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Old 09-09-2009, 12:11 PM
 
Location: East Valley, AZ
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You mean conceited ?
Yeah, yeah...

Wait, is the fact that I don't know how to spell it a sign I'm NOT conceited?? Jk
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Old 09-09-2009, 12:18 PM
 
Location: Tri-State Area
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There is a fine line between being conceided and confident. They way I choose to live my life is from a more humble approach. I know I have a lot to offer another person, but it's not up to me to point those things out. If you have to verbalize why you're so "great", I think that's leaning more towards the conceided side.

Confidence isn't a verbal act, but more in the way you carry yourself, how you treat others, your countenance, your eyes, etc. Confidence and humilty go hand-in-hand, IMO. If you think you're confident/humble, you'll never reach the point where you have to prove your abilities and/or strengths, others will be able to see them in you.
You hit it right on the head. +1
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Old 09-09-2009, 11:50 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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It sounds like he's trying to sell himself like a cover letter & resume would for a job interview,
stressing his best assets and trying to impress you. Not necessarily conceit.

If hes on a site with alot of other successful business men, he wants to stand out from the
rest as not only successful, but good looking.

He's screaming , pic me!! pic me!!
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Old 09-10-2009, 12:57 AM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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What are your thoughts? Is it too much, even if it is true?
I would say that the man is conceited. And it wouldn't surprise me if his self-imagine isn't blown up to more than he's actually "worth".

But I think I can give you a good distinction between 'confidence' and 'conceit': If he stumbles out of bed hurriedly from a fire and exits the door without caring who sees him looking dishevelled, that is confidence. If he stumbles out of bed hurriedly from a fire and can't exit the door without combing every hair into place, that is conceit. Or insecurity. Sometimes it's very hard to tell the difference.
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Old 09-10-2009, 05:37 AM
 
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Where do you find these guys? Oh that's right....

Well if you pick them from a place like that, I'm assuming theres a lot of conceited guys that roam through there so... its really a matter of how conceited a man you find there is, as opposed to "is he" conceited.
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Old 09-11-2009, 06:38 AM
 
Location: In my skin
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I would say that the man is conceited. And it wouldn't surprise me if his self-imagine isn't blown up to more than he's actually "worth".

But I think I can give you a good distinction between 'confidence' and 'conceit': If he stumbles out of bed hurriedly from a fire and exits the door without caring who sees him looking dishevelled, that is confidence. If he stumbles out of bed hurriedly from a fire and can't exit the door without combing every hair into place, that is conceit. Or insecurity. Sometimes it's very hard to tell the difference.
I've been thinking I hope he can live up to all he says.


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Where do you find these guys? Oh that's right....

Well if you pick them from a place like that, I'm assuming theres a lot of conceited guys that roam through there so... its really a matter of how conceited a man you find there is, as opposed to "is he" conceited.
You're right. You are assuming.
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Old 09-11-2009, 06:53 AM
 
Location: Right Here
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Johnny Bravo is real...is thought he was just a cartoon?
^^This!
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Old 09-11-2009, 07:06 AM
 
Location: lala land
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I don't mean to burst your bubble but this reminds me of the story in the paper recently about the man from the reality show. Confident, well accomplished, a smooth talker, attractive, etc, etc. Yea ... he turned out to be a total nut job!

I am the exact opposite of you. The more someone sells themselves, the more I am weary. I would be asking, if this man is so great why does he feel the need to sell himself in such an artificial manner? Its like reading an add in the newspaper for a used car. Some ads make them out to seem like THEE best car in the world. But then it gets you thinking, if this car is soooo great, why the heck are they selling it??!! And of coure the answer is, the person just wants a new car, or doesn't need it anymore bla bla bla. But then you get it and several months down the line you realize its a piece of crap on wheels!

The best people I've met - the most giving, compassionate, creative, independent, confident - were also some of the most humble. It is important not to mistake confidence for narcissism.
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Old 09-11-2009, 07:13 AM
 
Location: lala land
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I busted out laughing when I read: "I am not perfect, but I am still extraordinary by today's standards.."

That's so obnoxious. I wouldn't hang out with anyone who said those sorts of things.

I envision him as a ticking time-bomb, one Sunday morning you wake up and he's in the fetal position on your bathroom floor, wearing your makeup and clothes, crying, repeating to himself that he's a pretty flower. Or maybe I just have an overactive imagination.
Lol! Not overactive at all, I imagined something similar myself . Except in my imagination he constantly refers to himself in the third person, till one day she walks in on him talking to himself in the mirror, arguing with his reflection that he IS a MAN and does not need to wear the blue tie instead of the red one to prove it. But of course, his reflection begs to differ . He choses the blue tie in the end.
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Old 09-11-2009, 07:28 AM
 
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I went through some email I exchanged with a particular gent, due to something he said yesterday that he repeated several times, in various ways, before. The comment this time was "I am not perfect, but I am still extraordinary by today's standards.". His other statements were:

"I have yet to find a woman who can measure up to my expectations."

"I'm a good looking man, it's not a matter of desperation, so I can wait for our schedules to come together."

"Not many people can afford to be choosey. I am fortunate in that regard."

There were others, I just wanted to give a few examples.

He is intelligent, educated, well spoken, mannerly, assertive and, from what I have gathered, has much to be proud of in the way of his accomplishments. I respect anyone who knows their worth and what they have to offer. I don't think what he is saying is unreasonable if you step back and look at it as being plain fact. It makes me smile; how can I not be happy for him? I'm just not sure I'd verbalize it so much. But he has a much bolder, matter-of-fact personality than I do.

What are your thoughts? Is it too much, even if it is true?
What a tool. It may all be true but there is such a thing as modesty.

Plus, sounds like the guy is always going to consider himself better than his partner and will be looking to replace her. I also doubt he would put much effort into a relationship considering he's so *great* she should be happy to breathe the same air as him.

Next!

P.S. Is the guy tall?
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