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msboom · 08-31-2009, 02:10 PM

My boyfriend thinks it's fun to talk about being naked and stuff (we are very immature) but I feel if I say something along those lines (Im coming over, be naked waiting for me) he is turned off. (And he takes me too serious) Isn't it simply better to make the man initiate these things? Im sure it depends on the man but lately I seem to want more sex than him and I think it is bothering both of us. Id rather just back off (and watch what I say) than talk about it. By nature , are some men just agressors and if you make moves, does it take away thier desire?

Coolhand68 · 08-31-2009, 02:14 PM

I don't know too many guys who would be put off by that phone call. It sure as hell beats "pick up milk on the way home" or "the tests came back positive"...wut?

Thursday007 · 08-31-2009, 02:15 PM

the reoccuring statement you make is 'I think' in your post. Probably best to know for sure and I think it would be healthy for both of you to talk about it. It doesn't have to be a deathly serious discussion just "When I say this or that do you take it seriously and want me to? because i'm not ever sure. "

msboom · 08-31-2009, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Coolhand68

I don't know too many guys who would be put off by that phone call. It sure as hell beats "pick up milk on the way home" or "the tests came back positive"...wut?

that is where I get confused. He calls me up, talks about naked (in same conversation) and I say will you be naked waiting for me and he seems to get flustered and say to me well that would be weird, but I could be in my underwear.

Coolhand68 · 08-31-2009, 02:30 PM

Go there, tear his underwear off, and see what happens. If he puts up a fight, find yourself another Valentine.

msboom · 08-31-2009, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Coolhand68

Go there, tear his underwear off, and see what happens. If he puts up a fight, find yourself another Valentine.

actually, no, my plan is to back off. I don't want him to think Im too difficult to satisfy.

Dbl-r · 08-31-2009, 02:37 PM

Possibly just posibly he's never had it so good and now your testing his metal so to speak....and sometimes talk for some cheapens the experience....just be smooth and silent yet aggressive and hungry....hopefully he'll be up for it...

Coolhand68 · 08-31-2009, 02:39 PM

You should be able to have fun and be yourself msboom. You shouldn't be made to feel self conscious or insecure. Instead of second guessing yourself, just be yourself and what comes natural. You're allowed to have fun when you're flirting and pushing one another's buttons in a good way. Don't worry about what he thinks, there are no shortage of men who would welcome your advances and playful banter.

Thursday007 · 08-31-2009, 02:45 PM

re read my post - just frickin' ask. If you can't asks about it then there's a problem. Or just go over there naked under your own coat and see what he does. Either way you'll be fine.

If you want to go further when he closes the door throw him up against it and have your way with him and give a report in the morning.

msboom · 08-31-2009, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Thursday007

the reoccuring statement you make is 'I think' in your post. Probably best to know for sure and I think it would be healthy for both of you to talk about it. It doesn't have to be a deathly serious discussion just "When I say this or that do you take it seriously and want me to? because i'm not ever sure. "

re read this, I like it. thank-you