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Did you ever consider your children might not WANT any of those homes?
In that case, the children can always sell the homes, split the money and use that as seed money to buy houses that they want to live in. The beauty of owning a home is that one builds equity that can be used for later on.
Renting is like leasing a car, it makes no sense at all. Once your lease period is up, you have absolutely nothing to show for it, but the landlord and the dealership still made their profit.
And you haven't had to fix anything on the car, and you can get something else that runs well. I don't own a car. One of the reasons for that is that they seem to develop major mechanical problems when I do. I've blown 3 engines, and 4 transmissions. It is unwise for me to do anything but--at the most--rent a car. It's even better for me to walk a few miles back and forth.
While I agree that it's generally expected that a person in his 30s be more mature and responsible than someone in their 20s, the danger is in inferring too much meaning into certain things. Some people are far too quick to fill in the blanks with their worst thoughts. Oh the person is over 30 and doesn't own a home? He must be lousy with money. Oh the person already has a child? She must be looking for a daddy for her kid. Some people will ask why the person doesn't own a home yet or why the single mom came to be a single mom. But others won't even bother to get the full story. Instead, they'll assume the worst and move on, only they might've missed out on someone really great for them.
I agree, Denny. I will go back to what I said before (hmm, maybe it wasn't in this thread):
1. We assess a lot about a person in a face-to-face meeting. How he speaks, what he's wearing, how he carries himself, how he treats other people. We infer a lot from that information, right or wrong. We may be wrong--perhaps the dirty, rough-looking guy is a millionaire who helped an old lady change a tire on the way over--but we all rely on these impressions of people. If we meet someone online, we have to find new ways to evaluate the person. Some of these methods are clumsy.
2. "Do you own your own home?" does not necessarily mean "You'd better own your own home."
Of course it helps that I didn't want to have kids.... and I also feel that the US is overpopulated in the sense that we aren't creating good jobs fast enough to keep up with our growing population. So all of you making babies for decades is what is causing our high housing prices and current recession. Stop having kids!
So, you are saying since I got married and had a child I raised housing prices? Are you serious? I hope you were being facetious! Houses are at an all time low right now. Thats not even logical thinking. Come on...you can conceive a better reason than that!
While I agree that it's generally expected that a person in his 30s be more mature and responsible than someone in their 20s, the danger is in inferring too much meaning into certain things. Some people are far too quick to fill in the blanks with their worst thoughts. Oh the person is over 30 and doesn't own a home? He must be lousy with money. Oh the person already has a child? She must be looking for a daddy for her kid. Some people will ask why the person doesn't own a home yet or why the single mom came to be a single mom. But others won't even bother to get the full story. Instead, they'll assume the worst and move on, only they might've missed out on someone really great for them.
This is so very true. If you have ever been a victim of negative assumptions, it is not a good feeling. Such thinking is also based on stereotypes and a black/white rulebook that does not always bear true. We are such a cynical society. If someone merely looks at you or asks a few narrow questions and thinks they know your story, that is quite arrogant. It seems we could at least listen to each other and then make our judgements.
So, you are saying since I got married and had a child I raised housing prices? Are you serious? I hope you were being facetious! Houses are at an all time low right now. Thats not even logical thinking. Come on...you can conceive a better reason than that!
Soooooo you're the one that caused all this and stopped me from getting a house a few years ago. I'm gonna tell on ya! Mooooooom!!!
I agree, Denny. I will go back to what I said before (hmm, maybe it wasn't in this thread):
1. We assess a lot about a person in a face-to-face meeting. How he speaks, what he's wearing, how he carries himself, how he treats other people. We infer a lot from that information, right or wrong. We may be wrong--perhaps the dirty, rough-looking guy is a millionaire who helped an old lady change a tire on the way over--but we all rely on these impressions of people. If we meet someone online, we have to find new ways to evaluate the person. Some of these methods are clumsy.
2. "Do you own your own home?" does not necessarily mean "You'd better own your own home."
And we all know the OP of this thread is never ever prone to hyperbole or jumps to conclusions.
The thing is, why is a house viewed as something better than an apartment? I'd rather live in an apartment downtown that a house in suburbia.
Because a lot of people equate it with being financially stable and responsible with money. Not true.
I can buy a house. I can pay a mortage. But ooooohhh there's a BASS boat on QVC for a really good price. I'll buy it. Ohhhh I need a trailer to tow it. Gotta buy the trailer. Uh oh, my car won't tow that much weight. Gotta get a bigger car or truck. Ok now we're set. Oh but wait, QVC is having a special on a beer cooler that doubles as a coffee table with a picture of your favorite SI swimsuit model. Oh I gotta get me one of those and I'll get one for Bill and one for Jimbo and one for Jed and one for Dad. Dang, I'm out of beer, better stock up on more, lots more for my boat party that I'm going to have when I get it. Hey Dodge brought back the Charger, the one my Dad always talked about. I gotta have one of those too.
And on, and on and on.
Doesn't matter if you own or rent, if you do the above, then you're not financially stable nor are you responsible with money.
The thing is, why is a house viewed as something better than an apartment? I'd rather live in an apartment downtown that a house in suburbia.
. I'm working on that. A lot of people are fleeing suburbia and their Mcmansions full of stuff in favor of smaller digs in downtown areas. Even if they have to rent. It's a quality of life issue and it's about what you value and how you want to spend your time.
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. I'm working on that. A lot of people are fleeing suburbia and their Mcmansions full of stuff in favor of smaller digs in downtown areas. Even if they have to rent. It's a quality of life issue and it's about what you value and how you want to spend your time.
