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Old 09-12-2009, 01:21 PM
 
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It's always interesting to hear how people's preferences have changed over time. Some people become stricter about certain things. Others become more flexible. And still others do a complete 180. What preferences or requirements have you had for a partner that changed over time, how did they change and was it gradual or sudden?
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Old 09-12-2009, 01:34 PM
 
Location: East Valley, AZ
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Growing up, it was pounded into my head to only marry and date someone of the same religion I am. Now that I'm older and don't rely on others to form my opinions for me, I find that isn't the route I want to go. While I would like someone with the same beliefs as myself (it'll make raising children so much easier), I don't strictly limit myself to only one religion (mine). They are NOT the only good guys left out there, and from what I've seen, guys outside of my religion are more respectful, less shallow, and aren't in such a hurry to marry off.
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Old 09-12-2009, 01:41 PM
 
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"complete 180"

Sounds like the question goes beyond religion, or hair color
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Old 09-12-2009, 03:23 PM
 
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"complete 180"

Sounds like the question goes beyond religion, or hair color
It's less common, but it does happen. For example, maybe you're in your 20s and tell yourself you'll never accept someone with kids. Then 10 years later, you're divorced and have kids. And because you have kids, maybe you refuse to be with someone who isn't a parent as well. But more likely, people just become more flexible or more rigid about their existing preferences.
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Old 09-12-2009, 04:34 PM
 
Location: Sunny Florida
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I think as we grow and mature our tastes also mature. The hot guy who is the life of the party might be appealing when you're young and naive, but when you need a life partner who will always be there for you there are much better choices.
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Old 09-12-2009, 04:39 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I can honestly say that mine changed when I got married! I was happy, content, and no reason to stray back to my old ways.
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Old 09-12-2009, 04:55 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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I can honestly say that mine changed when I got married! I was happy, content, and no reason to stray back to my old ways.
You can find your old ways with a GPS navigator
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Old 09-12-2009, 04:58 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I've changed my preferences too.

I used to like regular fries now I'm on the curly fries.
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Old 09-12-2009, 05:04 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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I've changed my preferences too.

I used to like regular fries now I'm on the curly fries.
Sounds like you went crooked from regular
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Old 09-12-2009, 05:08 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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You can find your old ways with a GPS navigator
Not if its updated!
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