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Old 09-14-2009, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Tampa baby!!
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If he is so willing to be deceitful in a supposed "great" marriage, what's to say she wouldn't go and get an abortion without telling him?
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Old 09-14-2009, 06:44 PM
 
Location: New York, NY
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How exactly would one go about "sabotaging" someone else's birth control? I mean, seriously?
It depends on the birth control method. Everyone does not use the same method and everyone can't use the same methods. You can rig condoms to fail by poking holes in them, for instance.

I think this is a terrible idea. There is no natural mothering or fathering instinct. This woman will probably resent the hijacking of her body for two years and the child forever! He's setting himself and his child up for a world of hurt if he goes through with it.

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I would leave her and her birth control. What a be-otch.
A be-otch is a woman who would have the child for his approval and then passively aggressively lash out at it until adulthood.
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Old 09-14-2009, 06:45 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I think he should not. He would be married to someone who does not want kids, so what kind of mother would that make?

Maybe have a talk with her and see what happens, let her know that their lives have gone in different directions than planned?

I have no clue on this one.

We just had kids... I do believe we both wanted them however I do not believe it was the right time.
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Old 09-14-2009, 06:45 PM
 
Location: New York, NY
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If he is so willing to be deceitful in a supposed "great" marriage, what's to say she wouldn't go and get an abortion without telling him?
Yeah, I didn't get that part. If he has no respect for her body and her choice then how much love and happiness do they actually share?
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Old 09-14-2009, 06:48 PM
 
Location: Sunny Florida
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Totally unacceptable on so many levels.
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Old 09-14-2009, 06:49 PM
 
Location: Greater Hartford Area
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I would leave her and her birth control. What a be-otch.
I might not leave that fast without discussing what changed her mind. Maybe the man is controlling and she is tired of it? Look how desperate he is. There has to be more to this story.
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Old 09-14-2009, 06:57 PM
 
Location: Rockland County New York
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I would leave her and her birth control. What a be-otch.
I'm with you. If a woman did not want to have children she should have mentioned the fact before getting married.
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Old 09-14-2009, 06:57 PM
 
Location: Tampa baby!!
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Yeah, I didn't get that part. If he has no respect for her body and her choice then how much love and happiness do they actually share?
I honestly don't get how people can be so stupid. Do they not think past the next 5 minutes to what the consequences of their actions actually could be?
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Old 09-14-2009, 07:53 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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If he is so willing to be deceitful in a supposed "great" marriage, what's to say she wouldn't go and get an abortion without telling him?
That's exactly what I was thinking. And I hope that should this incredibly deceitful man is successful in getting her pregnant, that's exactly what she does, expect I hope he knows about it.

Maybe then he'll realize that the best thing to do is find someone who has the same desires he does.

What a jerk! Selfish people like this should not be parents.
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Old 09-14-2009, 08:00 PM
 
Location: Michaux State Forest
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I'm with you. If a woman did not want to have children she should have mentioned the fact before getting married.
He said they did discuss it & they both wanted kids but she feels because of money issues that she doesn't want kids, at least right now. He was just so admant that she get pregnant NOW and give him a son and worry about money later. I agree this man is desperate and pathetic and I hope his wife finds out. I just couldn't believe the people who called in supporting his decision to sabotage her birth control. They seemed to believe that once she had the kid that she would be grateful he took control of the situation. Very sad and scary to hear people encourage this deceptive behavior.
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