All you guys think about is money! (advice, pictures, reason)

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by Hope.Street

Perhaps he just wanted some reassurance that you weren't some dude pretending to be a woman?

The name 'PassTheChocolate' -- that's a way cute name! Is that what you say to your "girlfriends" when you're all gathered round the coffee table talking crap about "mens" and gossiping about mens who pay with cash?

Did you come up with that all by yourself? LOL...get in line with the other geniuses.

[valeeighty2]

Originally Posted by Hope.Street

Perhaps he just wanted some reassurance that you weren't some dude pretending to be a woman?

The name 'PassTheChocolate' -- that's a way cute name! Is that what you say to your "girlfriends" when you're all gathered round the coffee table talking crap about "mens" and gossiping about mens who pay with cash?

Why would he need reassurance when they have a mutual acquaintance?

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by valeeighty2

Why would he need reassurance when they have a mutual acquaintance?

It seems Hope.Street is a reincarnation of some other charmer here, given his participation in the broke men dating thread. 44 posts, registered within the last 4 days.

• About Hope.Street Marital/Relationship status Not answered

• Status updates Here to expose people's stupidity - Yesterday 10:44 PM

Such an honorable mission. LOL. Life must be dull.

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

It seems Hope.Street is a reincarnation of some other charmer here, given his participation in the broke men dating thread. 44 posts, registered within the last 4 days.

• About Hope.Street Marital/Relationship status Not answered

• Status updates Here to expose people's stupidity - Yesterday 10:44 PM

Such an honorable mission. LOL. Life must be dull.

Your fan following is on the rise

[Huckleberry3911948]

your made a good offer more than fair. something is wrong, keep walking.

[DennyCrane]

What's funny is that the same people complaining about not getting a photo would turn around and question any photo they receive. Is this a recent photo? How do I know this is you?

It's also funny how people see dating as some kind of game where each side is assumed to be tricking the other. If you're someone who's entertaining the idea of a setup, online dating, speed dating, or something else, go in with an open mind. But if walk in looking for signs that the other person is trying to deceive you, then you're better off staying clear. I would never want to date someone who's already biased against the whole process.

I agree with PTC. It's sad that a person's concern for their privacy can't be accepted at face value, but is termed an excuse to just be secretive.

[valeeighty2]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

It seems Hope.Street is a reincarnation of some other charmer here, given his participation in the broke men dating thread. 44 posts, registered within the last 4 days.

• About Hope.Street Marital/Relationship status Not answered

• Status updates Here to expose people's stupidity - Yesterday 10:44 PM

Such an honorable mission. LOL. Life must be dull.

LOL... must be...

[wanneroo]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

Of course it does, but let's use your line of thinking. How do you know the person in the photo isn't actually a man, or that the photo isn't 2 years old, or that the person in the photo is actually her? Wouldn't the end result be the same - you're going to meet and see what she really looks like?

Considering I am not a snooty person, you'd be wrong again. But you're not open to that reality.

I agree! What a brilliant observation. He was welcome to take his time and ask questions. He jumped to money and dinner in 2.3 seconds. He wanted a photo, which is fine, but had no interest in getting to know me before assessing whether or not I was worth the expense of joining him for dinner. If you don't see anything wrong with that, so be it. It's no shocker.

What is it with people who see everything as some sort of game? Messing with people is a waste of my time. I have no respect for that; I don't see the point or the glory in it. It is a sad state of affairs when a person's concern for their privacy and safey cannot be accepted for what it actually is. There is no other option than to have some hidden agenda or game going on.

If someone misrepresented themselves in a photo then duh that would be the end. I'd know they are a liar. End of story.

I would say sending a blurry photo is snooty. What is the point? Makes no sense. Apparently you are making a "statement", what that might be could be one of the reasons I listed previously.

I think you do need to examine what you are doing. You do come across as hostile. I'm sure the guy sensed the hostility as well. The dinner thing I can understand since it is hard to get to know someone with a third party sometimes in the middle.

Privacy and safety are two things I am big on. Certainly I respect the right of those to be cautious and retain some privacy. However, if you want to form a relationship I can't do that with a blurry photo and a Q&A session moderated by a friend with you sitting in a burqa. And I'm sure that guy couldn't do that either. Everything in life is a risk. Likely if the guy had malicious intent(which if so would certainly call into question your matchmaking "friend") he would have gone through all the routine as you requested and then once done he would do whatever he was going to do. It might have taken a day, a week, a month doesn't matter. Your blurry photo and bluff demands isn't really a deterrent.

One of the issues I think people have with relationships is they lack empathy, possibly due to sociopathic tendencies. It's all about them, but they never really think or care about how the other person may view things. This case is a perfect example. Never was there any consideration for the other man's viewpoint, essentially PTC could come on here and rationalize and blame this guy for the outrageous request for a photo, etc. etc. And then everyone could say "men suck" and all that crap. Quite silly actually.

[wanneroo]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

LMAO, you have distorted this entire situation to suit your need for drama and thinking the worst; that is no great feat. Congratulations on being so common. This person you are describing is not me, but if it is air to your breath to believe this, have at it. I recall from my early days here, you have plenty of reason to project and deflect.

If I didn't want to bother, I wouldn't have agreed to giving it a shot. I am already in control and I do run my show. I get to choose what I do and don't allow in my life. Apparently you have a problem with this when you refuse to see the difference between ego and self-respect.

I am not so deficient that I have to take from someone else's dignity and manhood to elevate myself. I have boundaries that some of the less marketable prefer to define as inflexibility and snootiness. That's okay too, at least they won't waste my time.

I would rather have a man who actually recognizes the value of these boundaries and respects them, than some cad who's money makes him and not the other way around. This man was clearly the former.

Well considering my life is drama free and I don't depend on CD to use as a rag to rationalize and seek justification for my behavior, it would seem you are the one projecting.

You say you are not snooty, but yet in threads you post you are always very hostile, defensive and angry with anyone that doesn't agree with you.

Running your own space is great and boundaries are great. However if you are locked up like Fort Knox you can't go around blowharding about why men and you don't get along.

Ultimately for relationships to happen there is always some compromise there. Apparently you are uncompromising and hence there are consequences you have to accept, which is most men are not going to be interested in that. Otherwise stay single because only some meek wimpy guy will be interested.

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

It seems Hope.Street is a reincarnation of some other charmer here, given his participation in the broke men dating thread. 44 posts, registered within the last 4 days.

It's pretty easy to note. He has a special type of annoying misery that's unique to these boards.