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Old 09-07-2009, 07:45 AM
 
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As a Man, Id be very interested in knowing what would be pleasing to you as a female, to hear coming from a Man who wants to know you better ? Would a Man just coming straight out with : " Ive liked you for some time now,and id like to get to know you better" be enough, or, does there need to be some more elaboration ? Its been awhile since ive been in this position . Thanks for what you can offer up to us sort of bashful Guys that want to get the job done .
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:51 AM
 
Location: Northern VA
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I think what you mentioned is a good start. I prefer a polite, honest approach...but I usually get the cocky, 'you know you want me' approach, which I absolutely hate. I don't think you need to elaborate, her response will lead to further discussion.
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:53 AM
 
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I think it depends if you are a stranger or someone a person has known for awhile.

Let's assume the 2 people are co-workers. There has to be some chemistry. The lady should give you some signs she knows you are a nice person (chatting, smiling, flirting). You can ask her to lunch. You can flirt. You can leave a little gift (a candy bar, some trinket).

If you are a stranger to her, well, that can get a bit complicated. People are wary today.

PS Stop calling girls/women 'females.' It's just creepy...
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:55 AM
 
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Something witty (not forced) directed to or about someone else if we are in line somewhere (leaning over, 'is that a wig or a dead animal on her head) or doing something or about himself or even something I'm doing- a sort of off the cuff witty remark, will get my attention every time. There's something that comes across as confident and less pressured about it. If she doesn't laugh you'll know right away.

A backwards example:
I was in a grocery store line and there was a guy behind me who had one of those 10 roll packages of toilet paper and I laughed and said (as the cashier was handing me my change) 'Big weekend planned?" Rhetorically, of course. He started laughing and caught up with me in the parking lot and we dated for 2 years.

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Old 09-07-2009, 08:47 AM
 
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"Do you e-bay on the first date?"
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Old 09-07-2009, 09:22 AM
 
Location: Some place very cold
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I would just be honest without being dramatic. "Something about you really clicks for me. I'd like to get to know you better. How about dinner?"
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Old 09-07-2009, 09:23 AM
 
Location: southern california
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excessive spending seems to always be appreciated.
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Old 09-07-2009, 09:32 AM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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excessive spending seems to always be appreciated.
Not!

I think what you have in mind works fine. It's honest and respectful.
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Old 09-07-2009, 09:39 AM
 
Location: Birmingham
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It all depends on the lady and what she likes.

I personally like the approach of "I've liked you for some time, will you go to "sdkfewihr" place on Saturday? I have always been attracted to people that are attracted to me and not every one is like that, some people like the thrill of a chase.

If she is into chasing - you should try a different approach such as flirting with her first. You can find out her preference by asking her about her last two relationships. "How did you meet." "Did you asked him out" etc. You will be surprised how many people like to talk about themselves and don't view this as prying at all.
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Old 09-07-2009, 09:59 AM
 
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What about just inviting her out and seeing if there is chemistry? I would think after the 5th or 6th date that you both are getting to know each other....
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