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Old 09-08-2009, 02:40 PM
 
Location: Some place very cold
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In the past, a smart woman would sometimes choose a mistress for her husband in order to keep him happy and feed his sexual appetite. Sometimes the wife would even present the mistress with gifts to make sure this mistress was satisfied with the arrangement. This gave the wife control over who her husband was sleeping with.

Yoko Ono did this for John Lennon. She picked out a mistress (May Pang) for him when they were going through marital problems.

Would you ever consider something like this? I think it's an interesting concept. It means you can pick someone whom your husband is not going to become romantically involved with and it allows you to keep tabs on what's going on, thereby, ensuring the marriage stays intact.

W.
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Old 09-08-2009, 02:41 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Woofie, you're bettering yourself every 24 hours

Your fan,
the fox
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Old 09-08-2009, 02:43 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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Sure; right after I picked out the dress to wear to my funeral because this would only happen over my dead body. (I love that phrase even though literally I know it doesn't make sense)

You can't fix inside problems outside.
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Old 09-08-2009, 02:52 PM
 
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Well isn't it better than your husband going out and having an affair with the risk that he might fall in LOVE with another woman?
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Old 09-08-2009, 02:53 PM
 
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If I wasn't interested in pleasing my SO (and expecting him to do the same in return) I don't think we should even be in a relationship.

I also don't think it would matter how much "control" you felt you had in picking out his "mistress". You could be watching them and it doesn't guarantee that nothing more would develop between them.

But more importantly I don't like to share
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Old 09-08-2009, 02:55 PM
 
Location: South FL
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In the past, a smart woman would sometimes choose a mistress for her husband in order to keep him happy and feed his sexual appetite. Sometimes the wife would even present the mistress with gifts to make sure this mistress was satisfied with the arrangement. This gave the wife control over who her husband was sleeping with.

Yoko Ono did this for John Lennon. She picked out a mistress (May Pang) for him when they were going through marital problems.

Would you ever consider something like this? I think it's an interesting concept. It means you can pick someone whom your husband is not going to become romantically involved with and it allows you to keep tabs on what's going on, thereby, ensuring the marriage stays intact.

W.
Woof, what is this mistress/open marriage/happy ending/cheating obsession you've got, girl? Every other thread has something to do with unsatisfied husband, him going on a side, or inviting some other woman into the marriage. Don't worry - your future husband will be fully satisfied with you, you seem to have a healthy sexual appetite, so I'm not sure why you are expressing such interests in open marriages of all sorts.
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Old 09-08-2009, 02:56 PM
 
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Well isn't it better than your husband going out and having an affair with the risk that he might fall in LOVE with another woman?
Seems reasonable to me.

With all these guys avoiding this committment, it would probably be good if those men who aren't to step up and do more than their share.
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Old 09-08-2009, 02:56 PM
 
Location: California
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Nope. I'd rather just be single.
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Old 09-08-2009, 02:56 PM
 
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Well isn't it better than your husband going out and having an affair with the risk that he might fall in LOVE with another woman?
What makes you so sure he won't fall in love with the mistress YOU have selected for him?
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Old 09-08-2009, 03:01 PM
 
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Default Doe it Work the Other Way?

So if my wife gets the better of me, so that I just can't take it anymore, can I hire some dude instead of being taken to the cleaners through a divorce?
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