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So as some of you know I separated from my bf of 4.5 years. I moved back down to Miami 8/26. It's very odd because it's almost like we never dated at all. I had to speak with him the day after I came back home and he was extremly rude to me. It was almost as if I never knew this person at all. I was completely shocked and appalled at the way he spoke to me and what he said to me. Communication is via text or email and on a very needed only basis...
I really thought I would be devastated by this whole thing but I'm completely not. I have realized now how much I really did in the relationship and am completely shocked that I actually did put up with all that and for so long. It's truly as if a huge weight and responsibility has been lifted off my shoulers and I'm free. It's nice again to be chased and desired..I guess I forgot what it was like and that it's nice to be pursued instead of being the constant pursuer especially in your own relationship!!
The person you leave is rarely the person you fell in love with. He is probably hurt and this is how he is handling it. Some people have to create a demon in their minds in order to get over someone. It's stupid and immature, but it is how they cope. It is also a sign of their true character; be glad it's over.
So as some of you know I separated from my bf of 4.5 years. I moved back down to Miami 8/26. It's very odd because it's almost like we never dated at all. I had to speak with him the day after I came back home and he was extremly rude to me. It was almost as if I never knew this person at all. I was completely shocked and appalled at the way he spoke to me and what he said to me. Communication is via text or email and on a very needed only basis...
I really thought I would be devastated by this whole thing but I'm completely not. I have realized now how much I really did in the relationship and am completely shocked that I actually did put up with all that and for so long. It's truly as if a huge weight and responsibility has been lifted off my shoulers and I'm free. It's nice again to be chased and desired..I guess I forgot what it was like and that it's nice to be pursued instead of being the constant pursuer especially in your own relationship!!
Thank God you weren't married.
I am and it's been hell here.
I packed everything I want into my trailer and am setting a date now. Life cannot be that bad for me anymore.
So as some of you know I separated from my bf of 4.5 years. I moved back down to Miami 8/26. It's very odd because it's almost like we never dated at all. I had to speak with him the day after I came back home and he was extremly rude to me. It was almost as if I never knew this person at all. I was completely shocked and appalled at the way he spoke to me and what he said to me. Communication is via text or email and on a very needed only basis...
I really thought I would be devastated by this whole thing but I'm completely not. I have realized now how much I really did in the relationship and am completely shocked that I actually did put up with all that and for so long. It's truly as if a huge weight and responsibility has been lifted off my shoulers and I'm free. It's nice again to be chased and desired..I guess I forgot what it was like and that it's nice to be pursued instead of being the constant pursuer especially in your own relationship!!
Sounds like you made the right choice for yourself - good for you
Oh, and his behavior is just a self-protective survival response - it's a commone reaction.
I am happy for you to realize that you deserve better.
I broke up with someone who was my best friend, I just could not deal with his drug use and anger management problems. After this break up, I wanted to stay his friend. He wanted nothing to do with me, talk to me, eat lunch, e-mail, anything. I don't even know where he lives now. It is like 5 years of a relationship meant nothing.
It makes me wary of other relationships now, after that.
The person you leave is rarely the person you fell in love with. He is probably hurt and this is how he is handling it. Some people have to create a demon in their minds in order to get over someone. It's stupid and immature, but it is how they cope. It is also a sign of their true character; be glad it's over.
Be happy, enjoy your new found freedom.
Or maybe this is the real person that they are. When someone is first in love, they are on their best behaviour. And the person that is in love with them, only sees their best traits and ignores their lesser ones. In the beginning of a romantic relationship, both parties tend to be wearing rose-coloured glasses. Then about 3- 5 years later, the realities start to surface. Maybe they even start taking each other's company for granted.
So as some of you know I separated from my bf of 4.5 years. I moved back down to Miami 8/26. It's very odd because it's almost like we never dated at all. I had to speak with him the day after I came back home and he was extremly rude to me. It was almost as if I never knew this person at all. I was completely shocked and appalled at the way he spoke to me and what he said to me. Communication is via text or email and on a very needed only basis...
I really thought I would be devastated by this whole thing but I'm completely not. I have realized now how much I really did in the relationship and am completely shocked that I actually did put up with all that and for so long. It's truly as if a huge weight and responsibility has been lifted off my shoulers and I'm free. It's nice again to be chased and desired..I guess I forgot what it was like and that it's nice to be pursued instead of being the constant pursuer especially in your own relationship!!
Well girly, we've talked off line, you know how I feel - you did the right thing. You are already feeling better and you can tell your spirit is up. So, good choice and in time it will just get better and better!
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