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Old 09-07-2009, 06:54 PM
 
Location: Northern NH
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There must be more to the story. She was ok to take care of the kids, the house, etc. for 35 years and now she is boring and you never loved her...what a piece of trash Fess up....what do you think you should have waiting for you at home????
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Old 09-07-2009, 06:55 PM
 
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Have the heart to heart you spilled on this board with her. Perhaps there are things that excite her and you could do separate activities and come back together to discuss them. If not, and she just is how she is, then do what interests and excites you - even without her - as long as you maintain the respect of your marriage. You do not have to do everything together - and once you are happier - it will get better. Good luck and keep us updated.
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Old 09-07-2009, 06:56 PM
 
Location: NW Montana
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I don't think it is uncommon to be at this point. That is why I was telling you to be careful.
Have you found yourself drawn to someone else? Don't worry you can duck after your answer.
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Old 09-07-2009, 06:56 PM
 
Location: Glendale
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Aptor, wow...I don't think that's what the OP was saying at all...
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:00 PM
 
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I don't think it is uncommon to be at this point. That is why I was telling you to be careful.
Have you found yourself drawn to someone else? Don't worry you can duck after your answer.
Actually no.... I kinda wish there was.....
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:01 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Actually no.... I kinda wish there was.....
NO you don't - trust me - that's opening up a whole lot of opportunity for pain and hurt - for you and your wife.
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:04 PM
 
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NO you don't - trust me - that's opening up a whole lot of opportunity for pain and hurt - for you and your wife.
I know, That's why I never would....I would never hurt her...
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Some place very cold
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It must be hard having sex with the SAME PERSON for 35 years. I can't even imagine. Every day you wake up to that same face.

This is why I started that thread about the massage with the happy ending. Have you tried one of those? Might help.
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:05 PM
 
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Yikes. I say YOU must be happy. If you aren't happy, do whatever it takes to be happy. Life is too short to be miserable 24/7.
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Old 09-07-2009, 07:07 PM
 
Location: NW Montana
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Trust me, other women around you are picking up on your dissatisfaction, that is why you must guard yourself, a fling could only cause everything to fall apart.
Going back to the goals, can you think of one or two that are manageable, are you interested in sports, fishing, hunting? Do you do anything apart from her? Sometimes my hubs and I need separate activities then have fun getting together to talk about them later. If she is home all the time other than work then believe me there is always laundry, dishes ect to occupy her, maybe she is a little board also.
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