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Old 09-06-2009, 10:09 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I can not imagine being in pain or be suffering over not being able to come.. You make no sense at all, and it sounds too me that you need professional help.
Ha ha...no, it was her lack of interest in me as a person, she objectified me, used me. Yuck.

I'm a PERSON, and should be treated as such.

 
Old 09-06-2009, 10:23 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Do you understand how having casual sex with a women is disrespecting her?
Wow, hadn't even SEEN this post from you. Yes, I can see how it's disrespectful, as I've been disrespected in the same way.
 
Old 09-06-2009, 10:34 PM
 
Location: NZ Wellington
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Ha ha...no, it was her lack of interest in me as a person, she objectified me, used me. Yuck.

I'm a PERSON, and should be treated as such.
You're don't sound straight.
 
Old 09-06-2009, 10:35 PM
 
Location: NZ Wellington
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Wow, hadn't even SEEN this post from you. Yes, I can see how it's disrespectful, as I've been disrespected in the same way.
I need more info then that to understand.
 
Old 09-06-2009, 10:42 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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A woman treated me as an object instead of considering me as a person. Went for one aspect, instead of who I am in totality. That's disrespectful.
 
Old 09-06-2009, 10:44 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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You're don't sound straight.

How so? Because I want MORE than sex--you think it indicates I'm not "straight"?

Pity.
 
Old 09-06-2009, 10:45 PM
 
Location: NZ Wellington
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How so? Because I want MORE than sex--you think it indicates I'm not "straight"?

Pity.
No, feeling disgusted by having sex, is why I think you are not straight.
 
Old 09-06-2009, 10:53 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I've said that there's nothing wrong with sex...but I want more than JUST sex. I don't find it disgusting if there's actual love or caring involved. But if the person doesn't give a crap about you, then it's sleazy.
 
Old 09-07-2009, 04:01 AM
 
Location: NZ Wellington
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Why is it "wrong" to want casual sex?

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Oh that should be another ridiculous attempt to make anyone with a libido feel bad. Got news for you, that's everyone.

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1. 33 STD's among over 40,000,000 adult Americans . 2 fatal, some cause sterility for life, many are permanent for life, many cannot be prevented with a condom.
In 2003 there where 5881 people were killed per 40 million in auto accidents. That's 294,050% higher then STI infections.

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2. Risk of pregnancy .
You think a child is expensive the cost of all these accidents was over 230 billion dollars.

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3. Aborting the developing human being in the womb is murder because its personhood was established at conception according to 80 of the worlds top Medical Doctors and Scientists who met with the U.S. Congree in the 1980's.
You know.. letting a egg die is also murder.. oh wait..
Wow, dr of the 1980s sure must have a vast superior knowledge of the human anatomy when comparing the the dr of 2009.. I understand completely how you came to that conclusion.

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4. The act of sex is THE most intimate thing a person can share with another and it cements the 2 people together . When it is casual, it is superficial because one or both participants do not want the relationship to be cemented.
And here I had come to the conclusion that the most intimate thing a person could share with another is their personality, who that person is, and everything about them. No just sex.

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5. When the friendship parts ways, emotional hurt and damage takes place which usually makes the person hurt untrusting in the future and/or suffer from abandonment in their Mind.
What has sex got to do with this fact. You will be emotional hurt with or without sex, if you are rejected.

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6. It causes men and women to look at the opposite sex in an unhealthy manner ; each sees the other being self centered to just get ones needs met. , then basically disposed of.
I wasn't the one accusing everyone of a certain gender to be "pigs". Seems to me those people will always look at the opposite sex in an unhealthy manner, and it didn't even take causal sex!

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7. The sexual union was meant for more than just a mere copulation (the using of another for sexual gratification). It was designed for maximum commitment that allows both people to grow together and bond together for a lifetime.
Sexual union? Are you serious? Get your mind out of the gutter. There is more to a "union" then sex.

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8. Men look down on women in general when they are easy to have sex with because they have little or no self respect.
Ok. You make 2 failed assumptions. Men look down on women who want sex, and women who want sex have no self respect.
Wanting sex, isn't going around having intercourse with ever person you see. Its people like you who make women think, that they need to suppress their libido. If you got any female friends that are open and trust you enough to tell you anything, you ask them how many times a day they had to masturbate to suppress it.

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9. It causes worship of the Human Body to the point it becomes an idol.
Even if this is true, whats wrong with that?

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10. It cause many boys/men (especially) to brag to their peers about thier conquest , which is wrong.
Conquest? You have been watching too many teen movies. In a world where males and females are equal, there are very few males who still think, that women are something to conquer.

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11. It blinds both people to each others real identity , faults, issues, etc... to where they cannot think objectively about them. This causes many couples to eventually get married with all kinds of problems going into the marriage with.
You mean two people who are constantly high lusting after each other will truly identify faults issues etc... and they will be able to think objectively... Yea, I'm sure that right.

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12. It easily becomes and addiction like a drug.
People get addicted to things that are far worst then casual sex.

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13 . It causes jealously and often rage, when a person has multiple sex partners at the same time .
If cause jealously and often rage, when someone cheats on their spouse, lets ban marriage.. no wait..

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14. It breaks up relationships, marriages, families , when people stray from them to have casual sex.
That is not casual sex, that called infidelity.

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15. Revenge often occurs if a b/f or husband finds out who you are for messing with their g/f or wife.....or vice versa. Many have lost their lives from being in a triangle .
Fail.

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16 . It is a bad example to young people and they often get into casual sex at a very early stage and can get shattered emotionally.
Abstinence only programs don't work.

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17. It often springboards into other sexual behaviour such as Porn addiction .
Do you feel good about yourself making random things up like this?

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18 . It often allows for single parent mothering which is a difficult task and life.
50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.
Oh wait we are talking about casual sex, sorry, I miss understood.

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19. The male doesnt feel obligated or responsible if a birth occurs ., and is unlikely to help the Mother thru the pregnancy and/or financially support his child.
Are you kidding, what kind of man would leave his child behind!

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20. Many single parent Mothers go on welfare which puts a burden on the Country's tax payers and Government.
50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri. - opps.

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21 . It breeds a selfish , hedonistic, and narcissitic attitude and life especially for the male.
Especially for males, yes we are so evil, forcing these women to have sex with us.

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22 . It cheapens the view of all women/girls and causes the male to view them as being only good for one thing.
A male who thinks that, probably got abused by his teenage baby sitter.

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23. It brings shame to Parents IF they taught their children right from wrong when growing up.
Bias assumption.

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24. It shows Parents that what they taught their kids growing up , wasnt taken seriously and is unimportant. It demeans the values their Parents had and wanted for their children.
Seems like you are just padding this one, did you run out of things to say?

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25. It shows a lack of self control by not waiting till marriage and making the wedding night special like its supposed to be.
Abstinence only programs don't work!

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26. If the couple end up getting married, statistics show their marriage is less likely to make it then they have to go thru the gut wrenching time of divorce which may include children who feel the burden.
What has this got to do with casual sex?

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27. It will increase the number of STD's in circulation the more casual sex is done with others. Same for the emotional consequences.
Yea, but so does abstinence only programs don't work.

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28. If makes a person feel they are entitled to use another for an orgasm , when they are not entitled at all.
Why isn't someone entitle to an orgasm... this should be a interesting answer.

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29 . We all know, inherently, that it is wrong to have sex outside of marriage but we will decieve ourselves willfully so we can do whatever we want .
You know you could use this line of logic to justify any thing right?

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30. It is a sign of immaturity because one cannot control oneself.
You confuse can not, with do not see a reason to listen to people like you.

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31 . It increases our sex saturated society which is already thoroughly out of control .
Yea sex makes people unhappy.

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32. It often breeds an attitude of 'I could care less just so long as I get my fun in' , which plays out in other areas of ones life.
You really do like making things up.

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33. It makes a person look down on good morals and values because what they are doing isnt correct.
you need to try a little harder.

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34. A person makes up excuses for continuing the behaviour by suppressing their moral conscience, thus willfully duping themselves. That is never a correct thing to do.
You are very delusional.

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35 . After a lifelong pursuit of casual sex, it leaves one feeling unfulfilled in life .
I would be too, if I spent my entire life, never find the one.

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36. It inhibites getting into a deeper relationship with another so a person never gets to experience a deep satisfying relationship...only a surface one cause its all centered around momentary sex.
Or maybe, maybe I would look for more then just sex to hold us together.

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37. It cheats both people out of knowing one another on a deep emotional level because casual sex doesnt allow for such a thing.
Yea like 2 horny people will know each other far more if they don't get rid of that tension.

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38. It renders both people to nothing more than forest animals seeking to get their own needs met...when human beings are above forest animals and have infinite intrinsic worth .
We are far less then infinity greater then animals.

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39 . It causes a lack of self dignity within a person because deep down inside, they know casual sex is wrong to do.
Repeating it doesn't make it true.

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40 . It causes people to look down on those who desire to refrain from having casual sex and encourages name calling in order to help justify their pursuit of a casual sex lifestyle. Thus, they self decieve themselves which is always wrong to do.
The only name calling has been from people who want to abstinence only.

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41 . Many feel pushed into casual sex in order not to be alone, or to keep the other around so they can *feel they have someone significant in their life.
Again, there is more to a relationship then sex, one day you will understand that.

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42 . Many want to exit the lifestyle due to guilt but they feel enslaved to it because a bond has deepened with the other person which they cant break free from.
Your little stories are getting me down.

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43 . An irresponsible and uncaring mass Media fools the people into casual sex from the relentless advertising, tv programs, radio programs, movies, billboards, songs, etc...which promises so much fun . So the immoral mass Media wins at the expense of common people who were decieved.
Oh I get it, if someone thinks differently too you they are immoral.. you know the catholic church though the same thing as the slaughter people who think differently.

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44 . The value of a person becomes based on how well they perform and satisfy the other person ; if they dont do a good job, then they get left for someone else until they become a bore then they get left for someone else...ad infinitum.
If you can't perform don't step up tot he plate.

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45. It puts a big emphasis on 'what can you do for ME ?' , thereby making YOU more important than anyone else or anything else. It leads to strong ego-centricism thereby making oneself their own god.
Wow, causal sex, will make you believe you are a god.. I see exactly how you come to that conclusion.

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46. It becomes bad for an entire Nation when sexual hedonism runs rampant as it has in EVERY previous era of history .
You just tried to justify sexual hedonism now you are against it!

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47. It is wrought with many other repercussions and consequences which have not been mentioned above.
Everything you do has a consequences.

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48. Our sexual nature is only ONE part of our Being and there is nothing that says it has to be used by us.
There is nothing say that we shouldn't be used by us

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49. People can feel complete satisfaction in life minus having casual sex with another. In America, we've been duped into thinking we cant.
I agree with the first sentenced. In a free country it is our choice.

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50. Many Companies make money off of people who are sexually irresponsible , who are duped to thinking it is their *right to have illicit sex , and who think they cant live without it . It is wrong to allow such Companies to experience huge financial gain from their exploiting your genitals to be used in a wrongful manner .
Again, making the assumption that its is wrong.

Your entire list is nothing more then "sex is wrong because I say so". How about you actually try and make a point, and not just claim that something is wrong because you said so.
 
Old 09-07-2009, 04:03 AM
 
Location: NZ Wellington
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I've said that there's nothing wrong with sex...but I want more than JUST sex. I don't find it disgusting if there's actual love or caring involved. But if the person doesn't give a crap about you, then it's sleazy.
But you just said sex was like being raped...
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