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It takes two to tango, but the one who is married has the bigger portion of responsibility. I mean, the guy / girl going along with it should have some moral obligation but lets face it if the situation is right, that UNmarried participant isn't going to become morally aware any time soon.
As long as the third party knows that they are with a person who is with someone else, I believe they should also be held responsible. I don't want to hear that "You aren't married to/involved with them" crap.
As far as the OP goes, I don't think the question makes any sense. His question implies there's an impartial third-party that assigns blame, to whom we must answer. Maybe this question belongs in the religion forum?
Hmmm, I don't think anyone else had a problem understanding it. This is NOT about religion. Where did that come from? lol. I was asking what you, a CD member, thinks - not God.
When an SO (spouse, bf/gf, etc.) has a wandering eye and decides to cheat, do both parties in the affair share an equal amount of blame?
For example: Jane is married and Jon is single. Jane has an affair with Jon. Jane will obviously be branded as an adultress, but what about Jon? What's his part in all of this?
I had a friend say that Jon did not take the vows, so he shouldn't be held accountable. What do you think?
What does Jon know about Jane? If she never TELLS him that she's married, how is he expected to know?
A single person has no accountability to a marriage partner, but they are culpable in the destruction of amarriage in a situation like this. It's all about character and ethics - either you have them or you don't. If you don't, that's sad.
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Originally Posted by WyoNewk
While I have some mixed feelings about it, I tend to agree with your friend. Jon took no vows. If he knows that he may be breaking up a good marriage, he shouldn't do it, but if Jane is available, he knows it's not a good marriage.
Another person CANNOT break up a marriage. The marriage has problems to begin with. You CANNOT steal another person's spouse. If the spouse doesn't want to be stolen, it's not gonna happen.
Ok..that's off my chest.
The spouse who cheats is more at fault than the single person. Is the single person right? Nope but he broke no vows.
No- not just as responsible. The married person is the one responsible for the sanctity of their marriage, not some random person. That doesn't mean I condone going after a married guy either.
Another person CANNOT break up a marriage. The marriage has problems to begin with. You CANNOT steal another person's spouse. If the spouse doesn't want to be stolen, it's not gonna happen.
The spouse who cheats is more at fault than the single person. Is the single person right? Nope but he broke no vows.
yeah, exactly what Sue said, that's exactly what i agree with
So which is it? You can't be equally wrong yet not share an equal amount of the responsibility. That's like be half-pregnant.
Sure you can. Suppose I had a friend who wanted to kill his wife and I gave him the gun. Does the fact that he killed her and not me make me any better of a person? Of course not. We'd both be equally horrible people. But since he's the one who actually killed her and not me, that makes him more responsible. But obviously since I provided the gun, I deserve some blame too.
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