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Old 09-09-2009, 04:20 PM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
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I date within my own race because of the ethnic culture element. As much as as I like some hot anglo guys and some yummy black guys, I have decided that if I am going to live for years with someone, it might as well be someone of my own ethnic background. For me , its all about culture and I wont date someone of my own race that doesn't have the same culture as me. I am latina, and no matter how much I get along with some other races and cultures, its a different thing altogether to be that person's mate.

I have dated anglos, blacks, and latinos. I prefer the latino cause we have had so many things in common that its just easy to get along better. However I do find other races physically cute. Just not compatible.

And yes, I am from Texas.
I understand where you are coming from. And women are more desirous of a mate that shares the same family values and culture than men. Men seem to more the exploring type and being willing to have a mate that is different and exotic from what they know.

But it's just biology and animal nature for the female of the species to want a safe environment to raise a family in. But the males of the species have a desire to roam and spread their seed around. And being physically stronger than the female, the male has no worries or fears about taking a mate from a different culture or upbringing.
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Old 09-09-2009, 04:36 PM
 
Location: clear lake tx
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I am currently dating someone of my same race but i would never turn down a date because of their ethnicity...that's racist .... -____- and just simply ignorant...
if you connect with the person and it works out why would you even dare turn them away simply because they aren't the same skin color or have the same family background??
open yourself up and you could learn alot from dating that person.

ohh and im a girl.
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Old 09-09-2009, 04:44 PM
 
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I understand where you are coming from. And women are more desirous of a mate that shares the same family values and culture than men. Men seem to more the exploring type and being willing to have a mate that is different and exotic from what they know.

But it's just biology and animal nature for the female of the species to want a safe environment to raise a family in. But the males of the species have a desire to roam and spread their seed around. And being physically stronger than the female, the male has no worries or fears about taking a mate from a different culture or upbringing.

Yes, shared family values are important to me. Others might say its not right, but everyone has the right to choose a mate based on their preferences and what is important to them. Some people are offended that I choose latinos, but I would never be offended if someone told me that they prefer red-heads with big boobs (Antlered Chamataka), just because I'm not a red-head and don't have gigantic boobs. I would simply say, "to each their own". And I have dated other races and cultures, so its not like I am set in stone here with my preferences, but its still my preference. If I fall in love again with someone of a different culture, I won't stop myself, but I am just saying, if there was a choice, I would liike it to be a latino with my same cultural background.
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Old 09-09-2009, 04:52 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Yes, shared family values are important to me. Others might say its not right, but everyone has the right to choose a mate based on their preferences and what is important to them. Some people are offended that I choose latinos, but I would never be offended if someone told me that they prefer red-heads with big boobs (Antlered Chamataka), just because I'm not a red-head and don't have gigantic boobs. I would simply say, "to each their own". And I have dated other races and cultures, so its not like I am set in stone here with my preferences, but its still my preference. If I fall in love again with someone of a different culture, I won't stop myself, but I am just saying, if there was a choice, I would liike it to be a latino with my same cultural background.
Oh please, Temp

You sure know that it was the description of my girlfriend. It was never a preference. For the record, I've only had two women all my life. First one lasted seven years and the second, three. And in both cases, the circumstances of them getting wrecked were external.

Though boobs turn my engine on, I have enough personal ethics and self-control to keep my act together. I don't think my father's ghost would be happy to see me boob-play at will.
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Old 09-09-2009, 04:59 PM
 
Location: SXSW
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No I wasn't stumped. But its useless to describe culture to someone who just doesn't beleive it exists. If I describe my culture, everyone will say, well then you are not looking for someone from your "culture", you are looking for someone with your shared interests and such. But that is culture. Shared interests, ideas, family , food, arts, sports, music. I am not discriminating anybody by their race . Nor do I discriminate my friends by their race or culture. My best friend is anglo and my second best friend is black. But my mate preference is latino. Simply because of the common interests. Even though, I wouldn't date a latino who doesn't embrace their culture or has any idea what latino culture is.
Maybe the term you are looking for is consanguinity. I am guessing that is the term the OP is looking for as well.
Basically, the equation is:

Me + a spouse that looks like me = children that look like both our families.

Sometimes, people insist on consanguinity out of culture, other times out of racism. Surely if you found an Anglo and a black friend who share all of those interests with you, you could find an Anglo or black guy that could be a perfect mate to you as well. But that is within your freedoms to find someone who "matches" you. I'm not implying the racism part is applicable to you, by the way.

Let's not forget that Latino IS in fact an ethnic term, not a racial one, though people of different Latino nationalities look somewhat in common many times so it's used erroneously as a descriptor (I did too!).
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Old 09-09-2009, 06:15 PM
 
Location: miami, fla. enjoying the relative cool, for now ;)
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Most people to be in a relationship with someone with their own kind.

For example: Asians with Asians, Caucasian with Caucasians, etc.

Is there anyone here that have been in a interracial relationship and how did that turn out?
I would never date a person who was not of my own ethnicity if the reason for dating was long term relationship. any of co-habitant and sexual relationships are difficult enough to make work with people who understand ones mores and values, I can't begin to think how tough it might be to try to explain to someone the why of me and also learn the why of them. it's easier if the unsaid things can remain that way.

I was involved with a girl from mexico prior to getting married and it was irksome because of the cultural differences in spite of the fact I dug her physically
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Old 09-09-2009, 07:26 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Let's not forget that Latino IS in fact an ethnic term, not a racial one, though people of different Latino nationalities look somewhat in common many times so it's used erroneously as a descriptor (I did too!).
The first part of this statement is true. The second, not so much, not always.
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Old 09-09-2009, 07:36 PM
 
Location: Houston
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I would never date a person who was not of my own ethnicity if the reason for dating was long term relationship. any of co-habitant and sexual relationships are difficult enough to make work with people who understand ones mores and values, I can't begin to think how tough it might be to try to explain to someone the why of me and also learn the why of them. it's easier if the unsaid things can remain that way.

I was involved with a girl from mexico prior to getting married and it was irksome because of the cultural differences in spite of the fact I dug her physically

Geeez. What planet do you live on? Since when only people of the same "ethnicity" are able to understand each other? That does not mean you share the same values, thoughts etc.
Sorry, I do accept the way you date, but can't you come up with something better than that, a better reason?? A reason that makes sense?
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Old 09-09-2009, 09:51 PM
 
Location: lala land
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LizCab I think you pulled the curtain back a little too far. Too much light too quick hurts the eyes....
I like to shake things up a bit . These threads get a little redundant after a while .
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Old 09-09-2009, 09:56 PM
 
Location: lala land
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And Denny, I just have to take a minute to show you my appreciation . You've been a good debate buddy, I like the way your brain works .
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