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Old 09-18-2009, 04:06 PM
 
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I always thought that once you have sex with a guy, he will disappear on you. So I always make them wait even though I want to do things earlier. How important is regular sex to a man, my new understanding is most of them hope you'll do it again (and again and again.) Sorry to sound clueless , but is this the main reason guys even have girlfriends?

 
Old 09-18-2009, 04:16 PM
 
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I always thought that once you have sex with a guy, he will disappear on you. So I always make them wait even though I want to do things earlier. How important is regular sex to a man, my new understanding is most of them hope you'll do it again (and again and again.) Sorry to sound clueless , but is this the main reason guys even have girlfriends?
Hi msboom,

Men want sex to varying degree. Some what it a lot while others a bit less. Its a problem when its less than they want.
Making a man wait generally filters out the short termer who just wants a fix. I voluntarily waited until marriage after my early 20s and now like it frequently. Making them wait is the best shot at a long term mate.
 
Old 09-18-2009, 04:16 PM
 
Location: West Chester, Ohio
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I always thought that once you have sex with a guy, he will disappear on you.

You are kidding, right? If you have sex just to have sex, yes he may move on. If you have sex because you are in love, that tends to "bind" things.


How important is regular sex to a man, my new understanding is most of them hope you'll do it again (and again and again.) Sorry to sound clueless , but is this the main reason guys even have girlfriends?
Regular sex is very important to a man, we were created to be attracted to women. This is how the race was intended to survive. Without sex, there would be no more people. Surely, no one has to tell you this.
 
Old 09-18-2009, 04:23 PM
 
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Regular sex is very important to a man, we were created to be attracted to women. This is how the race was intended to survive. Without sex, there would be no more people. Surely, no one has to tell you this.
yes, I know where babies come from. Im just wondering what is a man's main motivation (in most cases) for committing - is it for regular sex? Is regular sex that important to men?
 
Old 09-18-2009, 04:25 PM
 
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Each person have their sex drives (libido); but the value of sex varies from each person.

A man; however is built differently from women--mainly from the presence of a hormone called testosterone. Testosterone exist in both male and female, but the affects are different.

Almost every male will have certain testosterone level which triggers erection. And ever since the concept of sex becomes part of a males awareness (thinking), the desire for sex can trigger many times in a single day within a few seconds. This just how a man is built; but the sex drives still vary due to testosterone levels of each individual. That's the biological part of it.

The psychological and emotional part of sex is a learned behavior by each individual from his background (parents, religion, society, peers, and experiences). How an individual man value sex determines how important sex is in his life, and his relationship.
 
Old 09-18-2009, 04:28 PM
 
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Okay, first define 'regular' - it's like trying to define 'normal' What is regular to one may not be to another. Does regular have a list of positions? Number of times in a day week or year? Who decides what is 'regular'? Does it include farm animals of any kind, leather and whips (ooo you sassy kitty, you) or is it simply missionary? Does it include oral more than two people on a weekly basis? How often 3 x a month or 3 times a day?
 
Old 09-18-2009, 04:33 PM
 
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Okay, first define 'regular' - it's like trying to define 'normal' What is regular to one may not be to another. Does regular have a list of positions? Number of times in a day week or year? Who decides what is 'regular'? Does it include farm animals of any kind, leather and whips (ooo you sassy kitty, you) or is it simply missionary? Does it include oral more than two people on a weekly basis? How often 3 x a month or 3 times a day?
I just mean where he's not starting over, having to date someone new and then wondering if he will get any. Simply, oh, I have a girlfriend so I can expect to have sex on a regular basis, weather it be kinky sex or just missionary or somewhere in between and not necessarily every day (or 3 times a day) just on a consistant basis that works for the couple.
 
Old 09-18-2009, 04:50 PM
 
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Well, I'm not a man, but I can tell you that it depends on a man...Very sexual men for example, will not be up for these games. It also depends on the age, when a man is older like in his 30s, he might even question and get insulted how come after like 4-5 dates she still hasn't put out. At this age, these type of prolongings and games are not necessary, it's not college anymore. Okay - this is when the relationship is just starting.

Once you already had sex with a man, I think it's safe to say he will expect it on a regular basis. All the time, every day and every night. I also don't see a reason to withhold it. If the heat is there, the heat is there. Why hold off?
If holding off is your way to see if this man is just in it for sex, then you will see it regardless. Decent guy who is into you and really wants to build something with you will not hold "lots of sex" against you. A player will dissappear. In this case, you can say: Oh well, I enjoyed it to the fullest and had fun...moving on...
I mean, my understanding that you want it too, right? Life is too short, you will know if he is a good one without withholding sex.
At the end of the day, there are other ways to make a man to be continuously interested in you. Intellectually. You can stimulate man's mind and that will keep his interest. A lot of the successful sex comes from intellectual connection anyway.
 
Old 09-18-2009, 05:33 PM
 
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How important is breathing to a woman? That's how important sex is to "most" men.
 
Old 09-18-2009, 05:35 PM
 
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Men crave variety. The sooner you learn to accept that the better off you will be.

You will become more fond of your dog, and might even start liking women, but you will be smarter
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