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Old 09-12-2009, 08:43 AM
 
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Well of course it does. Your life today is the sum of all the decisions you made in your past.
Words out of my mouth. How could anyone even ask such a question.
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Old 09-12-2009, 09:00 AM
 
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I used to be a doormat, patient and tolerant of some of the most unacceptable. Look at me now, I'm a strong, beautiful, self-assured, mannerly, gold-digging, narcissist hoochie. I can't believe I waited this long.

I'm frrrree of de chackles dat bine me, carajo!
And you're having more fun, too, I bet.
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Old 09-12-2009, 09:17 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Words out of my mouth. How could anyone even ask such a question.
Heh! This past week will definitely affect certain future decisions in my dating life. I am going to be like Barbara 'Wa-Wa' Walters on the first meet/date with my notepad. Ye-up.
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Old 09-12-2009, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Has your past changed your future? Definetly.
We live life and hopefully learn from our mistakes the second time around.
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Old 09-12-2009, 11:50 AM
 
Location: NoVa
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I am not meaning things like summing up all the decisions.

Like in my original post.... I was very intimidated by my husband and whatever he said went.

Now with my SO, it is the exact opposite. But I seem to still let my ex get over on me.

I do not know how else to explain it.

It is like I will never ler another man do what he did, and then when I am dealing with him, I revert back to that other person.

I don't know. whatever.
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Old 09-12-2009, 12:02 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I guess what I am really getting at is this...

Has something that has happened in your past, or the life you lived made you change to a totally different extreme?
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Old 09-12-2009, 12:24 PM
 
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I guess what I am really getting at is this...

Has something that has happened in your past, or the life you lived made you change to a totally different extreme?
I live in fear of becoming my mother. She was wonderful, sweet, kind. Because of my abusive father, I don't remember her ever having a peaceful day. My regret is I did not kill him, I think I could have gotten away with it. They are both gone now.

Anyone "staying together" for the kids. Think about this post.
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Old 09-12-2009, 04:43 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I am not meaning things like summing up all the decisions.

Like in my original post.... I was very intimidated by my husband and whatever he said went.

Now with my SO, it is the exact opposite. But I seem to still let my ex get over on me.

I do not know how else to explain it.

It is like I will never ler another man do what he did, and then when I am dealing with him, I revert back to that other person.

I don't know. whatever.
Probably because this is your past. He is still part of it. You have moved on from there, but have not from him.
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Old 09-12-2009, 05:09 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I think you may have something there.
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Old 09-13-2009, 06:04 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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And you're having more fun, too, I bet.
Yes, I am.

It's amazing, it seems like it happened almost overnight, like I woke up one morning and realized that I can do and be anything I want. I have to forgive myself for my mistakes, first and foremost, and I don't have to live in shame or by anyone else's standards. I create my own, as unconventional as they may be. I've learned that too many people are clueless beyond their own bubble. I don't trust them to guide me and they're even less qualified to judge me.
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