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Old 08-27-2009, 09:09 PM
 
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What besides coffee can you do for no more than an hour? Dinner..no. That's too date like. Lunch..maybe. Anything else?
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Old 08-27-2009, 09:56 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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I usually meet for a lite lunch, late enough to where there aren't that many people so we can have a little more privacy. I don't drink coffee, but that's a good idea as well. Some place public for sure.
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Old 08-27-2009, 11:24 PM
 
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I usually meet for a lite lunch, late enough to where there aren't that many people so we can have a little more privacy. I don't drink coffee, but that's a good idea as well. Some place public for sure.
I've done coffee or drink at like a patio bar or something.

As a man, asking a girl on a first meeting is almost like date .5, not the 1st actual date. So it's best to keep it somewhere public, not intense, low key, not bound by time dedication, and cheap.

Why should someone spend a lot of money meeting someone for the first time? Also, if it doesn't go well, you and her want to feel like you can leave at any time. Public is for her safety.

I usually worry more about what to do on the second or third date. That's where I feel like I need to be creative and separate myself from the others who have dated her by doing something fun.
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Old 08-28-2009, 07:43 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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I agree with PasstheChocolate, whenI was single, the first couple of meetings were something very light, like a lunch meeting or at a local tea/coffee shop. No sense in doing anything more involved until you decide you actually like the person.
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Old 08-28-2009, 07:47 AM
 
Location: Tampa baby!!
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I've never done the internet dating thing (met ex online but he lived overseas), but it seems like it would be better to go for coffee, and have an option with a park nearby to go for a walk or something. Still with people around of course, but more private and not rushed. I like to approach things on more of a casual basis than sitting and staring at each other for an hour.
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Old 08-28-2009, 07:52 AM
 
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I agree with PasstheChocolate, whenI was single, the first couple of meetings were something very light, like a lunch meeting or at a local tea/coffee shop. No sense in doing anything more involved until you decide you actually like the person.
Stay away from lunch. Women will say it's an okay idea, but it's friend territory. It's too "nice guy"-ish. Just do coffee or drink.
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Old 08-28-2009, 08:06 AM
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Location: Phoenix,AZ
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Y'all are gonna freak out on this one.

There I was, in a new city with a new job....etc......

.....and I found myself browsing through the personal ads. I didn't know a soul here in Phoenix, and the bar scene was getting old quick.

First date via the internet?

She invited me to her house.

I certainly had a WONDERFUL time, but evidently she didn't. I spent the night, left in the morning, and never heard from her again.

Second date via the internet?

She invited me to her house.

I showed up with flowers, beer, wine, and a frozen pizza.

We had a wonderful time, and I spent the night.

We've been married now for 4 1/2 years.....

I burned the pizza.
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Old 08-28-2009, 08:08 AM
 
Location: North Shore Long Island
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with my husband (we met online 10 years ago), we met at a TGIFridays for drinks and decided that if there was a mutual attraction/connection then we could take it to the next step...appetizers and dinner.

ETA: we also set it up during the week so we both had an easy out "I better get going! I have to be up early for work tomorrow." Fortunately neither one of us needed to resort to that excuse.

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Old 08-28-2009, 08:10 AM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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A drink after work or lunch. Tried many things and those seem to work the best. First dates are a get to know you process and shouldnt be more than an hour or it tends to get awkward.
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Old 08-28-2009, 08:12 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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Y'all are gonna freak out on this one.

There I was, in a new city with a new job....etc......

.....and I found myself browsing through the personal ads. I didn't know a soul here in Phoenix, and the bar scene was getting old quick.

First date via the internet?

She invited me to her house.

I certainly had a WONDERFUL time, but evidently she didn't. I spent the night, left in the morning, and never heard from her again.

Second date via the internet?

She invited me to her house.

I showed up with flowers, beer, wine, and a frozen pizza.

We had a wonderful time, and I spent the night.

We've been married now for 4 1/2 years.....

I burned the pizza.

You pizza-burner you! LOL Good job!!
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