How many of you are single or married?

[Pikantari]

What am I? I don't know. As of 090107 I will say separated. So, in a year or so divorced.

[beowulf7]

Originally Posted by cinderobyn

What am I? I don't know. As of 090107 I will say separated. So, in a year or so divorced.

Uhh, congrats?

[hollygolightly]

I am single but in a LTR. I was once engaged to be married, thank God that never happened, he was a really bad person, would've been the worst mistake I could've made (other than the 2 years I wasted on him). My best girl friend's divorce was just finalized yesterday, she doesn't exactly look fondly on the institution of marriage, they were together for almost 8 years before they got married, then married and had one child, and realized they weren't right for each other after all that. The divorce wasn't too messy, but expensive and emotionally exhausting. He wasn't a bad guy, just somewhat lazy and a little bit selfish, and who isn't sometimes . It makes me wonder how marriages ever work, if you can be with someone for that long, you would think by then you would inherently know whether they were marriage material or not... It kind of scares me, does anyone here think marriage is always a gamble?

[beowulf7]

I was surprised to hear that a childhood friend's parents got a divorce some 25-30 years later. That's quite rare for a couple who have been together that long to get a divorce.

[Claire_F]

Originally Posted by hollygolightly

It kind of scares me, does anyone here think marriage is always a gamble?

I don't think so. I think more often than not, people are so willing to overlook the red flags - either for the sake of being married, or out of fear of being alone - and end up marrying someone who wasn't right for them in the first place.