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where you live? women make the 1st move here all the time. unfortunately its always on the guy who is not interested in them.
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Its usually status jumping, which is why they are turned down. The seed of the emperor is worth the risk. She my contract a disease, get bent into contortions at the will of the fetus, weaken her immune system, hemorrhage to death, and spend enormous calories lactating but it is the seed of a high status male.
It sucks having to be the one to always make the move and not only hope u dont get rejected but dont run into one of these c words who are unkind and act like youre a fool for even approaching them and trying to talk to them..
This is one of life's little double standards that you're just going to have to get used to. It's funny. We live in a time when women are encouraged to show initiative when it comes to their career or pursuing other opportunities, but when it comes to their personal life, they're told that it's the man's job to make the first move. Sure, you may meet women out there who are confident enough to approach you. But don't hold your breath.
Not sure i believe in that statement. Maybe it's the types of girls I hung out with. Myself, I've never had a problem asking a guy out since I was always accused to have a lot of money. When the reality is the way I dressed and the way I always walked with a sense of purpose.
Pursuing a career and dealing with people on a personal issue is not the same.
Men also,s sometimes, get put off by a girl asking them out or having her pay for dinner. As you said, "Sure they're told that it's a man's job to make the first move. Sure, you may meet women out there who are confident enough to approach you. But don't hold your breath." Throwing my BF up against the door the minute he walked in and having my way with him...I never got complaints.
The key being confident enoug to ask - but are they confident enough to to say yes?
Maybe the girls you are wishing to make the first move on you are out of your league?
It's comical because I hear guys complaining about girls never taking any initiative and then I hear girls complaining that guys freak out and go into hibernation whenever they show blatant interest.
I think this whole "who-makes-the-first-move" issue can be simplified quite easy if both individuals are level headed, smart individuals with good self-esteem. If you're interested in someone, then you show interest BUT take it slow, don't show all your cards at once. I'm not advocating manipulation or mind games but a little intrigue is good in the beginning. The fact is, you probably DON'T know the other person as well as you think you do at the start of a budding relationship so there's no need to inform him/her that you want to get married, have four kids, and live in a RV with Bernie, the armadillo.
I've only dated women that expressed an interest in dating me. They made the "first move". Out of the women that have made the first move, I've only turned one down.
I had a policy against dating people I worked with. I've seen that turn out poorly for other people, and didn't want to go there. I'm not saying I found her unattractive or anything.
We were sitting outside and both were on our lunches, and she grabbed my notebook off the table and scribbled something in it. When I got home, I wanted to see what she had written. She had written her number and said, "Call me."
That's what I mean by people making the "first move"--things like that.
This is one of life's little double standards that you're just going to have to get used to. It's funny. We live in a time when women are encouraged to show initiative when it comes to their career or pursuing other opportunities, but when it comes to their personal life, they're told that it's the man's job to make the first move. Sure, you may meet women out there who are confident enough to approach you. But don't hold your breath.
And some men don't have the guts to make the first move..I would turn gray by this time. And when a woman is aggressive like me , he seems to hide away. The men "say" they like a women who takes charge. I do not think they really do.
And some men don't have the guts to make the first move..I would turn gray by this time. And when a woman is aggressive like me , he seems to hide away. The men "say" they like a women who takes charge. I do not think they really do.
lol, nope, they don't.
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