started out he was there weekends as his job had him out of town during the week 95% of the time, I was living alone as my dh had just filed for divorce so it was helping us both. Then my son lost his job. For about 4 months his homeless friend lived mostly in my driveway. There are times that it is very trying. A couple shots of whisky help smooth the edges when needed.
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Old 08-25-2009, 03:53 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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While I applaud you for stepping up helping your daugher and son-in-law during these hard times, you must be very careful this does not turn into a "live-in-babysitter, pay-no-rent, yeah-no-stress" event for them. I can tell by your post you are already convinced this is permanent move and that is the WORST thing you can do. We as parents want to help our children but it does not mean we are to relieve them of their responsiblities as adults (and in this case soon to be parents).

By all means, make it clear that this is a temporary situation until they get back on their feet. Good luck!
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Old 08-25-2009, 03:54 PM
 
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It's a nice thing you are doing.

The economy is very bad. Enabling people who are druggies, drunks, or just irresponsible I can see protesting but sometimes good people cannot get jobs or make enough to pay the bills. That is the reality.

This is your child. I think giving them a time frame might be nice for everyone. Have them pay rent as soon as they can. Don't be a sucker and do free babysitting or childcare...
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Old 08-25-2009, 03:59 PM
 
Location: miami, fla. enjoying the relative cool, for now ;)
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I never did post a photo of my bride and myself did I?

I'm the handsome devil on the right!

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Old 08-25-2009, 04:22 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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Maybe you should collect $400 a month from them and put it in savings (maybe give it to them when they have enough to move out.. It would force them to save up and realize you are not a free ride.
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Old 08-25-2009, 04:29 PM
 
Location: East Valley, AZ
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Solution: Move into a 400 sq. foot loft and tell your kids that you and your wife have rekindled your love and are now expressing it 4 times a day.

Is it 5:00 yet? I'm starting to say weird things...
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Old 08-25-2009, 04:37 PM
 
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Why are they moving in "for good"???

I can see a year at most, but FOR GOOD??
Don't kid yourself. I know a few parents with this problem and it takes a GOOD economy to get them to leave. Don't expect that for at least a decade.

The husband might go, however, and that will (given the current economy) likely make her stay permanent!
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