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I constantly see threads of people talking about how such and such a city is a good/bad place to date, especially in the city forums. I'm sure there is some truth to it, but its really made me wonder: has anyone's love life actually gotten better once they moved to a place they think is better for dating and vice versa? Or is it true that a place is only as good as you make it?
I haven't lived in that many places, especially not long enough to have a point of reference. so I'm curious what others have to say on this. I grew up in Tucson, AZ (and lived in LA and east Phoenix valley for a short time though) and I think its always easier to meet people in a place you grew up in where you have accumulated long term friends over the years.
I think the "home team" advantage is a very real and very strong advantage, to be sure. But I also think the psychological mind-set brought about by a location can be very powerful. For instance, Florida, especially Key West, was always one of my "power" areas - whether because I was tanned and toned, or maybe it was the sunsets, or the beaches, or...
But I know I felt great about myself at the time. It was like I had arrived in Nirvana a few years early, and I had the Midas touch in whatever I did.
Now, California, OTOH, although it had some beautiful places (I lived near Venice Beach), was never a great place for me, social-wise. For whatever reason - maybe because I'm NY born-and-bred - the mindset of the people I met there just didn't jibe with mine. As a result, my batting average went into the dumpster.
Now, stick me in an ancient stone castle somewhere in Britain and I guarantee you I'll be Dr. Love.
haha! great post! I lived in LA for a year and not that I had much time to go out and meet people anyways, but it seemed that people weren't very nice and all the guys were too stuck on themselves. towards my final months there, I started to meet nicer people though so I think I probably just needed to be patient..however I still wouldn't want to live in LA for lots of other reasons.
funny thing though, in my hometown, most of the guys I've ever gone out with were not Tucson natives..the natives don't seem to be my thing I guess. Maybe its cuz I want a way out of this place if I were to marry any of those guys, lol, who knows. although I'm moving soon anyways, on my own terms.
Does it count that I'm still in the city I was born in and he's still in the state he was born in and we've managed to meet AND "date" even though we're in different countries?
To be honest I don't think it matters where you are, it matters what's going on in your head.
You know mir, as far as I can see your love life can develop in the most extraordinary of circumstances. If you ask people how they came to be together you'll hear some really interesting stories that don't always have anything to do with people moving anywhere, or doing anything particularly unusual. That's why I reckon you should always just do what makes you happy. Sooner or later you'll cross paths with someone who wants to share the journey with you.
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