Why do i need a girl to make me happy? (dating, wife)

[LEVOW]

I recently seperated from my wife. We had alot of issues, alot! I came to the realization that our prioritys will always differ. We tried to work it out 3 times and NOTHING!!! This last time we been apart 5 months already. In these 5 months, ive met about 5 different girls, and i find that when im with them, im happy, but by myself im miserable! People have always said that i cant be alone, and ive come to the realization, that i cant! I hate being alone, and as much as a "poison:" my ex wife is to me, i find myself missing her and calling her when im lonely. I dont want to continue this viscious cycle! I have my 3 kids and i enjoy spending time w them, but at night i hate going to bed alone! I want to find a way to be alone but be happy and comfortable! I dont want to rush into another relationship just because im alone. I want to have time 4 myself and when the right person comes along, then ill take it from there. Ive always considered myself a relationship person, i dont like being single, even though i dont have trouble hooking up, its just not me. Alot of time i can be juggling 2 or 3 girls and its not because im a "player" its because i always want to have a backup, in case, one backfires! I know this is really selfish of me, i admit it, what can i do?

[Rafius]

You seem like a normal bloke to me! Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em. Just don't settle down with someone to avoid being lonely.

[North Beach Person]

Why? BECAUSE YOU LIKE WOMEN!

Women, you can't live with'em and they can't pee standing up.

[MAtheBanker]

Everyone needs some sort of attachment to something in their life, yours is just women. I understand. Mine is people in general. I have to have a friendship attachment of some kind, any kind.

[floridadreamer]

Seek therapy. I am only partly kidding. Myself I'm finding it's hard to be without some sort of interaction. Not to do with sex, but just people to talk to and relate to over life. I'm enjoying it actually, more than any meaningless physical thing I could have with just any one.

[WestPhillyDude75]

Originally Posted by Rafius

You seem like a normal bloke to me! Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em. Just don't settle down with someone to avoid being lonely.

It's actually-Can't live with em, The End

[Pikantari]

I know how you feel. I have a hard time even trying to go to bed when I am alone.... I feel for you.

[Sunnydee]

I think it's really important to be able to be alone and not lonely i.e. comfortable with yourself. If you can't do this you'll be jumping into relationships that aren't good for you simply to have companionship.

[PassTheChocolate]

We all want companionship in one form or another, but the inability to be alone isn't really good. It's common, but it isn't good.

If you're dating several people because you don't want to commit to anyone at this time, that's no biggie. You're not a good choice for a relationship if it's just to avoid being alone. I

'm not saying this to be mean, but you really should figure out why you're so incomplete without having someone in your life and do not commit to anyone until you are complete with yourself. Your relationships will be exhausting for you and anyone you choose to be with.

I looked this up and saw some answers that made a lot of sense. They're just everyday people, no psychologizing but they know what they're talking about:

What do you think of people who can't be alone & must be in a relationship to be 'happy?'

[SD4020]

Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy

It's actually-Can't live with em, The End

For someone who can't live with them you sure try to be with them.

It is normal to have in interaction. I like the interaction, and companionship. However I learn not to rely on someone else for my happiness. That is my responsibility.