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Old 09-01-2009, 10:12 AM
 
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I haven't read all the responses, but here's my take.

My BF, who's almost 34, plays XBox. He has made many friends on XBox Live and enjoys playing with them and they keep in touch outside of the forum. I'd much rather have him at home playing in his "Nerd Cave" with online friends then someone who is out doing God knows what with God knows who. When we met I knew it was a hobby of his, so I deal. When he lived alone, he played all of the time. Now that we live together (along with my 4 y/o daughter) he sets aside time to play when there's a game out there worth grabbing his attention.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:12 AM
 
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The question then becomes: Didn't she see that he was a game-playing addict before committing or marrying him?
Not necessarily. Perhaps he's just on his best behavior. It's just like guys with alcohol, drug or gambling problems. People like that are just good at hiding it.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:14 AM
 
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Not necessarily. Perhaps he's just on his best behavior. It's just like guys with alcohol, drug or gambling problems. People like that are just good at hiding it.
True and there's probably plenty of actors and actresses out there that portray a different "them" than the actual in the dating world.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:29 AM
 
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And any guy who, by his mid-20s, is still devoting more than an hour or so a week to playing a bunch of pointless video games is most likely to be deadweight in life for the other person. The same can be said for the guy who watches ESPN three hours every night, too.
The guys who sit around watching ESPN all day or stay home to watch the NFL draft make me laugh. No one's asking you to give up all your hobbies or spend all your free time with your partner. But there's something a little sad about watching who gets picked for what team.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:31 AM
 
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I'm a woman, and I occasionally play video games.

It's not the video game playing that would turn me off of a guy. It would be how much, how often, how does it take away from the rest of his life...just like any other habit.

p.s. I also watch the draft. BFD. It's one day a year...and I want to see who goes first round.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:35 AM
 
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The guys who sit around watching ESPN all day or stay home to watch the NFL draft make me laugh. No one's asking you to give up all your hobbies or spend all your free time with your partner. But there's something a little sad about watching who gets picked for what team.
Yep. Look, don't get me wrong. I love to follow my favorite team.

But to me, television and video games are a poor substitute for life. I mean, there are books to read, people to meet, things to see, new experiences to be had, cool things to learn. Squandering your precious time blasting imaginary space aliens to me is a waste of life.

I participated in a study where we interviewed terminal patients in hospice care. You know what every single one of them said? "I wish I had spent more of my life doing _______________." Not one of them wished they had devoted a few more hours of their lives watching television or playing a game.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:41 AM
 
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My belief is that as long as you meet all your responsibilities whatever you want to do in your spare time is your business.

Research is showing video games can actually help keep different parts of your brain stimulated and alive. Especially for older folks.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:45 AM
 
Location: Coral Springs, Fl
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It's immature, grow up!
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:48 AM
 
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Yep. Look, don't get me wrong. I love to follow my favorite team.

But to me, television and video games are a poor substitute for life. I mean, there are books to read, people to meet, things to see, new experiences to be had, cool things to learn. Squandering your precious time blasting imaginary space aliens to me is a waste of life.

I participated in a study where we interviewed terminal patients in hospice care. You know what every single one of them said? "I wish I had spent more of my life doing _______________." Not one of them wished they had devoted a few more hours of their lives watching television or playing a game.
When I was younger, I played video games and watched a lot of TV. When I look back, I think about how much I wasted and how I could've made better use of that time. Maybe if I had spent one less hour in front of the TV and used that hour instead to go for a jog or bike ride, I would've been in better shape back then.
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Old 09-01-2009, 10:50 AM
 
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i don't have a problem with men playing video games, some don't always have time to go out & have fun so that's how they release their energy, but when it comes to them being married i believe it's time to give the xbox, playstation, gameboy, etc... a break. every once in awhile is ok, all the time NO.lol.. if you're that bored find another job, go to school, go to the park with the fam, find something constructive to do.
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