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My wife met me thru a Personal Ad that I placed in a local paper. It was the third ad that I had placed in papers with pretty much no success, BUT
(to me) it was much better placing a Personal Ad than it was going to a nightclub to me a gal......I definitely got tired of that. Neither men or women act the right way when they have been drinking part (or most) of the night. I was as honest as I could be in my Personal Ad. Stated that I had NO body piercings (by choice) and had NO tattoos (again by choice) and loved being around/involved with horses and rodeo and was looking for a gal who liked that. Also stated my true height and weight and that I didn't smoke, but did use Skoal (dip...have since quit that). My (now) wife read my ad, really liked what she read and we met at a Denny's Restaurant. We both had Western clothes on (I was totally impressed with the way she looked). We have now been married for 7 great years. Yes, we have had our "spats", but always come out of them with a nice hug/kiss and "I'm sorry".
So, YES, YES, YES there are both good men and good women out there.
Why do people think single men are hanging out at Home Depot? It's the married men who are there buying stuff to fix up their homes!
And good luck approaching men in a store...they are probably married, and the wife is down the next aisle.
Oh, and for the ones advising to wear something sexy there...you really think some guy is going to just go up to a woman and start a conversation? "How 'bout that hammer!" Jeesh, c'mon....
Oh, and churches...churches are about families. Try being a divorced person in a church, and you quickly find out what they think of that.
Single groups in churches are about women. Lots of women. Don't complain now, or they will ask you why you can't have fun with other women as friends (as if that's WHY you even came there...)
Why do people think single men are hanging out at Home Depot? It's the married men who are there buying stuff to fix up their homes!
And good luck approaching men in a store...they are probably married, and the wife is down the next aisle.
Oh, and for the ones advising to wear something sexy there...you really think some guy is going to just go up to a woman and start a conversation? "How 'bout that hammer!" Jeesh, c'mon....
No, but she could go up to HIM and say, "how 'bout that hammer"!
I still say you might find a nice construction guy or something hanging out...although you might find a guy who's trolling for a girl who's trolling for a guy there, too! Maybe all the guys need to go into Home Depot and wait for the girls now?
I'm having a blast reading this. I had met my hubby thru friends and would see him here and there when I was with those friends over a 4 year span. Then one day it was like "OH, wow! When are we going to go out?" We did - and ended up married 6 months later. Sometimes the good guy is right under your nose!
Is a "Good man" just a man who will marry someone? I think nowadays, that's the definition according to some.
I don't see the point in trying to convince someone to do something they don't want to do. If a guy wanted to be married, he would be.
Marriage just isn't the big carrot hanging over my head. I might not have the house with the white picket fence in the suburbs, but I have my sanity of not being on the treadmill trying to get that stupid status symbol of marriage.
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Is a "Good man" just a man who will marry someone? I think nowadays, that's the definition according to some.
I don't see the point in trying to convince someone to do something they don't want to do. If a guy wanted to be married, he would be.
Marriage just isn't the big carrot hanging over my head. I might not have the house with the white picket fence in the suburbs, but I have my sanity of not being on the treadmill trying to get that stupid status symbol of marriage.
Ahhh you know, the stupid treadmill is not necessarily stupid for everyone and it's not necessarily a symbol of marriage and the carrot is not a sword.
I think the "editorial" comments in your posts are superfluous.
I consider myself to be extremely practical and more realistic than not most of the time but heck your posts sound so cranky and like you hate life.
Is a "Good man" just a man who will marry someone? I think nowadays, that's the definition according to some.
I don't see the point in trying to convince someone to do something they don't want to do. If a guy wanted to be married, he would be.
Marriage just isn't the big carrot hanging over my head. I might not have the house with the white picket fence in the suburbs, but I have my sanity of not being on the treadmill trying to get that stupid status symbol of marriage.
Disagree, disagree....true story:
Pharmacist wants to be married but is a total geek. Older, been dating for years, can't find the right girl (partially because he's a pharmacy geek). But a really nice, professional, responsible guy...owns his own home, has 3 cars, boat, lots of friends, financially secure. Can't help the geek part, he is what he is. Can't find right girl. Around nurses, clients, patients every day. No go. Decides to remain single and enjoy life. Gets set up on blind "date" with a woman by her sister.....and woman has been married before and also has decided life is good as a single....but they share some interests, not a lot, but at least enough to make it through dinner and maybe go to the movie or something occasionally. No big deal. She's also financially secure and running her own company.....but yeah, let's go do dinner, at least we both like Italian food. First date - at the end of the date he goes home and tells his brother "I'm going to marry her".....she calls her best friend and says, "you aren't going to believe this..." and 5 months later they are saying "I do", much to the bewilderment of everyone that knew either of them.
I know for a fact that's a true story - I'm living it. Marriage wasn't a carrot or anything either of us was striving for.....we wanted meatballs and pasta and ended up with love. It was a good man and a good woman who found each other quite by accident.
It hits you when you least expect it.
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Maybe all the guys need to go into Home Depot and wait for the girls now?
