Women Prefer Taken Guys (kids, meaning, different, people)

[Sunnnee]

Exactly

[Yukimura]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

I hate to tell you this but studies/polls can be skewed to show whatever you want to them to show.

What would FuturePundit.com have to gain from doing that?

[Chesapeake Man]

Originally Posted by picklejuice

Just ask Angelina Jolie

Or Kia Tequila.

[8palmtrees]

Okay here is my two cents in this logic. I had a crush on this guy last year and he flirted back with me some. I had no idea that he was married. I was so flattered because this guy was just about everything that I wanted in a man, tall, quiet, smart, lean, and had nice eyes. Now when I found out that he was married I was like NO WAY and moved on.
Now guys that resemble this guy that I crushed on last year who are single did not pay any attention to me really. The only conclusion was that married and taken guys may feel that they can be more "flirtatious" because if the girl that they are interested in is NOT interested in them back they do not feel the rejection nearly as harsh as a single guy would. This is my take of it. Plus I am guessing that the single guy is MUCH more pickier because they have not found their woman yet.
Hope this answers your question

[endersshadow]

Originally Posted by thebobs

You're not alone on that. Its been my experience that when a group of friends go out to eat, a waitress will be more chatty and smiling with the guys who are there with their SO's while those who are there by themselves only get a "what will you have".

I've been in the restaurant business. Women thrive at the chance when it's just guys because then they can flirt and get a nice tip (or be flirted with and still get that nice tip). This is coming from the mouths of co-workers I've had. If a girlfriend is there, waitresses tend to be more friendly than overly friendly. This is coming from my personal experience as a customer.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by Black Jack22

Guys who are surrounded by platonic female friends also receive more attention from the ladies.

This can be a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it sends the signal to other women that the guy can be trusted. On the other hand, it also says the guy is safe to keep in the "just friends" territory and there's little risk of him wanting more from you.

Originally Posted by Sunnnee

"People show you who they are the first time, so you should believe them" Maya Angelou.

I've heard this quote before and think it's rather naive. People don't always show you who they are the first time. Too often, they show you what they think you want to see and it's only later that you discover who they really are.

In their last moments, people show you who they really are. - The Joker

Originally Posted by 8palmtrees

The only conclusion was that married and taken guys may feel that they can be more "flirtatious" because if the girl that they are interested in is NOT interested in them back they do not feel the rejection nearly as harsh as a single guy would.

Excellent point. No guy, no matter how confident he is, likes to be rejected. But if he's already with someone, then it doesn't sting as much if someone else rejects him.

[revelated]

The study is only stating what guys already know.

If a female is secure in themselves they will openly admit that they are more comfortable conversing and patronizing with a guy who is married/taken than a guy who is single. The reason is simple: If they only want a male friend, they then don't feel obligated to develop a relationship.

That said, a lot of females are vultures. They fly around these involved guys, get attracted to their personality, then wait patiently for either (A) the guy's relationship to tank or (B) the guy to get to a point of weakness where they can swoop in. Not all females do that, but there are a lot that do. Why not choose a single guy? Because then the female is not in control of the situation; the guy might get feelings for her before she's ready, or the female might feel like she's isolating herself to the one guy. The female generally wants to control when she will or won't get involved with someone.

At the end of the day, most females want male friends so they have options when THEY are ready to get in a relationship. Doesn't matter the marital status. They just want to have the men around them so they can feel empowered to make a decision. By picking and choosing the men themselves they think that they're excluding guys that don't seem to meet their criteria anyway, thus they don't have to worry about rejecting anyone.

[WestCobb]

There are just too many variables to each situation and incident to generalize too much. Maybe one thing that's going on this though .. where men have a tendancy to look for free and easy sex, perhaps women have a tendancy to look for a free and easy ego boost via flirting. A married guy is an attractive option for some "harmless" flirting to many women. It won't go anywhere too dangerous or emotionally exhausting because they are just playing around.

In a woman's mind the ideal situation is one in which she flirts with a married guy just enough to prove to herself that he wants her and would probably go for her if the circumstances were different. Problems arise, however, when for the guy the ideal situation is that the woman is in to him just enough to have sex with him once or twice and then forget about it.

[Sunnnee]

[quote=DennyCrane;11028968]This can be a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it sends the signal to other women that the guy can be trusted. On the other hand, it also says the guy is safe to keep in the "just friends" territory and there's little risk of him wanting more from you.



I've heard this quote before and think it's rather naive. People don't always show you who they are the first time. Too often, they show you what they think you want to see and it's only later that you discover who they really are.

In their last moments, people show you who they really are. - The Joker

People show me what they are all about just by example. Actions speak louder then words. Naive?....that makes no sense.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by Yukimura

What would FuturePundit.com have to gain from doing that?

I just meant in general, not specially that website.