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Old 09-01-2009, 09:33 AM
 
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Well then it's their life and not yours being affected, I say let them be IMO.

If they need to adjust their lives, they'll do it themselves when the need arises that they have a real other want from life.
That's nice. As long as they wall themselves off in a cave and don't interact with others.

But since the question is framed around the opinion of women of men who indulged in this activity, suddenly it becomes very germane. Because it's asked from the standpoint of the game player's (In the electronic sense) suitability as a companion in life.

In that sense, then it becomes a very relevant question for the potential S/O who will face the possibility of prying the guy away from the narcotic effect of the Playstation to do the simplest things such as help around the house, find a job, watch the kids and generally contribute to the welfare of the household.

After all, anybody with an IQ higher than that of a rhesus monkey knows that marriage is a partnership. And any guy who, by his mid-20s, is still devoting more than an hour or so a week to playing a bunch of pointless video games is most likely to be deadweight in life for the other person. The same can be said for the guy who watches ESPN three hours every night, too.

Now, on the other hand, if you choose to be alone in life and if you can support yourself, then knock yourself out. Play Doom until your eyeballs bleed for all the rest of us care. It thins the herd.
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Old 09-01-2009, 09:35 AM
 
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So...I notice that the vast majority of my guy friends that are my age (20's-early 30s) are still playing video games on a regular basis. Most of them just come home from work and hit the XBOX or ps3. I cant stand the things. They bore me to no end, and I'd rather be out doing things in life. Anyways....what do women think about men that play video games? Since a good portion of my friends that are video game addicts are married I'm assuming that most women don't mind??
As a guy in his 30s, I stopped playing video games a long time ago, but I still see men my age, even older, who are into them. I can certainly understand why women would be turned off by a guy who still plays them, although I've met a number of women in my age group who also play them. I don't judge people who play video games, but it does say something about their priorities. When I get home, I walk my dog, workout, shower, eat dinner, and fix lunch for the next day. By the time I'm done, I just want to sit back and relax. If I had a partner, I'd rather spend that time with her. Plus, I sit in front of a computer all day. The last thing I want to do when I get home is sit in front of another screen.
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Old 09-01-2009, 09:37 AM
 
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So...I notice that the vast majority of my guy friends that are my age (20's-early 30s) are still playing video games on a regular basis. Most of them just come home from work and hit the XBOX or ps3. I cant stand the things. They bore me to no end, and I'd rather be out doing things in life. Anyways....what do women think about men that play video games? Since a good portion of my friends that are video game addicts are married I'm assuming that most women don't mind??
Hi Interpol76,

Oh they hate it.
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Old 09-01-2009, 09:38 AM
 
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As a guy in his 30s, I stopped playing video games a long time ago, but I still see men my age, even older, who are into them. I can certainly understand why women would be turned off by a guy who still plays them, although I've met a number of women in my age group who also play them. I don't judge people who play video games, but it does say something about their priorities. When I get home, I walk my dog, workout, shower, eat dinner, and fix lunch for the next day. By the time I'm done, I just want to sit back and relax. If I had a partner, I'd rather spend that time with her. Plus, I sit in front of a computer all day. The last thing I want to do when I get home is sit in front of another screen.
Exactly.
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Old 09-01-2009, 09:38 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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For married men, avoidance issue.
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Old 09-01-2009, 09:42 AM
 
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Personally, I think they are wasting their lives in front of an entertainment cube that offers no real benefit. I also think it is a HUGE sign of immaturity, and that they are still focused on the instant gratification of the game, which is a sign of being immature and unable to focus on something (like reading, education, learning a skill, etc) that will give them something back in the long run.

Go ahead, flame me . Those types of video games have always been verboten in my home.
Hi Annie3,

Lots of women feel that way. Many of them routinely watch chick flicks as well and somehow exempt this category. I believe the plausibility of Halo and "Under a Tuscan Sun" are about the same. I will sometimes play them in the winter instead of watching a movie. At least its interactive.
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Old 09-01-2009, 09:44 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Only time I don't have a problem with it, for adults that play them often is when it is their livelyhood. Eg. reviewers, professional gamers (rare but they do exist).
Even then everything in moderation. In my job If I don't take regular enforced breaks/holidays, its easy to burnout and believe me that ain't much fun.
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Old 09-01-2009, 09:50 AM
 
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My husband has been playing risk on the computer lately. We played together the other night. He's not into other gaming activities like when he was a kid. We're both too busy. And neither of us will try that world of warcraft stuff. I hear it's addictive. No thanks.
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Old 09-01-2009, 09:52 AM
 
Location: The Milky Way Galaxy
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Wow thank god my woman isnt as narrowminded as some of the girls on this forum.

I probably play about 1-3hrs about 5 days a week. I don't neglect my fiance or my priorities (I'm a neat freak so I'm constantly cleaning my apartment, doing laundry once a week, etc.). I hold down a steady job (knock on wood) and video games have never affected my working or personal life.

I grew up with video games and always had fun with it. I find it a stress reliever sometimes too when I want to get out of reality. I'm an avid baseball and football fan so I'm always playing sports games as well.

Thats not to say I don't do physical outdoors stuff, I go hiking, biking, avid tennis player, and go snowboarding. I'm in NYC every weekend visiting a new restaurant, bar, or eatery. I like to take in the sights of the NYC skyline near my apartment from the Jersey side where there is a nice park. I have a Mustang that I take on scenic drives all the time.

My fiancee doesn't play video games but she knows its a hobby and doesn't control my life. She's never knocked it nor complained about me having a Wii or Playstation. She'll play once in a while but its just not her thing which is fine. I can tell you we've never fought over anything having to do with my video game playing nor has it affected anything with our relationship.

Sometimes people need to accept the fact that just because they're not interested in something doesn't mean someone else isn't. I will say the video game player who plays like its a second job does and will have future issues if he/she (YES there are growing numbers of female players out there) decides to be in a relationship with a non-gamer.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:07 AM
 
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That's nice. As long as they wall themselves off in a cave and don't interact with others.

But since the question is framed around the opinion of women of men who indulged in this activity, suddenly it becomes very germane. Because it's asked from the standpoint of the game player's (In the electronic sense) suitability as a companion in life.

In that sense, then it becomes a very relevant question for the potential S/O who will face the possibility of prying the guy away from the narcotic effect of the Playstation to do the simplest things such as help around the house, find a job, watch the kids and generally contribute to the welfare of the household.

After all, anybody with an IQ higher than that of a rhesus monkey knows that marriage is a partnership. And any guy who, by his mid-20s, is still devoting more than an hour or so a week to playing a bunch of pointless video games is most likely to be deadweight in life for the other person. The same can be said for the guy who watches ESPN three hours every night, too.

Now, on the other hand, if you choose to be alone in life and if you can support yourself, then knock yourself out. Play Doom until your eyeballs bleed for all the rest of us care. It thins the herd.
The question then becomes: Didn't she see that he was a game-playing addict before committing or marrying him?
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