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Old 09-19-2009, 10:19 AM
 
Location: California
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Or maybe someone likes to suck up a lot of attention and provokes it on purpose then doesn't know what the hell to do.

Edit: just saw the above post. I am talking to you as woman who's main source of friends were with groups consisting mainly of guys and no one had this kind of behavior. There is sarcastic flirting, but that takes a lot of time and maturity to pull off. No individual went on an attention attack with the others. So, you are either having an attention attack and are high maintenance or it's the lack of maturity to your given situation.
I am a very sarcastic person maybe that has a lot to do with it...OOPS!
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:22 AM
 
Location: California
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Yes...be nice to guy = I want you

ANd hoodies are not good either. IT really depends on the guy. But bending over in tank tops..I mean really. I think you are old enough to know what a "boob shirt" is
I know how to dress and what appropriate and not, what I was wearing wasn't anything to get excited about lol. See this whole nice to guy =I want you is what sucks...so what does a girl do? We cant even be b*tches bc some guys think its hot and mroe of a game then. I dont want to play games...this is just ridiculous!!! AHHH
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Have you ever watched "The Dog Whisperer"? If so, you know that thing Cesar does with his hand when the dog starts acting up - he just taps the dog in the neck and makes a "CCHHHHH" sound.

...maybe try that next time the boys get frisky...if it works for dogs, it usually works for guys.
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Sunny Florida
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Young lady, you are learning firsthand the power of sex appeal. Signals which men interpret as invitations. Wield it well, and with oh so much caution.
I don't think you are doing anything wrong. You're 21 years old, you're cute, and personable - that's quite a desirable package. A lot of guys really believe that if you are nice to them they have a chance and if they think they have a chance they're going to go for it. You're just going to have to be mindful of this and learn to forcefully let them know you're not interested in a hook up.
Best wishes.
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:27 AM
 
Location: California
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Have you ever watched "The Dog Whisperer"? If so, you know that thing Cesar does with his hand when the dog starts acting up - he just taps the dog in the neck and makes a "CCHHHHH" sound.

...maybe try that next time the boys get frisky...if it works for dogs, it usually works for guys.

GREAT POINT!!! Have not seen the movie, but certainly get the point hahaha! I'll try that next time. My luck the guy will have a sick fetish for that kind of stuff haha
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:30 AM
 
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I am a very sarcastic person maybe that has a lot to do with it...OOPS!

what out with that when you're meeting new people. i'm ridiculously sarcastic and i've learned that sometimes when i meet new people, their first impression of me is that i'm assh0le.
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:31 AM
 
Location: California
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UPDATE!! I just got a text from Guy #3 saying he was sorry for the way he acted, he was drunk, and he crossed the line. He said he had to at least put a good effort in and he gets that I'm not interested and it wont be weird when I see him next. Wow...
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:33 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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GREAT POINT!!! Have not seen the movie, but certainly get the point hahaha! I'll try that next time. My luck the guy will have a sick fetish for that kind of stuff haha
You have a point - reminds me of when I used to play "Naughty Lassie" with my girlfr...um...

...never mind.

Anyway, "Dog Whisperer" is actually on cable - I get him on NatGeo, but I think he might be on some other channels. I started watching it a lot because this dog trainer (calls himself a dog rehabilitator) trains the humans as much as the dogs, and I think he's right on the button. A lot of the stuff he talks about is what I teach in my martial art classes.
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:33 AM
 
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nice!!! so the older guy "gets it"!
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Old 09-19-2009, 10:35 AM
 
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what out with that when you're meeting new people. i'm ridiculously sarcastic and i've learned that sometimes when i meet new people, their first impression of me is that i'm assh0le.
My initial remark that she reduced to sarcastic was 'sacrastic flirting' which takes time and maturity to pull off with people you already know.
Not just being sarcastic and she and the people of her age don't seem to have the time invested and are young regarding maturity so sarcastic flirty is not what is happening here. It takes time to develop this.
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