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Old 09-20-2009, 05:47 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Undress for Success:
Dressing to Achieve Your Relationship Goals

Whenever you pass by a mirror, which for most of you is probably several times a day, you get an instant dose of image reinforcement. So what image are you currently reinforcing? Would you dress any differently if you had already scored that Cosmo model? Would you sport a different hairstyle? Would you shower a bit more often? Wear more leather and chains?

As for my own dressing style, in my earlier years I enjoyed the man-sl*t look, taking my cue from “American Gigolo” and gravitating toward Armani and Yves Saint Laurent. No shirt under 3 figures would touch my sculpted bod. I'd demand my date lay her jacket down over a puddle so I wouldn't soil my hand-crafted Italian loafers. Those lucky enough to be close to me would be enveloped in the alluring scent of Calvin Klein parfum.

Years later, I noted that when I visualized myself in the future (having failed at certain goals in the present) I was dressed a lot differently. With some experimentation I eventually found a style of clothing that looked professional and was also comfortable - Saran Wrap. (I got the institutional-sized rolls at a restaurant-supply house - much cheaper when purchased in bulk, and I knew I'd always have something to wear at a moment's notice).



So I gradually donated my old pieces of designer-label clothing to charity and replaced my wardrobe with something that fit the new identity I was growing into. (Consequently, there's a Salvation Army store with quite a stock of silk jackets and skinny ties.) After that, the fashion statement I was making to the world was clear to see.

Lately, in line with my desire to become a full-time monk (as opposed to those dilettantes who only play at it), I've once again employed this technique to see myself in the near future, and am currently taking steps to replace my wardrobe once again. I'm laying in a large supply of orange robes and straw sandals - nothing too fancy, but functional to a fare-thee-well. By the way, if anyone has need of a large supply of Saran Wrap, let me know - if you'll pay for shipping, it's yours free.

I learned this visualization technique from an ex-CIA field agent named “Black Widow”, who stressed to me the importance of taking pride in your appearance, and I can say with certainty that it makes quite a noticeable difference. So make sure the clothes you wear each day are consistent with your new image.
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Old 09-20-2009, 10:00 AM
 
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Undress for Success:
Dressing to Achieve Your Relationship Goals

Whenever you pass by a mirror, which for most of you is probably several times a day, you get an instant dose of image reinforcement. So what image are you currently reinforcing? Would you dress any differently if you had already scored that Cosmo model? Would you sport a different hairstyle? Would you shower a bit more often? Wear more leather and chains?

[IMG]http://www.city-data.com/forum/ As for my own dressing style, in my earlier years I enjoyed the man-sl*t look, taking my cue from “American Gigolo” and gravitating toward Armani and Yves Saint Laurent. No shirt under 3 figures would touch my sculpted bod. I'd demand my date lay her jacket down over a puddle so I wouldn't soil my hand-crafted Italian loafers. Those lucky enough to be close to me would be enveloped in the alluring scent of Calvin Klein parfum.

Years later, I noted that when I visualized myself in the future (having failed at certain goals in the present) I was dressed a lot differently. With some experimentation I eventually found a style of clothing that looked professional and was also comfortable - Saran Wrap. (I got the institutional-sized rolls at a restaurant-supply house - much cheaper when purchased in bulk, and I knew I'd always have something to wear at a moment's notice).



So I gradually donated my old pieces of designer-label clothing to charity and replaced my wardrobe with something that fit the new identity I was growing into. (Consequently, there's a Salvation Army store with quite a stock of silk jackets and skinny ties.) After that, the fashion statement I was making to the world was clear to see.

Lately, in line with my desire to become a full-time monk (as opposed to those dilettantes who only play at it), I've once again employed this technique to see myself in the near future, and am currently taking steps to replace my wardrobe once again. I'm laying in a large supply of orange robes and straw sandals - nothing too fancy, but functional to a fare-thee-well. By the way, if anyone has need of a large supply of Saran Wrap, let me know - if you'll pay for shipping, it's yours free.

I learned this visualization technique from an ex-CIA field agent named “Black Widow”, who stressed to me the importance of taking pride in your appearance, and I can say with certainty that it makes quite a noticeable difference. So make sure the clothes you wear each day are consistent with your new image.
Greeting Sifuphil,

Since my father passed away I had to somehow make my way through life as a young man with no mentor. The question to "Father how shall I dress myself" went unanswered. I had heard my father was very good with the ladies so I began to look through his clothes. My mother had since left on a longer journey to find herself so I was on my own. I was shocked to see different styles he used to impress the ladies or to achieve power in the presence of men. I only wish I had found out sooner my mother had begun to put some of her own things in the closet and it would have spared me the rejection and gender confusion.
After being in complete despair, I decided to be reborn into the world fashion and I joined a colony of nudists. I no longer had any artificial identity. I finally woke up with a sense of well being no longer burdened with trying to figure out what my father did with the embroidered handbag. It was then however I began to have another difficulty. I could no longer related to young women because of a state of constant and embarrassing arousal. I became an outcast and began to congregate with the wrinkly old men and women of the colony.
It was then that I found a small piece of tin foil on the beach. I knew once again I was ready to craft my image since I had clear and fond memories of Italian submarine sandwishes. It was only the begining but it did cause me to run through a gauntlet of several institutions having manditory dress codes.
If anyone wishes to add tin foil to their order, please advise.
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Old 09-20-2009, 10:56 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Greeting Sifuphil,

Since my father passed away I had to somehow make my way through life as a young man with no mentor. The question to "Father how shall I dress myself" went unanswered. I had heard my father was very good with the ladies so I began to look through his clothes. My mother had since left on a longer journey to find herself so I was on my own. I was shocked to see different styles he used to impress the ladies or to achieve power in the presence of men. I only wish I had found out sooner my mother had begun to put some of her own things in the closet and it would have spared me the rejection and gender confusion.
After being in complete despair, I decided to be reborn into the world fashion and I joined a colony of nudists. I no longer had any artificial identity. I finally woke up with a sense of well being no longer burdened with trying to figure out what my father did with the embroidered handbag. It was then however I began to have another difficulty. I could no longer related to young women because of a state of constant and embarrassing arousal. I became an outcast and began to congregate with the wrinkly old men and women of the colony.
It was then that I found a small piece of tin foil on the beach. I knew once again I was ready to craft my image since I had clear and fond memories of Italian submarine sandwishes. It was only the begining but it did cause me to run through a gauntlet of several institutions having manditory dress codes.
If anyone wishes to add tin foil to their order, please advise.


Oh, man, I actually have tears in my eyes! Thank you!

BTW - isn't this the chick who used to follow you around and collect all your hand-me-downs?

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Old 09-20-2009, 11:24 AM
 
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Its starting to cool of around here and such advice will only lead to goose bumps.

Come back next April.
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Old 09-20-2009, 12:04 PM
 
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Oh, man, I actually have tears in my eyes! Thank you!

BTW - isn't this the chick who used to follow you around and collect all your hand-me-downs?
Absolutely yes! I could never meet her expectations. She had another one just like it but when I told her it was enough for both of them she left me.
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