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Old 09-14-2009, 05:35 PM
 
Location: Michaux State Forest
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I was listening in the car this morn. to a local radio station's A.M. show. when a guy called the station for advice. He said he's been married for 5 yrs and that he deeply loved his wife and they had a great relationship except that they couldn't agree on the subject of children. Apparently, they both went into the marriage wanting kids but she has recently changed her mind and no longer wants kids. The husband is very upset, having expressed a deep desire to have kids but the wife is adamant against having kids. The husband told the radio station that he is going to sabotage his wife's birth control for "the greater good". I found this disturbing on many levels and very hurtful and decietful but was shocked when several people called in to incourage him to go through with the sabotage. What do you all think of this situation? Do you think he should sabotage his wife's birth control? He said her expected love for the child in question would overcome any resentment about having an unwanted pregnancy but I'm not so sure. What are your thoughts and opinions? Take care,.......lil red
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Old 09-14-2009, 05:39 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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That is a huge violation and grounds for divorce, like yesterday. I would be fit to be tied. Being married does not give one control over their spouse's body. It would be better for him to find someone who does share in his desire to have children.
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Old 09-14-2009, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Marion, IA
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I would leave her and her birth control. What a be-otch.
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Old 09-14-2009, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Great Plains
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Sabotage the birth control would be a bad idea. It could lead to bigger issues than the difference in opinion on children.
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Old 09-14-2009, 05:43 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma
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This is wrong on so many levels. I don't know what's sadder: The fact that he plans on actually doing this or the fact that people called in and encouraged him to do so. I'm definitely with PTC on this; he's better off finding someone who wants a child rather than trying to force his wife to have one.
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Old 09-14-2009, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Bon Temps
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That is grounds for divorce, or a killin'.


Maybe somebody she knew was listening and will give her a heads up on this!
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Old 09-14-2009, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Marion, IN
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How exactly would one go about "sabotaging" someone else's birth control? I mean, seriously?
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Old 09-14-2009, 05:55 PM
 
Location: East Valley, AZ
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Does he think by FORCING his wife to become pregnant she'll suddenly want kids and be a great mother? His plan is to probably wait until the kid pops out and file for divorce and full custody. This situation has so many things ethically wrong with it...
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Old 09-14-2009, 05:57 PM
 
Location: Bon Temps
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How exactly would one go about "sabotaging" someone else's birth control? I mean, seriously?
That's true, it's easier said than done... but to be with somebody who thinks that way...
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Old 09-14-2009, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Michaux State Forest
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He didn't mention what kind of birth control she is using but I have heard of this type of thing before. In fact, one of the callers said her now ex-husband did the same thing to her and actually told her when she was 5 mo. pregnant, what he had done. The husband actually said he was doing his wife a favor because once the kid is born she will fall in love with him/her and be thrilled to be a parent. She said she felt that they were not financially secure enough to have kids and that's why she didn't want to get pregnant. He felt this was an unacceptable reason to put off having a family. This guy seemed extremely selfish to me. He kept saying he "needed a son".
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