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Old 10-01-2009, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Falls Church, VA
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This is the way it works. We all know women will only marry a millionaire. Since old ladies eventually find one and were widowed long ago, they have all the money. That means a cabana boy needs to get the cash from old ladies either directly or indirectly by a church collection and a priest who also like cabana boys. Take that money and give it to the materialistic young babes. Once you get a little older but fail to make 6 figures then its the peep shows for you. Live off your cabana boy good memories, not the bad ones with old ladies and the priest. Try to block those ones out.
LOL!!!
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:15 PM
 
Location: Mountains of Oregon
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Some women still believe in free love, left over from the hippie movement.

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Old 10-01-2009, 02:20 PM
 
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I know, I know. This sounds soooo stereotypical, but I'm pretty sure I have it pegged now. Most women I've met seem to have their brains wired to think that a man is not worthy unless he has significant purchasing power.
I'm a 23 year old male, just moved to Denver after college. Given the state of the economy, I'm not rollin' in a Beemer or sportin' $10k Rolexes. I don't dress in Armani and I don't eat out a lot. Yet, it seems that everytime I meet a girl, it's the same story. First, they put on a facade and act all genuine and unmaterialistic. They say things that make you think that they're down to earth and that they just want a man to treat them well. After a couple weeks, the truth starts to trickle out. They talk about how they want to find a man that can buy them a BMW, buy them a house, and take them across the world.

Before I get the "you need to meet different women" shpeel, let me tell you I've met them in bars, churches, classrooms, book stores, etc. Everywhere you can imagine. And it all boils down to one thing...finding a man who will be able to shower them with material goodies.

Am I way off base here?
Sorry. Sounds like sour grapes to me.
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Sarcasm, Valee.

Of course we are not all after money.
I think Memphis has very good points.

Hey, my bf is unemployed now
So is my ntbx
and both my sons
I love em anyway, except for the ex.
"ntbx"?? (your next boyfriend??, LOL)
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:21 PM
 
Location: SXSW
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mcb, what do the women you are going out with look like? I can tell you right now that my hottest and most conventionally attractive friends (Im female, former sorority chick at that) always want a guy who makes money and has nice stuff. Why can they do that? Easy! Because men will oblige them.
Dont know if my advice counts for anything since I'm not in your position, but I would
a) try to find women who are more down to earth pretty and less flashy
b) find women who are professionals and have their own money.
c) avoid women who show status seeking behavior eg must have the right purse, right shoes, only wants to be seen with certain types of people, etc.

Ive seen really attractive women blow off guys who were awesome people all around for the most silliest things. If you can score attractive PLUS down to earth AND not gold digging, then you should marry her on the spot!
Good luck to you.
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Mountains of Oregon
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"ntbx"?? (your next boyfriend??, LOL)
not the boyfriend x

even i kin read that...
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:29 PM
 
Location: USA
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EXACTLY! Like I was saying, many of us are in "survival mode" these days.

Yep! Surely so. It's totally expected. The complaints are up among my male friends in the past one year about women focusing more on the money aspect, as opposed to say 3 years ago. Same for men I run across and my female friends who are financially sound. The current state of the world's economy most definitely needs to be taken into consideration - and I think many forget this tidbit. Dating sites are reporting an increase in female membership - and independent escorts (both male and female) are on the rise. I have a friend whose degreed girlfriend has not been able to find a job for 9 months and out of desperation, she went to a local strip club to apply for a job - turns out, they have a 6+ month waiting list, an over-abundance of applicants.

The economy is not getting any better and it will not turn around for quite a while. So, for those that want to complain that women are "gold diggers" - watch out - the finger is also turned on the men just the same right now. It's getting a little boorish seeing threads pointing the finger at a specific gender. Wake the hell up.
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:32 PM
 
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mcb, what do the women you are going out with look like? I can tell you right now that my hottest and most conventionally attractive friends (Im female, former sorority chick at that) always want a guy who makes money and has nice stuff. Why can they do that? Easy! Because men will oblige them.
Dont know if my advice counts for anything since I'm not in your position, but I would
a) try to find women who are more down to earth pretty and less flashy
b) find women who are professionals and have their own money.
c) avoid women who show status seeking behavior eg must have the right purse, right shoes, only wants to be seen with certain types of people, etc.

Ive seen really attractive women blow off guys who were awesome people all around for the most silliest things. If you can score attractive PLUS down to earth AND not gold digging, then you should marry her on the spot!
Good luck to you.
Hi blueseas123,

The competition for women in their 20s has men after them anywhere from their 20s to their 50s. Even in their 20s men out number women which starts at roughly 106 boys to 100 girls at birth. Given we are also a fat nation, a slim woman in her 20s that is attractive, will have offers all the time. It tends to level off in their 30s and then woman start to play the weaker hand in their 40s since even in the 40 age group there are fewer men and some of them are after women in their 20s and 30s.
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:36 PM
 
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Hate to break into this little fantasy with a dose of reality here. . . there are just as many men, as women, especially in this declining economy that do attempt to bunker down with some of us women that have our gig together and possess our own toys and financial stability.
What fantasy?

I didn't see anyone claim that men are incapable of 'gold digging'.

Up until you showed up, this was a discussion about a particular type of woman. No need to get all indignant.
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Old 10-01-2009, 02:36 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co. TN
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"ntbx"?? (your next boyfriend??, LOL)
Well it was stbx, soon to be ex, after 1 1/2 years since he filed and no relief in site. He is now the never to be ex (ntbx).
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