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Old 09-20-2009, 03:26 PM
 
Location: Texas
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An acquaintance of mine (woman in her late 40s) takes her mother on nearly every vacation with her and her husband. The woman isn't frail and doesn't live with them, so it's not some sort of health or safety issue. She just wants her mother to come along and she says her husband doesn't mind.

I think this is weird and I've told her so. I couldn't even imagine my mum going on vacation with me and my husband, if I was married. She simply wouldn't allow it. In fact, my folks paid for a vacation for me and my former SO so we could get away and have bonding time and they watched our son!

Why on Earth would a woman take her mother with them on vacation? And why would a husband put up with that?
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:28 PM
 
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Why on Earth would a woman take her mother with them on vacation? And why would a husband put up with that?
Some people get along well with their mothers, like friends.
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:30 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Some people get along well with their mothers, like friends.
Um, I got along GREAT with my mum -- that isn't the point. Aren't vacations important for couples to get away and enjoy each other? The mother lives in the same town as her daughter so it's not as if they don't see each other much.
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:32 PM
 
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It would be weird for me, but if the three of them like it, no worries.
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:33 PM
 
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I wouldn't take my mom on every vacation (not that we can afford vacations at this juncture any way), but I'd like for us to go on a cruise together (husband's included). My mom and grandma are very close; best friends.
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Bon Temps
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I love my mother very much, and we have a great relationship... but taking her along on vacation, that is just a bit strange.
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:37 PM
 
Location: Texas
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It would be weird for me, but if the three of them like it, no worries.
I guess. I reacted with something like "you're kidding!" when she said her mother was going with them again. (She's gone along on every one of their past several vacations.) After I reacted, I felt a little badly and now I'm wondering if this is a common thing in families. It surely wasn't in mine. Heh, if I invited my mum along, she'd think something was wrong with our relationship and I wanted her to run interference!
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:41 PM
 
Location: Missouri
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Every family is different. Maybe all three get along fabulously well and enjoy having a large block of time to just have fun with each other. As long as the married couple feels they get enough "us" time on a regular basis, why not? I'd say it's somewhat unusual, but not weird or unhealthy.
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:42 PM
 
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Nothing wrong with having a close family member along on a vacation from time to time. Especially while they are still healthy enough to get around and enjoy life. Perhaps the "Honeymoon" aspect of their life is long over, and vacations are merely a chance for a change of scenery, not quality time together or something romantic. I sometimes wonder why some couples even bother to go on vacations together. They're bored with one another's company and by the looks of their vacation photos nothing changed...they have that look on their face like "We've been stuck together 24/7 since we got off the plane, if he/she says or does _______ one more time I'm going to snap!" While it's nice to get away together once in a while, once you've been togehter for a couple of decades the thrill probably comes more from sightseeing than being in one another's company.

Believe it or not, some people out there actually like their inlaws.
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Old 09-20-2009, 03:48 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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I might do it once in a while, but not on every vacation. Doesn't sound like he's "putting up" with anything if he doesn't mind. Some people make great in-laws, some don't.
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