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Old 02-18-2010, 05:37 AM
 
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A friend of mine was married to a gay man for 20 years. He finally told her he was gay on their 20th anniversary She said their sex life had always been great. He's now living with his boyfriend, and she's remarried.
Then he's bisexual.

PS: A lot of men who are interested in other men are great in bed also with women because they're often more sensitive and "feeling".
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Old 02-18-2010, 05:43 AM
 
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A friend of mine was married to a gay man for 20 years. He finally told her he was gay on their 20th anniversary She said their sex life had always been great

Then, sorry, but that man is not really gay but bisexual. An actual gay can't "perform" with a women, inasmuch as an hetero can't "perform" with people of the same gender. But it's so fashionable in our days and time to be labeled Gay, isn't it!
I agree that that man is bisexual, but I don't agree that a gay can't perform with a woman, or a straight guy with another guy.
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Old 02-18-2010, 06:52 AM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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Maybe the guy popped a Viagra in order to have sex. I'm sure it was a horrible experience for the man.
I think people have the wrong idea about Viagra. It doesn't make you DESIRE sex. Viagra is for those who have the desire but not the ability to make it happen. That's why they call it erectile dysfunction. If the desire isn't there Viagra might work but why bother?
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Old 02-18-2010, 08:08 AM
 
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This is exactly what I don't get! If you're gay, how are you even performing in the first place? It just doesn't make sense to me.
You don't have to get everything.
There are many married couples out there in which the husband has a same gender attraction.
They still have great sex, and sometimes the wives know about the fact that her husband is attracted to other guys.
I may not understand them. But who am I to judge that their love is not real?
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Old 02-18-2010, 10:19 AM
 
Location: south coast near Vancouver
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hmmm...well, we know a lot of gay people (naturally) and if you're truly gay and not Bi, kissing a girl feels like kissing a sister or Mom or Gramma.
Bi men love women, and also love men - it really is that simple. If a Bi man (we know several) decides to settle with a woman, he doesn't become straight, he's simply made a choice and a commiment. Same as when a Bi man settles with a guy - he's not suddenly gay, he's still Bi but has made a choice and a commitment.

The only gay men we know that tried women and technically succeeded tell us they had to fantasize intensely about men the entire time in order to perform. Good gosh now I'm getting all embarrassed! *blushes furiously*

-Doug of thosemeninlove
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Old 02-18-2010, 08:43 PM
 
Location: middle of everywhere
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If you are truly gay. You will not get a boner when you see a woman's naked body. A gay man's ding dong will shrivel up or stay flaccid. I kid you not.
Nope. It isn't that simple for all gay men. Sexuality isn't black or white.
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:28 PM
 
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I am dating a man that is almost finalized in his divorce ( she was addicted to drugs) he has been sober for over 20 years! My concern is he often makes comments like " I'm done with woman I'm going gay!" a few weekends ago instead of stopping by my house he took a male friend shopping for clothes at Nordstroms then out to dinner!!! 2 straight guys normally wouldn't do that! Then we went to ogunquit Maine & he made comments it's a gay town . He pointed up above a restaurant & said " see a gay piano bar...they would be all over me if I went up there...gays love me...you should see me in P town!!!" isn't that weird!!!! When we have sex it's 1 time and he's done! He only kisses with mouth closed...never uses his tounge...so as I'm typing this I'm thinking!!! Wow he's gay!!! What's your thoughts!!!
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:30 PM
 
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I think he must be a mormon
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:32 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I always found this interesting. Didn't you guys test drive the car before you bought it?
Sometimes the guys don't know they're gay, they don't sort through all their feelings, societal programming, parental expectations, etc. until after they're married awhile. Others just go along to get along. Until they can't anymore.

This is a complex and painful issue for the people involved, deserving of more than just a flippant OP-question.
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:33 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I am dating a man that is almost finalized in his divorce ( she was addicted to drugs) he has been sober for over 20 years! My concern is he often makes comments like " I'm done with woman I'm going gay!" a few weekends ago instead of stopping by my house he took a male friend shopping for clothes at Nordstroms then out to dinner!!! 2 straight guys normally wouldn't do that! Then we went to ogunquit Maine & he made comments it's a gay town . He pointed up above a restaurant & said " see a gay piano bar...they would be all over me if I went up there...gays love me...you should see me in P town!!!" isn't that weird!!!! When we have sex it's 1 time and he's done! He only kisses with mouth closed...never uses his tounge...so as I'm typing this I'm thinking!!! Wow he's gay!!! What's your thoughts!!!
Since he's been dropping so many hints, ask him.
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