A question for Smokers (dating, girl, friends, conversation)
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This is a question for people who live in areas that have smoking bans. I am not a smoker but it doesn't bother me if a girl does.
The Story:I was out at a bar and talked to a girl for about 10 minutes b4 she said she needed a smoke. Now ussually I will just follow and bum a cig to keep the convo going but in this particular incident I was talking to her and I admitted I didn't smoke b4 i realized she did so I did not think it was right to follow her. Well when she came back she ran into some friends and left the bar with them. Now the result was obviously less than ideal but in principle was I right or should I have just followed her outside to keep the conversation going??
No. That was her way of getting out of talking to you. Not saying anything is wrong with you, but that shows she was not interested in conversing with you further. If she were, she would have, asked you to join her outside, or gone outside and came back and then sat down with you, or she would have waited until she was ready to leave.
Something tells me this had nothing to do with smoking. She probabky knew those other people from before and she just decided to go with them. It happens.
If you were out on a date with her then you would have been a complete gentleman to follow her outside. You probably would have known that she smoked and it would be perfectly natural for you to accompany her outside and, as you said you've done before, "bum a cig to keep the convo going." You didn't know her, it was simply a bar chat and you had no obligation to follow her outside.
As has been said, she obviously had no interest in your company (nothing against you, it happens!) but, by the same token, she was rude to just say she was going out for a smoke. Better she could have said, "It's been nice talking to you but I have to go now. See you around."
But I'm an old broad who was brought up with manners!
Obviously in this particular situation she was not interested, but for future reference did I still do the right thing?
No. If you are dating a smoker, offer to go out with her.
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