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Old 09-04-2009, 10:36 PM
 
Location: SW Ohio
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I know how I知 going to approach this but I have a question (mainly for the ladies) but an opinion or two is appreciated. I知 taking this a day & date at a time but I知 curious as to why a 45 year old female who is 努alk into a wall good looking, has a great career both money & prestige wise as well as a history of financial success would ask an unemployed 50 year old man out. Due to my current situation I知 斗aying low as far as relationships go but I couldn稚 reject her invitation for a date. The first date went well and a 2nd date is on for tomorrow. If we continue to see one another a few more times I値l askBut for now I知 curious what others think.
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Old 09-04-2009, 10:41 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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She must find your attractive, good company, or she`s just horny.
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Old 09-04-2009, 10:47 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Old 09-04-2009, 11:27 PM
 
Location: Bronx, NY
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Maybe she likes guys that are unemployed so she can feel superior or maybe she thinks you're a great guy. So yeah I advice you to keep dating her to see wat she is all about.
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Old 09-04-2009, 11:38 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I know how I知 going to approach this but I have a question (mainly for the ladies) but an opinion or two is appreciated. I知 taking this a day & date at a time but I知 curious as to why....
Maybe she likes you. Don't think too hard about it and have a good time.

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Old 09-05-2009, 03:53 AM
 
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Maybe she likes you. Don't think too hard about it and have a good time.

Ditto and I speak from some experience. Women in that position do not NEED a man, they WANT them which is actually to your benefit - I'd rather be wanted than needed. You're looking at it from a 1950's standpoint of a woman needing a man to support her. Relax. Have a great time.
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Old 09-05-2009, 04:21 AM
 
Location: Tampa baby!!
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Maybe, just maybe she's independent enough NOT to be after someone for their money, because she has her own. Chances are at 45 she's dated enough corporate sleazes to know a decent man when she sees him.
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Old 09-05-2009, 05:50 AM
 
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Ditto and I speak from some experience. Women in that position do not NEED a man, they WANT them which is actually to your benefit - I'd rather be wanted than needed. You're looking at it from a 1950's standpoint of a woman needing a man to support her. Relax. Have a great time.
I absolutely agree with you. I am a woman in the same situation.
I don't need a man to take care of me, but I have the freedom to enjoy the company of a man that makes me happy.
Be your charming self and just see what happens.
On the other hand, if she is paying for the dates, that probably will hurt you emotionally so you better find a job fast. Otherwise, being from our generation, you will grow to resent her and she probably doesn't deserve that.
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Old 09-05-2009, 07:44 AM
 
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I know how I知 going to approach this but I have a question (mainly for the ladies) but an opinion or two is appreciated. I知 taking this a day & date at a time but I知 curious as to why a 45 year old female who is 努alk into a wall good looking, has a great career both money & prestige wise as well as a history of financial success would ask an unemployed 50 year old man out. Due to my current situation I知 斗aying low as far as relationships go but I couldn稚 reject her invitation for a date. The first date went well and a 2nd date is on for tomorrow. If we continue to see one another a few more times I値l askBut for now I知 curious what others think.

I don't know if it's really worth asking her, she may not really know why either.

It could be that she sees your current unemployment as a temporary situation and knows you have more potential - but - it could be a subconscious need for power in the relationship.

It's just like some men "need" a woman that earns much less, there are women that don't want an equal partnership for reasons of their own.
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Old 09-05-2009, 07:51 AM
 
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A woman like that doesnt need a man to take care of her. She takes what she wants from things and its really as simple as that. You don't get to that level not knowing people lose jobs etc. The difference in women like that (or people in general) is after failure..they keep going. Probably you are a hot 50 year old too. Those are rare.
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